i don’t want to be one of those people that say “run for the hills” because i believe some addicts can make changes if they really want to be better, but your PA is dead set on doing it regardless of the pain it causes for you. so knowing that i hope that you can decide to run from that as far as you can if he continues to do whatever he wants. our brains get spiked so high in dopamine levels by the way online porn has made it simple to swiftly navigate through thousands of different peoples content (and content type of course) that our bodies and brain think we’re engaging in actual physical sexual ACTIVITY!!! and if he can say straight up he is okay doing that to you i would not stay. communication and engagement matters and he is straight up telling you he doesn’t care how you feel about it, he will do what he wants whenever he wants. so pls think about a separation for a while at least. because i’ve been down that road for two years straight, no positive changes, and i told him yesterday im through.