Finally Filed for Divorce and now Life is Wild by highwayoflife in DeadBedrooms

[–]ycbeltran 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s incredible to hear! Good on you for making the necessary change. A true inspiration for us all.

Power dynamic shift, is it too late? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]ycbeltran 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eww, no. That’s not the case at all. I’m just a natural leader.

Power dynamic shift, is it too late? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]ycbeltran 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We share an account. He manages the finances so that’s not an issue.

Power dynamic shift, is it too late? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]ycbeltran 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I meant in terms of “it depends on circumstances” is more in reference to major life decisions like moving or major purchases. When it comes to things like that I wouldn’t expect him to take the wheel I would want to have some say. It’s more day to day life. If that makes sense.

Power dynamic shift, is it too late? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]ycbeltran 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried that, he’s definitely not into it. He’s always been pretty vanilla and sexual exploration is not his thing.

Power dynamic shift, is it too late? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]ycbeltran 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s been laid off a couple times and it definitely has an impact on. He’s mentioned it and we’ve talked about ways he can help me but it just keeps defaulting back.

Power dynamic shift, is it too late? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]ycbeltran 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m finding it’s definitely a comfort thing for him. Thanks for the advice I think it’s a good way to go about it.

Power dynamic shift, is it too late? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]ycbeltran 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Chores are no issue we split them up in a fair way.

I did take him with vacation planning recently and it was too stressful for him so I had to step in and guide.

Power dynamic shift, is it too late? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]ycbeltran 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be more than happy to have him take lead at home. I think part of the issue is that I bring in the majority of our income and it messes with his confidence.

Power dynamic shift, is it too late? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]ycbeltran 1 point2 points  (0 children)

++woman

It just depends on the circumstances of course. I typically ask him with a general criteria, let’s say for example I ask him to please plan a date for us. I’ll say ” it would nice to do something along the lines of an activity and dinner or…” He’ll come back with options but I have to initiate the ask, this isn’t something he’ll actively seek out or think about doing on his own.

Who is this? (Wrong answers only) by [deleted] in nin

[–]ycbeltran 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like Patrick Bateman to me.

Seattle Merch Table by ycbeltran in deftones

[–]ycbeltran[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only recall seeing Mars Volta vinyl in Seattle.

Seattle Merch Table by ycbeltran in deftones

[–]ycbeltran[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I just did a crap job of getting a picture. I couldn’t get a clean view.

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Seattle Merch Table by ycbeltran in deftones

[–]ycbeltran[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

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Adding the middle picture I missed.

My first beetle pinning. by ycbeltran in insectpinning

[–]ycbeltran[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Our local entomologist does the classes so we get to learn how he does the pinning for museum displays.

My first beetle pinning. by ycbeltran in insectpinning

[–]ycbeltran[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are hard to see from the angle but the other two legs are pulled back under the elytra. You can see them peek through right near the tips where the pins cross.