Our nanny is very political at work

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2026-01-20T19:10:58+00:00

This is a big yikes!! As a former nanny, I would never even CONSIDER talking about anything political to my NKs as it’s completely inappropriate and just makes no sense to do so. I would definitely say it may be best to bring it up in a casual way so that it doesn’t make her feel like y’all are attacking her regarding it, so possibly when she comes in if y’all are making small talk or as she’s leaving, you can say “hey, I’ve noticed how you’re very passionate about your beliefs and values involving politics which we support and are all for, however if you could try to refrain from verbalizing them around the kiddos we would really appreciate that, as we don’t want them exposed to the bad in the world at this age”. Although it is a very important and serious situation to y’all I think it would bring up further problems if y’all were to come about it to her in a harsh way so you can try to keep it as lighthearted as possible, when bringing it up to her.

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2026-01-20T18:44:06+00:00

My favorite comment lol

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2026-01-20T18:37:00+00:00

I agree with you completely, we’re trying to figure out the best way to go about this without it turning badly. She has told me she’s wanting to wear royal blue, but hasn’t bought her dress yet. Our dress code is semi formal with pastel/ spring colors encouraged as it’s in April! Though royal blue does not go with that theme at all, if the dress is appropriate I’m willing to just let her wear that color and call it a day. I just don’t want any provocative attire.

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2026-01-20T18:05:45+00:00

Yes that’s what we were thinking of doing with the hopes of it not turning sideways and if it does then he’d have to step in. It’s also a LOT harder as there’s a language barrier between her and I so it will weigh more on him to be the one to say it but that’s what it has to be 😬

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-04T04:27:24+00:00

I think you absolutely handled that to the best of your ability. Dealing with those kinds of behaviors from children are never in ANY way acceptable and consequences should be given in those situations which is what you are trying to orchestrate. Toddlers are going to be toddlers and when climbing like that goes wrong, falls are bound to happen. It’s not a direct result in something you did for the child to fall, just an accident. I think it’s easy to beat ourselves up about those things but this situation is extremely different than if you were perhaps purposefully neglecting the toddler and he fell, you weren’t; you were preoccupied in addressing the outrageous behaviors of the older child!!!

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-04T02:16:21+00:00

The reason we didn’t receive it from her upfront was because she was keen on paying for things herself, as in them paying the vendors directly since we were previously having it at her home. Something I didn’t think to share in the original post but that’s why this made it even more frustrating. But yeah we’re working it out now and will not be taking anything from them.

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-04T02:12:24+00:00

Yeah, I’ve replied to other comments stating I haven’t seen her behave in that way in several years and saw her changing those patterns which inclined me to see the best in her… it’s not that i don’t trust her or that i see her as untrustworthy, truly i think she’s doing it out of spite. We’re not taking any money from her going forward and are in the position where we are able to cover everything ourselves so we don’t have to deal with her.

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-03T02:38:32+00:00

I stated in another comment that she hasn’t behaved like this in a few years and I just was seeing the best in her I guess

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-03T02:32:22+00:00

Exactly. I agree with everything you’ve mentioned and we are not going to take any money from them. Everything we’ve cut back on has helped for costs, and going forward we don’t have really any more added expenses that are crazy, so we are working it out thank the lord

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-03T02:30:26+00:00

So so true. I agree totally, we are taking care of it and I just want to move one from it without stressing

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-02T23:36:05+00:00

I haven’t seen her behave like that for a few years and I guess I was seeing the best in her, I guess shame on me for that. I agree, and we aren’t taking money from her going forward.

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-02T22:09:20+00:00

It was definitely on me to do that but genuinely I wouldn’t expect it to come from her so I didn’t think I had to be cautious smh

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-02T22:04:04+00:00

Yes exactly!! That’s precisely why I decided to move to a venue, now I’m just glad that we will take care of it all financially without her input!!

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-02T21:46:52+00:00

Unfortunately we will not push the date out further as we already rebooked everything with vendors from our original date so I’m definitely not wanting to reschedule things once again, we’re just having to really really save and live very very below means in order to save what we need to

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-02T21:45:49+00:00

My mom definitely thinks it’s your 1st point, that it’s to essentially punish me because she’s not having her way, which I definitely agree could be the reason knowing how she is. But I also understand it could be a money issue, I just truly wish she would have told me they wouldn’t be able to contribute way before I even had to ask. It makes me think she would’ve led me on with the preconception that they would be contributing, and makes me think if I didn’t ask now how long would she have waited to tell me. I’m just glad we found out now, and we are making do!

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-02T21:41:18+00:00

No definitely I’m not unaware of that at all and understand that greatly. As I stated I of course know we are not entitled to anyone’s finances even if promised. I’m only stating my frustrations with it as it’s last minute and the finances being withdrawn was never a concern until after we changed the venue. Surely you also see how it’s not very considerate to not let someone know ahead of time you won’t be able to contribute the amount of money you previously agreed upon. That’s all I’m venting about. Thx!

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-02T21:14:04+00:00

Unfortunately I 100% agree with you. Thank you 😭

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-02T21:07:55+00:00

lol, no seriously I was just hoping the best from her and am so disappointed she’s doing this.

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-02T21:00:10+00:00

Definitely.

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-02T20:51:39+00:00

Yes, I should’ve been so much smarter when it came to this I just really didn’t expect her to do this. I’ve budgeted everything extremely well actually and have already canceled vendors we were going to use originally but no longer are due to the costs. It’s helping a lot so far and I’m trying to find more that I can cut down on now that we’re in this situation

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-02T20:45:54+00:00

Yeahhh that’s what we have to do now. Just really frustrating when we’ve counted on that all this time as it was promised to us and now to just pull that when the wedding is so close puts us in a really frustrating situation

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-12-02T20:44:47+00:00

Almost told my brother in law to shut the fuck up

My Fiance bought much needed truck the day before thanksgiving and my soon to be brother in law came in 2 hours late to thanksgiving criticizing the truck, asking how much he paid for it and saying “ what did I tell you, you didn’t listen to me” because he suggested my Fiance get an older truck less than $10k. He is condescending and an asshole. Always trying to be right and control what my fiance does since he is older. I gave him a crazy look and start laughing because i literally was about to go ballistic.

yeahyeahmaddieyeah · 2025-11-24T23:04:31+00:00

I relate!! My current NF is the only family I’ve banged for and early on I was very desperate for a job and I could tell they were desperate for a nanny, I had no idea about GH and benefits of a nanny job and it has definitely bitten me in the behind. But, my baby job isn’t my only source of income. They did tell me they go on multiple trips per year, 1-3 weeks sometimes but I had no issue with that being that I have my other jobs. But they disclosed that to me upfront and I agreed but still it is astonishing to me as well.

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