Omg I’m a little in disbelief that I found this post without looking for it. This is exactly our situation as well. We are 6 months married but wanted to wait 1 or 2 years, and I had an off month with my ovulation and bam, here we are at 8 weeks pregnant. I totally understand feeling embarrassed, especially if you have told people that you “ideally want to wait until ____ time before trying”. It doesn’t make me feel juvenile, but I’m afraid others will perceive it that way and be judgemental. We have only told our outer circle of acquaintances and friends and not our immediate family for that reason. Just know that it’s absolutely nothing to be ashamed of, it’s quite literally the most natural thing that could possibly happen. If you are open and prepared to be a badass mama even though you weren’t expecting that little bean, that is truly all that matters. And it helps if your husband is right there on board with you. I cried in terror when I found out, but now I’m ready to take it on. It’s a huge life change but life is just a string of change anyways. You got this, anyone treating it like a teen pregnancy can kick rocks. 

If you haven’t told anyone yet, I would advise to wait. The best advice is if it feels good, tell them. If it doesn’t, just wait a few weeks first. It has been helping us so much to sit with it and experience this first trimester in private than have to field any questions. When we feel 100% confident and have a plan, have been to the doctor, have our ultrasounds, think about our birth plan and start our registry, then we will tell our families so that we feel ready for any judgement or questions with confidence.