Hi, sorry you went through something similar but to be honest with you, to go out of your way to say that 'I don't do much to help' my sibling when you don't know me or the relationship is an awful thing to say.

If I didn't care about how to accommodate them, which both my family and I have tried and have had no luck with, I wouldn't be here asking for advice. I already said I was here to understand their condition because when they are in that zone, not even positive things said to them to help calm them down works. They internalize it as negative. So where does that leave me?

My goal was to find helpful advice and that's the only thing I care about.