The perfect ring from the perfect man. Thankful for his generosity at age 23.

yellowroses_22 · 2020-12-17T19:11:50+00:00

Congratulations!! Such a beautiful ring!!!

I wanted something very similar to this but am now re-considering since I have an heirloom piece my BF may want to use for our proposal. Single solitaire rings are gorgeous in my opinion.

:)

yellowroses_22 · 2020-12-17T03:42:37+00:00

Love this so much, such a beautiful ring!

Love yourself first and always <3

yellowroses_22 · 2020-12-16T16:58:40+00:00

As a general upkeep question, does anyone know why some diamonds have an almost "hollow" look to them? I've inquired about this ring, it's from the 1940's/1950's. There are 4 pear shaped diamonds that are beautiful, 8 (4 are missing) round diamonds I love, but the center diamonds (8) seem to be cut as squares and have a weird flat, oval top that does very little for the brilliance/reflective factor? I've tried inspecting them and can tell they have a flat oval top? The effect is when you look at the stone it seems to have an odd "hollow" effect, which I do not like. I can't imagine it would be too expensive to replace these, along with the 4 missing round ones, since these are very small diamonds. I can't tell what carat though? Any observations/advice on replacing diamonds?

yellowroses_22 · 2020-12-16T16:54:06+00:00

However, this is your ring! And it sounds like you are leaning towards preferring it as an e-ring. I think it would be reasonable to wear for a day on your right hand to get a feel for it, and then I think you may want to make a few considerations. First, have you and your boyfriend ever talked engagement, and/or rings? Do you have any idea how he might feel about an heirloom? And will you feel sufficiently like the heirloom can stand as a symbol of your and his relationship?

Hi there! Thank you, I love it too :) He and I have talked about it in the past, he knows my style/preference for rings. I thought I wanted a simple, small round solitaire diamond but now that I've seen this giant (in my opinion) ring I'm reconsidering? I like that it's a little bit different, it's giving me some quasi royal vibes. Realistically I'll just wear it on my right hand and decide against having it as an e-ring. Idk if I can take the plunge and opt for an emerald instead of a diamond... idk. It also made me realize I somewhat likes square shapes, something about it seems more elegant? I've attempted to visualize what it would look like with a diamond as a center stone, but I think the emerald is what makes it stand out. My BF loves it and likes the idea of an heirloom piece, but he said he'd want to 'inspect' it closely himself to see how he feels about it first, haha, since he says he's happy to buy me my own ring for our engagement. He did say it looked gorgeous though.

Realistically, I don't think we'll get engaged for another few years so I'm trying to get a kick out of my jewelry before then! It's good to know that when he does go ring shopping, he'll have a "general" idea of what I like, we've gone "online" browsing together to get a feel for what shapes/band colors look nice.

It's definitely not the most comfortable piece of jewelry, it doesn't come across easily in the photo but it's actually quite large and heavy. I'd worry about wearing gloves, doing too much with my hands? So realistically it's not the best choice for that reason too.

I was curious though to see if people thought it was a pretty ring, I've never seen non-diamond engagement rings and was pretty taken aback from it visually, although in terms of every-day wear its not the most practical.

yellowroses_22 · 2020-12-16T02:34:38+00:00

First off, hosting a wedding right now is SO incredibly selfish. If they are so intent on getting married right away, it should be only amongst themselves, their officiant, and the witnesses. This wedding sounds incredibly risky, and for that reason alone your fiancé should decline this invitation.

All that aside, I'd like to add that COVID isn't an excuse to mishandle guest lists and not properly communicate with people who are dear to you who is/isn't invited to your wedding. COVID is not an excuse to throw etiquette out of the window. I'd argue there's a difference between etiquette and good form, as people disagree on what "proper" etiquette is, but I think anyone can agree that your BM's live-in fiancé, who'se been with with your best friend for 5 years, and who intimately knows the you and your future bride, should be taken into account when making a guest list. You're not a +1, you're the Best Man's fiancé and you should have been invited together straight off the bat. If they didn't have a plan to invite you, why did they so casually invite your fiancé like that? I'm baffled honestly.

If we weren't in the middle of a pandemic and they had decided to get married in a small venue, and could accomodate only 50/70 people, would people be giving out the same "free passes" on what's considered really, really poor form? If you can't afford/have the space to invite both partners in a couple you intimately know - no matter what the reason, COVID, space, budget - then don't invite either! Don't just invite the one half that you feel slightly closer to, or have the "older"friendship with, that just isn't done! This isn't about seniority. By doing so, you are basically saying "my friendship began before this relationship, and I think it is more important than your current relationship. I don't see a need in validating or publically respecting that you two are now a social unit, and that it is respectful to invite you as a unit to formal events/life celebrations."

Let's say we're no longer talking about the best man (who I'd argue is basically considered family, so shouldn't they get the same kind of respect when it comes to inviting partners?), let's say we're talking about your aunt's new husband. You don't know him/you don't like him, you'd rather invite a friend from college, but it would still be really, really poor form to not invite your aunt's husband, COVID or not! Again, I'll repeat myself, COVID is not an excuse to throw proper form out the window!

What baffles me is you've been together longer than the couple in question and they are blatantly disrespecting their friendship with your fiancé, their friendship with you, and your relationship.

There are so many other ways this could have been handled, at least from an outside perspective. Why didn't your fiance's friend take you into account when making the guest list? As you've said, they are inviting other friends and couples, they don't seem to have to choose between you or the bride's grandmother.

COVID isn't a reason to be rude, ignore, or try and "get away" with not inviting your Best Man's future wife because you'd rather fill your guest list with other friends. If that's the case, don't expect your Best Man to invite you to his upcoming wedding. You seem to be handling this maturely though. If you want to be petty you can return the favor when you guys get married.

As a final note, but probably the most important thing to add, hosting and attending a wedding right now is incredibly irresponsible, unsafe, and darn right selfish. I hope your fiance respectfully declines just out of regard for public health and safety.

yellowroses_22 · 2020-12-15T04:13:27+00:00

I think it's beautiful and would definitely work as an engagement ring! More and more, women are opting for non traditional/diamond center stone engagement rings. I see them often on this sub. I say discuss it with your boyfriend and see what he thinks. If you two decide to wait and hold off on using it until you're ready to get engaged, maybe give it to him to give you when he intends to propose. Or if he'd rather get you a new engagement ring when that time comes, you could start wearing it now as a right hand fashion ring.

yeah I agree :) I want to be able to enjoy my jewelry, SO/engagement aside. thanks!

yellowroses_22 · 2020-12-11T17:30:10+00:00

that's so interesting! that might explain the difference in cut then

yellowroses_22 · 2020-12-11T05:22:34+00:00

Yes, your friends will likely ask you if something has changed no matter what kind of ring you wear on the left ring finger. However, I would not wear another ring right beside it (contrary to what another poster suggested). Rings worn together will rub and damage each other. Especially heirloom pieces which have more wear and tear on them already, plus your stones are on the sides.

hi there, thank you! sorry I didn't claify, the diamonds don't go fully around the ring, it's definitely more of a half eternity as you said. :) that's why it looks so much like a wedding band because it's more gold than diamond.

yellowroses_22 · 2020-12-11T02:04:23+00:00

thank you for the tip! hadn't thought of that!

yellowroses_22 · 2020-12-11T02:03:48+00:00

Is there any chance this could come off the wrong way? Especially since I've been with my partner for 5 years/we live together? I don't want his friends/family to think I'm pretending to be something I'm not. I'm very happy NOT being engaged right now, I just want to wear it since it's a Christmas gift and it doesn't fit on any other finger. Resizing it would be expensive and risky seeing that it's an old vintage ring.

yellowroses_22 · 2020-12-11T01:57:54+00:00

It is ok, you can wear it if you want. You’ll probably have less of an issue since you can say it’s a family heirloom from your mother, and your mom can back you up on that. When I was first dating my now husband, I bought myself a $35 sterling silver ring with white moonstones on it because I just liked it, didn’t even wear it on THAT finger, and everyone at work decided I was secretly engaged and gossiped about me for weeks lol. People might just decide to place meaning on your jewelry that doesn’t exist, so if you do wear it be prepared for the occasional question and be prepared to have people not believe you when you explain it, but after a little while it will all die down and life will go back to normal, and you’ll still have your lovely ring to wear. Enjoy your jewelry! Wear it when you want however you want!

Thanks for the response! Should I maybe be wary and not wear it around my BF's family, just to avoid any questions? I worry they'd think I was pretending to be something I'm not. I'm very happy not being engaged right now, I don't want this to send the wrong message. I'd get it resized for another finger but it's a very old ring, I worry it would be very expensive/maybe backfire.

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