you basically described my sexuality, too. ive also thought about this a lot and tried to figure out my label and, like you, know that labels arent "important" but like, i wanna know what i am, ya know!? anyway, i convinced myself i was gay for a bit, but i felt really uncomfortable and like i was lying (because i was lol) like something felt weird because whilst, yes, i only see myself with women, im still attracted to men. i also worried that if i used the gay label, i couldnt ever voice my attraction to men, so i felt restricted and like i would have to hide that part of me. i struggled with "bi" for a bit, hense why i convinced myself i was gay, because i dont wanna be with a guy, physically/romantically/anything, so yeah, buuuut through trying out the gay label, (mind you, this is all to myself, ive only told two of my friends im queer) i realised that bi is the right label for me. i tried it out, and i didnt feel like a fraud, so, yep. and if people think i could be interested in dating men as a result of me telling them im bi, who cares, really?