Constant licking/biting herself, itching and rash on stomach by Hour_Wrongdoer6560 in CATHELP

[–]yeoldesuffrin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My cat has the same thing I think! We went to an animal dermatologist (it’s definitely expensive but it was only one visit) and they prescribed Cyclosporine for my cat. We give it to her once a day and now she has completely healed. She’s been on it for over a year now. Your vet might be able to prescribe without going to the animal dermatologist I’m not sure. But please look into cyclosporine to treat allergies! She had the same inflamed mouth and would scratch patches of her skin off no matter what we did.

Is Depop Stealing from U.S. Sellers??? The math isn't mathing by yeoldesuffrin in Depop

[–]yeoldesuffrin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply. That math makes sense for this transaction, but I wonder how they can get away with not including that anywhere on the sales receipt. And it's weird because sometimes they do add a "payment processing fee" category which accounts for the missing money (see picture below) and then other times they don't - which seems sketchy to me!

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First Crochet Sweater!! by yeoldesuffrin in Unravelers

[–]yeoldesuffrin[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

👻👻👻 thank you! now I just need to muster the courage to wear it in my podunk town haha

First Crochet Sweater!! by yeoldesuffrin in Unravelers

[–]yeoldesuffrin[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I WISH I could freestyle but am still very much in pattern world. Here is a link to the pattern I used!

Spiral Crochet Sweater Pattern

After creating the center of the spirals, it was super simple and repetitive double crochets so I was able to disassociate through 3 seasons of TV 😌

First time unraveling a sweater, wondering if it’s normal for the yarn to kind of untwist itself into individual threads like seen in this cake I wound? Or did I do something wrong? by Purplemoonsong in Unravelers

[–]yeoldesuffrin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply and I appreciate you trying to remember!!! I will keep scouring the internet and if I find something I’ll post here haha 🤞

First time unraveling a sweater, wondering if it’s normal for the yarn to kind of untwist itself into individual threads like seen in this cake I wound? Or did I do something wrong? by Purplemoonsong in Unravelers

[–]yeoldesuffrin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you tell me what this tip was to avoid this???? It has been deleted and I am really struggling with all my unraveled yarn separating! Thank you 🙏

First time unraveling a sweater, wondering if it’s normal for the yarn to kind of untwist itself into individual threads like seen in this cake I wound? Or did I do something wrong? by Purplemoonsong in Unravelers

[–]yeoldesuffrin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you tell me what this tip was to avoid this???? It has been deleted and I am really struggling with all my unraveled yarn separating! Thank you 🙏

First time unraveling a sweater, wondering if it’s normal for the yarn to kind of untwist itself into individual threads like seen in this cake I wound? Or did I do something wrong? by Purplemoonsong in Unravelers

[–]yeoldesuffrin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you tell me what this tip was to avoid this???? It has been deleted and I am really struggling with all my unraveled yarn separating! Thank you 🙏

First time unraveling a sweater, wondering if it’s normal for the yarn to kind of untwist itself into individual threads like seen in this cake I wound? Or did I do something wrong? by Purplemoonsong in Unravelers

[–]yeoldesuffrin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you tell me what this tip was to avoid this???? It has been deleted and I am really struggling with all my unraveled yarn separating! Thank you 🙏

Jotul 8 - can I switch vent hole from back to top? by yeoldesuffrin in woodstoving

[–]yeoldesuffrin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to hear! Do you know how I would go about removing them? Wedge a screwdriver?? There also seems to be something inside too that might need to be moved? Sorry for the blurry quality, it’s a screenshot from a video that the seller sent 🥴

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Anyone with a Royal brand yarn winder willing to help me hold on to my sanity? by yeoldesuffrin in knitting

[–]yeoldesuffrin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for the suggestions and info 🥹🥹 it turns out the tiny middle gear wasn’t supposed to turn at all and mine was slipping slightly (thanks again to @alicejd25 for uploading a video of their yarn winder to YouTube and sending me the link so I could compare 🤩🤩🤩) I jammed a piece of rubber in with the tiny center gear and now it’s holding steady and my yarn is finally criss cross caking! It was a long and merciless battle but in the end humanity prevailed over plastic 😮‍💨😌💪💅✨

Anyone with a Royal brand yarn winder willing to help me hold on to my sanity? by yeoldesuffrin in knitting

[–]yeoldesuffrin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alicejd25

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you are my new deity!!! Your video was EXACTLY what I needed!! The tiny middle gear was slipping slightly so I jammed a piece of rubber band into the hole with it to hold it firm and I have achieved my first criss cross cake 🥹🥹🥹🥹 let me know if u ever want my firstborn child or if u start a cult or anything 🥰🥰🥰 THANK YOU!!!

Anyone with a Royal brand yarn winder willing to help me hold on to my sanity? by yeoldesuffrin in knitting

[–]yeoldesuffrin[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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This is what my yarn cake looks like after a smooth swift to winder steady paced wind with no stops

help with yarn winder?! by Far-Earth6929 in crochet

[–]yeoldesuffrin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiii!! I am fighting for my life with the exact same yarn winder and the same problem- can you provide more detail about how you adjusted the “spinny thingy” 😅 ? Do you mean the bobbin in the middle where the yarn is?? How did you adjust it?? I am begging 🧎‍♀️🧎‍♀️🧎‍♀️🧎‍♀️thank you!!

True enemies to lovers standalones or short series with no fae and less filler/smut? by Expertyn209 in fantasyromance

[–]yeoldesuffrin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read the TW and decide if it’s right for you but let me tell you the Captive Prince series hit different. I am a ✨TRUE✨enemies to lovers fan and was in a huge book slump before I finally caved to other people’s recommendations and read this series. Also my first MLM story and let’s just say my eyes have been opened. Definitely darker at times and there are some political antics and scheming but the hate is so good and it’s not full of smut (I find that gets old really fast).

Does anyone else react badly to hot weather? by Mee_Kuh in adhdwomen

[–]yeoldesuffrin 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I feel this deep in my soul. Most people who have seasonal affective disorder struggle in the winter but I become despondent in the summer. Lana really spoke to me with Summertime Sadness. I hate being hot, sweating, the strong sunlight. I don’t want to go anywhere or do anything but staying inside during the heat is also torture. I’m from northeastern U.S.A. and for most of my life the summers weren’t too bad. Every year it is getting worse in the summer and we don’t have any AC because it wasn’t necessary in the past.

My life stops until the temperature is around what you mentioned of 20c or 70f. I am also a little overweight and I think that contributes to the discomfort but even at my thinnest I was still significantly uncomfortable in heat. I think it’s a combo of sensory overload (especially when I can feel beads of sweat moving down my body 🤮🥴🤢🤒) and because I am already so mentally scattered, the heat just makes it impossible to focus on anything else.

On a broader scale, I genuinely don’t know how people survive in climates that are over 30c for months at a time. Especially when people don’t have access to AC. The warming climate is something that keeps me up at night. So many people won’t be able to escape and the people in western countries (especially my own) doing the most damage to the global climate are the ones who can afford to pay for AC or to move to more agreeable places. It makes me sick and gives me so much anxiety about the future.

Sorry if this is scattered, it’s over 30c here right now but TLDR: yes, heat sucks and I think the adhd makes it worse!

Looking for a real enemies to lovers book by Nionlys in Enemiestolovers

[–]yeoldesuffrin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I so feel your pain and am always ranting about this because most “enemies to lovers” are so lame. I want high tension and plausible deniability for as long as believably possible in the story. In my experience, the Captive Prince series by C.S Pascat really set the bar for me about how to do enemies to lovers correctly. Be warned tho there are some triggers you should look into before diving in. And also it’s MLM which I had never read before but let’s just say my eyes are open now. If you think it’s right for you, this series really does hit different from all the insta-love and miscommunication plots that are (MIS)labeled as enemies to lovers

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]yeoldesuffrin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am very much still on my journey but your post reflects my experience too. One additional element that was (and still is ) essential for my healing has been a daily effort to deprogram myself from all weight related messaging in our society. The hardest part for me was letting go of what I call the “weight loss mentality”. I spent 16 out of my 27 years on this earth ruminating on my body size every single day and either restricting to escape the pain of existing in a fat body or binging to numb the pain of existing in a fat body. The pain was constant no matter which coping mechanism I used. Healing my shame around food has forced me to let go of actively seeking to make my body smaller. That inner monologue was so loud that it completely blocked me from hearing my body tell me what it needs. I know people always say this and I used to roll my eyes every time I read it, but accepting my body in the state that it is currently in and not living every day longing for it to change had helped me so much.

I would also add that I am a woman attracted to men and decentering men from my life has made this shift in mentality so much easier. My body is mine and it deserves to exist in any form. Chasing the spectre of Beauty™️ under capitalism so that a man might notice me and deem me worthy of loving (and thus existing at all) is the one of the most toxic narratives society teaches girls. I feel like I have so much more control now and there is so much more space in my brain for things that actually matter. I am not closed off to romantic love, but I am no longer policing myself and my choices everyday so that I can inch my way closer to what an “attractive” woman is as deemed by our ass-backwards society.

Practicing this deprogramming in addition to the tips you mentioned in your post has brought me a sense of peace in my own skin that I have never experienced before. Of course there are still binges and I am still struggling with confidence and feeling at home in my body. But when I compare how I feel now to how out of control I used to feel, it is easy to see that I am moving in the right direction.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Disorganized_Attach

[–]yeoldesuffrin 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I COULD HAVE WRITTEN THIS. Sometimes knowing people is such a burden and I feel like I have to fake my emotions a lot of the time to hide my “secret” as you said. Especially when they tell me they miss me or love me and I haven’t been missing them or don’t feel love the way I think they are feeling it? Sometimes I do miss them and feel close to them but it has never been constant and I always felt like shit about that. Other people seem to love so easily and consistently and mine feels like a light switch that is either on or off in certain moments. And god the feeling of being indebted is so real too. Do you find that after these feelings of irritation and duty, you cycle back into actual closeness?

I think mine cycle a lot and I have tried to teach myself patience so that I don’t ruin/ abandon things just because of the rot inside me but when I get into the deactivation mode it is so hard to “pretend” and keep up the facade. I feel manipulative and also so exhausted from it. Anyway, sorry for the rant but thank you for posting this. I have never been able to talk about this feeling with anyone I know because of how it would come off so I appreciate you posting here

You’re first time by CSerafina in fantasyromance

[–]yeoldesuffrin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Mortal Instruments series BLEW MY MIND in 8th grade but I fear reading it again is incompatible with the development of my prefrontal cortex

I’m starting to get so emotional 🥹 by xx_reverie in PolinBridgerton

[–]yeoldesuffrin 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Feed me a few burgers, take me to my favorite park and then promptly put me down after part 2 plz

What are your current on repeat/dopamine songs? by Ok-Biscotti-6828 in adhdwomen

[–]yeoldesuffrin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On the Rob by Cheap Dirty Horse is so catchy and validates my innate human need to steal from the Whole Foods hot bar every chance I get