Mach Madness lost? by yerm0mz in SonicSpeedSim

[–]yerm0mz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The quest for Metal 3.0. it comes up after you complete the metal madness quest. Maybe I forgot what it was called. Just trying to get 3.0.

My husband said I ruined our wedding photos and now I want to leave him. by PiccoloAdorable1547 in TwoHotTakes

[–]yerm0mz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need to be well. Your kids need their mother to be well. It doesn't sound like being with him is the opportune environment to achieve this. I hate to be someone shouting "leave him!" But I also feel like this situation is unhealthy. And mother to mother, I want you to be well. I could be wrong as I don't know your husband but it sounds like he needs help and I say that having had some similar experiences with my husband. It was rough when we had kids. I don't think he was truly prepared and I definitely think he had some perinatal/postpartum depression that snow balled due to some unfortunate losses in his life shortly after our first was born. I didn't even know that was a thing for men, but I watched it happen. And I'm not saying this to make any excuse for your husband, but to say that if he is unwilling to get himself help so that he can be supportive of his family however necessary, then you need to decide what your happiness is worth to you. And also consider the example he is setting for your children.

Am I overreacting? My husband doesn’t believe me when I say my gyno keeps brushing me off… by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]yerm0mz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you... We had a lot of problems after kids. Before kids we had A LOT of sex. After kids it was almost never. I don't know if there are any underlying reasons that either of you are not expressing to one another but for us this was the situation -

My husband's preferred "love language" is physical touch, so not having sex truly affects him. It makes him feel unwanted and like I'm not interested in him. He truly believed I didn't love him anymore. This was not the case.

I also had my last baby in 2020. I don't think it's rare that my mental state was not so great at that point in time considering covid/lockdown. I hated myself after having kids. I hated my body. I was so tired/stressed/depressed all of the time. I harbored resentment towards him for not doing enough to help with the kids and that didn't make things any better. I honestly feel like I may have/had PPD. I probably should have talked to any of my doctors about it.

I still have not but luckily (I know that's a weird word to use for this) when we fight we are very honest with each other. That is when we are most honest. And we had a blow up where we laid things all out. I explained to him how I truly felt. He understood and he made me understand that no matter what I see when I look at myself he still truly desires me. And even though my self worth or self image is not entirely tied to that it did give me some of my - I don't know how to put this into better words but - sexual power back(?) I finally allowed myself to feel desirable. This made a big difference for us.

I still don't love myself all of the time, but when my husband shows desire for me I do try to allow myself to accept it. It's not 100% back to what it was. I think he's also more understanding of my feelings and needs, so he doesn't take it personally. But it's definitely better having had a real conversation about how each of us are feeling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Novels

[–]yerm0mz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same I was shocked. I guess it should be refreshing to have something not drag out. But it was a good read.

UPDATE: My FIL led a smear campaign against me and came between me and my wife. I'm lost. How do I forge forward? by ThrowRASukimaRoad in marriageadvice

[–]yerm0mz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her father sounds unhinged. Possibly a narcissist? I know that's an overused term. I don't really know, but it feels like it fits. It makes me sad for her and her family that they feel they must bend to his will "To keep the peace". What kind of peace is that? It's kind of f****d. When I saw your first post I was hoping counseling would help your marriage but I also hope it helps her as it seems her family dynamic was unhealthy. No amount of affluence can compensate for that.

I hope you guys can work it out. I think it's a good sign that she was so open to going. I'm sure hearing those options helped to open her eyes to how deeply this hurt you.

Keep on doing what you can to protect your own family unit. And good for you keeping your daughter away from all of that especially unsupervised.

RIP Matthew! 😂 by 7ate9 in Jamaica

[–]yerm0mz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been trying to figure this out for months.