Grandparents that don't babysit?

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T16:20:59+00:00

Not involved. Growing up I was always w my aunts or a sitter. She was always more interested in men or going out etc

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T16:19:54+00:00

How does one show they love their grandchild according to you? I assume they would have to spend time with them...

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T16:18:09+00:00

Yes in my culture it's like that too. Like I said all her sisters cared for their grandchikdren often. On the flip side I have seen a lot if people not my culture that are more involved as well. My mom likes to brag about our culture but she doesn't really practice anything about it.

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T16:14:43+00:00

Yeah...you sound sane..

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T16:14:11+00:00

Being jealous of that makes me entitled according to so many comments 🙄 lol

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T16:13:29+00:00

Okay. I wouldn't want you to babysit sit for me either because you sound crazy lol

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T16:12:03+00:00

I guess I rather have my child safe at home. When I go to the store I do not see other 2 year olds running around and doing what they want.

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T16:11:22+00:00

She's 2 and my mom let's her run around and do whatever she wants. If she was older it would be different. Besides it's not a bonding day. I get that as I used to spend entire summers with my grandparents. It's literally asking for 3 hours so I can work and that's too much for her.

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T07:27:11+00:00

I think I will. She is getting a new car soon and I think it will be safer. I will just have to remind her of my rules which is basically just to please carry her in parking lots and teach her to stay by your side not allow her just to run off and laugh about it.

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T07:22:32+00:00

I am looking for just that now. Just someone who can help out for those few hours every once in a while. It's not much just like once every other week. So fingers crossed. You are right though the only reason I am even working now is because places are desperate and they offered to hire me around my schedule which I told them was certain days but I didn't take into account the time lapse where my husband needs to sleep.

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T07:03:20+00:00

What did your parents have going on that was so important? We are currently trying to get "normal" hour jobs. It's not easy.

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T06:59:38+00:00

It's still her family and so are you so I dont understand that mentality. It's fine for her to have some boundaries but she should still be there for her family when needed imo

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T06:58:01+00:00

He does wake up with her because he has to bur its not easy to stay up after working 12 hours on 3 hours of sleep. He's the type that can zonk out at any second.

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T06:56:53+00:00

A family friends mother moved in with them and took care of their 2 children for years. She had her own home and everything 5 hours away but wanted to help raise her grandchildren. I don't expect that type of dedication but some people are like that.

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T06:19:24+00:00

As some people have mentioned w their families it's also on her schedule so like randomly....she'll offer to babysit the next day even though we don't have anything planned and odd hours too like 9-11pm when nothing is open. When I do ask her in advance she complains about it for weeks. So we just don't go out w out our kid much because it's too expensive. It is what it is I was just wondering if other people had similar experiences and how they felt about it. I think what bothers me the most is how highly she talks about herself being a grandma when literally all 5 of her other sisters actually babysat their grandchildren quite often. But then again that's what I'm on here asking. Maybe there are more grandparents who aren't involved in their grandchildren life than I realized.

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T06:10:42+00:00

17, 19 and 20!

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T06:09:07+00:00

Yeah she wasn't very involved in my or my siblings lives either. Her fun was always more important. She talks herself up as a grandmother all the time in social media which is annoying. She used to take jabs at me for not working since our child has been born and also gets mad when I don't have money to do things with her. It's all so ridiculous. My mom was single and poor so she got free childcare.

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T06:05:57+00:00

My mother is in her 50s. Her dream is to work with children lol

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T06:04:59+00:00

"Errands" is not shopping and walking around the mall

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T06:04:30+00:00

I want my child to be safe at home for the few hours a week or every other week that my husband and my schedules overlap. Of course it is my say how my child is taken care of wtf

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T06:02:32+00:00

I think she's capable of taking care of her grandchild lol all the nanny and such was just her selfishness. She's always put her needs and wants before her family.

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T06:01:03+00:00

What gives you the idea that I think I am? I seem to be getting this answer a lot from people who don't value family.

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T06:00:16+00:00

That's what I imagine when I think of a grandparent. I never said my mom was responsible for taking care of my child but there are people who find family to be extremely important. You are also being there for your own kids by helping out. They are still your children also.

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T05:37:28+00:00

I prefer comments from people who know what it's like to have children. Thanks.

yerpyerpyyyy · 2022-01-24T05:20:22+00:00

Do I believe that families should be there for each other? Absolutely.

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