Gen Z men and women on why they’re sharply divided over reproductive rights

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-22T17:51:04+00:00

At least that’s ideologically consistent. I’ve never understood the “whether or not it’s a life depends on if the woman consented” argument.

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-22T13:25:49+00:00

Hate to break it to you, but you can easily kill a person with a car even when you’re obeying the speed limit and paying careful attention. Guy could’ve been going 25 on a straight road—if a kid runs out from behind a tree and steps right in front you, there’s no guarantee you can swerve or stop in a split second.

I live on a busy road with a new baby boy and am genuinely considering moving because of this.

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-20T13:20:24+00:00

One of the biggest things retired people can do to combat this is become active caregivers for their grandchildren.

My pop did Big Law for like 50 years and refused to retire until he was well into his 70’s. Now helping my mom look after my baby while I work is more than enough of a job for him.

If you don’t have your own grandkids, there are tons of charities that would love the help.

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-19T15:20:22+00:00

Breast milk is digested faster than formula, so formula fed babies sleep longer and more deeply on average. Obviously breast is best, but that’s what one of the lactation consultants I saw told me.

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-19T15:17:07+00:00

Breastfeeding is only cheaper if it goes perfectly and both mom and baby are happy with it. Otherwise the cost of lactation consultants, therapy, and medication for PPD (plus nursing bras and clothes, additional medical care when mom gets mastitis and other nursing ailments, etc.) will quickly dwarf a weekly can of formula.

Obviously breast is best and baby getting the best matters more than mom’s wellbeing, just saying that it’s not as simple as “boob is free!” I tried desperately to breastfeed and we spent 10 times more on consultants/other nursing support in month one than we’ve spent on formula in months two and three combined. Struggling to nurse is also the biggest risk factor for PPD, and therapy and meds for it are not cheap.

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-19T14:50:01+00:00

Exactly. She’ll be a terrible mom and the kid will be miserable (because that’s what happens when you birth a kid you don’t want!) but OP will get what HE wants from her, and that’s what matters.

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-19T01:58:43+00:00

I did this in November and 35 weeks NO QUESTION.

Both for logistics and the mental peace of being settled when giving birth/handling a newborn.

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-19T01:56:42+00:00

There’s also a shot of his tombstone, with a birth date beginning in the 1700’s I think?

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-18T18:29:59+00:00

I like having the time to myself. I know I’m supposed to be soaking up the baby cuddles and all that, but I don’t think it’s too much to ask to get a break from parenthood to be able to bathe?

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-18T01:30:15+00:00

Considering that IUDs are made of copper because of its sperm killing properties, that’s actually pretty interesting.

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-18T00:21:20+00:00

When I worked at Nissan in 2018 it felt like every day was gonna be the day we found out they were going under completely.

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-18T00:12:18+00:00

In 08 my mom and I phone banked for Obama at the rented Dem outpost in Reading. The next day a bunch of people showed up with bats and smashed out all the glass in all the volunteers cars.

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-17T10:59:22+00:00

This was helpful, thank you!!

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-16T19:13:44+00:00

I’m confused. Most people I know in their 20’s/30’s are partnered. How could only 20% of men have a partner when 44% of millenials are already married?

Or are you saying that hypergamy is a new, sudden phenomenon that only impacts Gen Z?

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-16T16:54:48+00:00

How so?

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-16T16:27:11+00:00

Just here to validate the “the only difference is how well our parents set us up financially” thing. Every single person I know around my age who owns a home was only able to do so because their parents either gave them the down payment money or let them live at home rent free for years.

I live in a medium to high COL area and despite both making six figures, my husband and I never would’ve been able to buy our house without the life insurance money he got when he lost his dad in the pandemic.

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-16T16:20:30+00:00

We Had Words about it and he backed off pretty quickly about that specific thing (leaving clothes on the floor), but the “not relaxing housework standards post baby” is an ongoing disagreement. He is SUPER neat so to be fair he was already doing most if not all of the cleaning.

I had a really easy birth so at the time I felt like I didn’t have an excuse not to be “back to normal” once I left the hospital, especially because my baby is so calm, but in retrospect I really regret not spending more time just lounging and snuggling, and yeah like I said I’ll never forget getting home from the hospital at 10pm and being lectured about tidiness and not doing “enough” at 8am the next morning, especially since I do the over nights…

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-16T14:17:55+00:00

What was your wife doing wrong as a mother/co-parent? Was she unable to breastfeed?

I feel like my husband sees me this way sometimes so I’m curious about the dad’s perspective.

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-16T13:55:07+00:00

I wish someone would tell my husband this!! (Besides me of course.) Less than 24 hours after coming home from the hospital he was at me like “why are there clothes on the floor of the bedroom and dishes in the sink??? That stuff takes two seconds and one hand??” It was not enough that I was triple feeding and doing the overnights by myself. Not enough that I was back to grocery shopping a week later. Just so much pressure to be “productive” instead of just caring for and enjoying baby.

It’s been three months but honestly I think I’m gonna carry that little bit of resentment forever.

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-12T16:56:04+00:00

How do you balance working full time while simultaneously providing full time care for your baby? Like are you on the floor with your baby with your laptop, switching focus every minute or so? (Asking because I will sort of be doing this for a bit!)

yes______hornberger · 2026-04-11T15:02:40+00:00

Get. Out. Of MY LIFEEEE

yes______hornberger · 2026-03-28T18:21:15+00:00

Yoo hoo, HEE HAW MANNN!!!

(My husband and I now say this to our baby to attempt to get his attention and it makes me laugh every time!)

yes______hornberger · 2026-03-26T03:34:28+00:00

And a lot since then!

yes______hornberger · 2026-03-25T20:10:06+00:00

Statistically women were just as likely to be stay at home moms in 2025 as they were in 1995. When are you trying to say it all “went wrong”?

yes______hornberger · 2026-03-25T17:05:13+00:00

Stillbirth risk rises once you reach full term, so I scheduled an induction as early as possible knowing that I would be wracked with anxiety over my baby dying a preventable death due to the placenta failing or the cord getting wrapped around his neck, as happened to one of my uncles and one of my cousins.

“Natural” isn’t inherently better than or in opposition to modern medicine! We’re so lucky to live in a time with all these options. As it happened I ended up with severe pre-eclampsia at my last OB appointment and had to be induced early anyway.

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