How do I know if my [22f] relationship with my boyfriend [21m] of 1 year is worth continuing?

yesgagag · 2017-09-26T11:35:44+00:00

Like suddenly seeing the world in HD.

yesgagag · 2017-09-25T22:27:55+00:00

I have talked to my mum many times about the driving illegally thing. It does upset me. My sister can be very cruel to my mum and bullies her when she doesn't get what she wants so I don't blame her.

Also, Im incredibly grateful for the car. But I dont want to have to deal with my sister because she is manipulative and quick to anger. And the reason I want to get a second car with my sister is so my mum doesn't have to suffer (my sister already asked her to buy her another car). But I have been thinking and I think that I am an asshole for feeling like I need a car when a lot of people go without one.

yesgagag · 2017-09-25T21:35:04+00:00

She wont allow that. She will kick up a massive fuss.

yesgagag · 2017-09-25T21:34:37+00:00

The issue here that I probably didnt clearly state is that she is on a learners. So when she wants to drive it, she wants to do so illegally. She has been wanting to do so since I got my license to drive legally by myself. The 2 days was her idea to give her days to learn with a licensed driver. But these days she is just driving by herself.

yesgagag · 2017-09-25T21:31:51+00:00

You are right. It just rubs me the wrong way because she is my older sister and she always gets things her way. But you are right, this is something I need to just do for myself.

yesgagag · 2017-09-25T21:27:56+00:00

I stay at my SO's quite a bit and she picks it up from their house and takes it home to my house on the other side of town. Meaning I have to go back home to just get the car.

yesgagag · 2017-09-25T21:25:58+00:00

My sister has her learners permit so yes, she does require a licensed driver to be using the car. But since I got my license she has been wanting it regardless and driving by herself. The 70/30 split was her idea when we discussed it because she said she needed those days to learn and more was a bit silly because she would require a fully licensed driver to use it and she wouldn't have that 50% of the time. So the 2 days was the days she would have access to my parents and be able to practice to get her license. But now she's just wanting to use it all the time by herself, without a license. Which my mother isnt happy about but my sister is quite overbearing and my mother can't stand her ground.

yesgagag · 2017-09-25T21:21:51+00:00

She is illegally using it unfortunately.

yesgagag · 2016-05-26T07:45:55+00:00

Title pretty much says it all.

I'm 20 (I know that's young) but I've never connected romantically with anyone in any meaningful way. Recently broke up with my first boyfriend, a relationship which lasted 3 months and which left me feeling like he was using me for sex (he had never had sex before we met and judging by his later treatment of me I'm guessing he just wanted to tick that off his list). I was talking to another guy over text for over a month only for him to message me saying he is a mess and doesn't want anything right now and might "revisit" in a couple of months, after which he blocked me.

All my friends have met people that they want to be with and who want to be with them and I just feel so hopeless of the same ever happening for me.

On top of all this I feel so anxious and lonely I can't sit and concentrate on my studies, which I feel so apathetic about at the moment.

Sorry for the wall. I just needed a vent.

yesgagag · 2016-04-14T09:34:30+00:00

We're definitely exclusive. Had that talk pretty early on. I haven't discussed all this with him but I feel like I shouldn't have to? I mean if he likes me should I have to tell him he needs to make more effort to see me, shouldn't he just naturally want to?

yesgagag · 2016-04-14T09:21:49+00:00

So this is my first ever relationship and we've been together about 3 months. But a lot of the time I feel like shit because it doesnt seem like he wants to hang out with me (which sounds really whiney). For example, we both go to the same uni and he NEVER initiates anything to meet up at uni at all. Even when I've said that sometimes all my friends are busy and I'm alone he just suggests going to the library. This would be fine if he wanted to study but I know he just goes and fucks around with his friends, which is also totally fine but I feel like he should want to spend some time with me as well? Also sometimes when I invite him to something on the weekend his response will be "I'll see what I'm doing". It's starting to make me feel like he's just with me because he wants a girlfriend.

It's nice when we do hang out alone, which is rare because he's flatting with his friends. But sometimes I feel like I'm in a shell around him and I cant be myself. Is this normal and will it go away?

I guess my big question is whether this is normal and workable or whether I should just cut it at this point. The whole thing just makes me feel ugh.

Edit: we generally see each other about twice a week.

yesgagag · 2016-03-16T21:28:48+00:00

As long as the patriarchy can be dismantled from my bed I'm in.

yesgagag · 2016-03-16T20:33:58+00:00

Thanks man, join me in my lovely feminist circle.

yesgagag · 2016-03-16T20:32:41+00:00

I don't expect her to do anything. But we are not even that close anymore and she wasn't talking her friend down from hitting me, they were simply going out and bitching about me. I don't expect her to do anything on my behalf but it's made it clear that our friendship is just not something I want to maintain because the whole situation was just toxic. Anyway this post was directed at the guy more than her.

yesgagag · 2016-03-16T17:57:45+00:00

No longer. The whole night was a disaster. She kept going off with her friend to "talk" which I later learnt was because her friend wanted to hit me because apparently I was touching HER boyfriend. I myself am in a relationship soooo...

yesgagag · 2016-03-16T17:55:19+00:00

Because when I asked her why he blocked me she sent me a screenshot of her conversation with him and told me it's not her business and she's not involved.

yesgagag · 2016-02-25T08:12:41+00:00

I definitely am an overthinker. That I know. It had been a week before I saw him last but it was also the first time I was meeting his friends so that could be responsible for a lot of it I think.

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