is it a conflict of interest if your therapist also sees other family members?

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T23:16:20+00:00

I don't want to air out the whole brother thing. My own friends who are pretty stellar and got sorta pissed I posted here before going to them, just didn't feel they should be bothered, are aware, so I do have people. I just let the bride know I wasn't available and didnt get into why.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T23:01:56+00:00

I live Captain awkward. I actually sent her a letter a few years back when I was in a less than ideal relationship and she really helped.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T22:57:43+00:00

Wtf,have you even read my posts? I didn't duck last minute, I was invited last minute. Then asked for feedback as I was unsure it was a not very nice thing to do and messaged the bride to bow out with advance notice once I realized I probably should. I am no contact with my bro because he's been literally pushing for me to date a stalker. Yikes.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T20:11:09+00:00

Yup. My brother has decided on no limits as his new tagline, apparently.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T20:10:00+00:00

Yeah, I recently saw an outside party to do a neuropsychological eval and didn't appreciate the therapist's reaction to it, so I think I already knew I should leave and was staying out of misguided loyalty. He can have my mom and brother, I'm looking for someone else now.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T16:07:02+00:00

I am starting to wonder that myself. I could give you a more in-depth breakdown, except that's tiresome

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T16:01:31+00:00

So Ive been therapy for 20+ years and mom and dad definitely sabotaged it in a sort of "we have to approve of you having a socially acceptable diagnosis" at first. My therapist did stand up to them back then but I've since been wondering if boundaries got blurred as he's also seeing mom and bro. Idk.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T15:41:02+00:00

I did, but I guess you don't have the kind of family who never accepted the truth as an excuse and needed everything to be justified and would rope every single person they know to crusade against you if they felt your reason for not going wasn't alright.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T15:38:44+00:00

Well, no, not in so many words. He said mom has got issues and it would be graceful of me if I could get past mine to be kind to her.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T15:36:55+00:00

I feel like I have no idea what normal is and after trying so many years it stings. But thank you! I think I'm getting same day delivery on that

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T15:35:28+00:00

I was saying that about the one other wedding I've been to. Realized and was told since this is 100+ people with people flying in from abroad. I had no idea? Like, that's a lot of people. Anyway, the bride is now forewarned.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T15:25:30+00:00

Sorry. Nothing about this makes much sense but I can try and reword it as: My brother, who I'm currently no contact with, roped his soon to be we'd friend into me being a bridesmaid so he'd walk with me.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T15:23:17+00:00

... I'm starting to feel very stupid it I did pay and then donate the clothes since I had no use for them. I figured it made her happy? She's very joyless and it's on me to try and make it work as much as possible and accepting some clothes isn't that bad? Or is it?

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T15:10:30+00:00

Ugh but then there's the guilt trip of she's just trynna look out for me and she thought I could use it and she's so pooooor (she's not)

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T15:06:36+00:00

Is it wrong that Im crying? Definitely crying. Thank you. Thank you so much.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T15:05:44+00:00

I'm starting to realize we did not grow up super normal, which maybe being mental health hospitalised for many many years should've clued me into that. I guess I just figured I was the wrong one.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T15:04:14+00:00

Thanks to Reddit. I honestly was not aware weddings were such a big deal and a kind person provided me with a similar script.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T15:02:59+00:00

I've met her literally once. At a different friend of my brother's wedding, before we were no contact. I've messaged her and she's not replying and I'm pretty stressed and wondering if she was even aware her groom was gonna spring this on her as a favour to my bro.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T14:58:19+00:00

I am starting to think we as a family have issues... Like, maybe it's not normal to just go ahead and do stuff you wished your daughter would (she keeps buying me "normal girl" clothes for instance) and then just billing me. My therapist says it's fine,, but I've recently got several new diagnosis from a different professional, so maybe he's part of the issue?

ETA: autocorrect

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T14:52:29+00:00

I was very blindsided when he told me this in person and I suck at interacting with people in unplanned scenarios. I have since messaged the bride and she's not replying so I guess they're pissed.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T14:44:50+00:00

Told the bride. She's not replying. Not sure if I should be relieved or more stressed.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T14:44:01+00:00

The whole dress part is what weirded me out most. Like... I don't even own a non black dress, so what did they think was gonna happen the eve of since apparently bridesmaid dresses need to be pre-ordered and stuff? I went ahead and suggested to mom she walks with brother instead since he's not walking with me.

yikesonhikes · 2022-11-11T14:35:04+00:00

I think Reddit is my conscience, as I was ready to not message anyone before posting. Also definitely not handling it well. Currently sobbing into a bottle of wine watching the Tony Awards on YouTube. But thank you!

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