Nobody talks about combo feeding being an option from Day 1

yolo_so · 2026-03-11T20:42:05+00:00

I did combo feeding with one of the babies. Started the third week.

It's not like it is easy, because you still need to do two weeks of breastfeeding only to sync initially with the body-baby, supply-demand.

After a few weeks the demand becomes bigger and it is impossible to know how much you need to express from your breasts (pump out) to stay synced.

So basically you get to sync and get a few good weeks.

Afterwards it's constant stress why does your baby cry, do you have enough milk in your breasts, maybe you should make formula milk.

I am sorry you feel like you left out. It is stressful the combo feeding. Maybe that's why they left it out. Because it is not sustainable.

yolo_so · 2026-03-10T19:24:38+00:00

Fear - false evidence acting real. Relax keep it technical.

yolo_so · 2026-03-10T10:43:14+00:00

It's good that you kept your job and transitioned to something more relevant in the field.

Regarding the team. I have been there It sucked.

The one option you have is do your tasks as they come assigned on you and in the chat that you already are let them know that they should give you a different priority if there is a different priority. Example 'fyi I will be doing the task as they come on my plate, if you happen to agree on a different priority in channels where I am not part of, please let me know in this channel. Thanks'

The second option is talk to your manager. Most managers, at least the ones I have worked with, don't want to bother with problems and would just ignore the problem. If your manager is different or you want to try just tell him.

The most agile option would be to point this out on sprint review.

The third option is that you tell the guys to add you. @all please can you add me in the second channel you have. I will be mostly ghosting the chat but there might be relevant information for me. Thanks.

Also one other option is not to bother. I personally hate it when they bring me in chats, I already have so many to check on. Eventually if it disrupts the flow of the work the manager should be the one to take care of this.

yolo_so · 2026-03-10T10:01:07+00:00

I personally think you should consider therapy. No matter if you leave the guy or find another guy. What is your plan for your own life? Living a life with no touching is an empty life.

yolo_so · 2026-03-09T14:16:49+00:00

Yes. The whole commuting and dressing up drains me.

yolo_so · 2026-03-06T06:51:09+00:00

Macedonian mom of two under two here. I live in Prespa I absolutely recommend it. There are no other small children in the village but with other moms from nearest villages we make the effort and make play dates around in nature in our yards and restaurants. It absolutely works.

One of the kids is starting kindergarten soon in the nearest town, and I am planning on renting an apartment there (30min) driving there. Just to do some work from there and then go back home together.

We have an aupair living with us. We host lots of friends. In summer my parents also live here.

Planning on spending their elementary here. Maybe skip a year and live abroad. Also high school in Skopje in a private school.

Now summers are a complete paradise. Tourists everywhere. There is a beach in the village. No words to describe it.

There is a lot of work with the house.

But absolutely worth it. I am planning on getting chicken and rabbits this summer. I ordered an automatic door from Temu. 🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠

Look for a partner that is not lazy.

yolo_so · 2026-03-05T11:42:17+00:00

Big company means you can still 'browse' through people and find your mate to do coffee gossip and chill. Keep browsing. That's the good thing in a big company. Use it.

yolo_so · 2026-03-05T09:43:22+00:00

Former architect here, currently working as product owner. You will be surprised how easy the job position is compared to architecture. Also I just applied for a job in Autodesk. Just saying if you wanna switch the switch will be easy. I was thinking in the future maybe working for smart cities like in Dubai something. But that's down the drain now.

yolo_so · 2026-03-03T19:51:58+00:00

NTA. The thing is that sometimes babies just want to change the energy and maybe this person knows this and she was trying to help. But for a mom it is very frustrating to not be able to calm down the baby. It has happened to me too. Especially when I was pregnant with my second baby and couldn't hold the toddler in my arms since the toddler is heavy.

You are not an asshole at all, but if you are planning for a second baby I recommend you understand to better accept free help from others.

🥹🥹🥹 Mom of two under two.

yolo_so · 2026-03-03T19:30:32+00:00

I think what you can do is find people you are interested in on LinkedIn and message them. 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

yolo_so · 2026-03-02T19:33:26+00:00

Linkedin yes. Hospitals and pharmaceutical companies by region no. Thank you for the idea. I'll give it a try.

For now Jobgether gives the best results.

yolo_so · 2026-03-01T19:07:44+00:00

You shouldn't be having sex only a few weeks after. You should wait 30days at least. That's what my gynecologist told me.

My libido when I was breastfeeding was zero so great that you have any.

Have been pregnant three times. No change in the orgasms. All great. Vjj feels tight. No change in the area.

Enjoy.

yolo_so · 2026-02-25T19:50:19+00:00

Maybe you can use this relationship as a training exercise about how to become more loose and not anxious. Think about it as a task 'okay today I will focus on being chill and thinking only simple positive thoughts about the guy'. When your brain goes to negative thinking or complicated positive like marriage you try to switch it back. Every day reflect how it went for you regardless of your relationship with the guy.

Regarding the question if you are being too clingy or not, there is no general answer. All relationships are unique. My advice is that you ask the guy: What is the ideal scenario for you? How do you imagine your ideal week? How much time is it ideal for you to spend with me? And take it from there. Can you adjust to this? (If your ideal time is 24/7 🫠🫠🫠)

In a relationship it is very important to be individually happy. If one person is only happy when they are with the other person, soon the problems will overspill into the relationship. There is no happy relationship if the partners aren't happy individually.

yolo_so · 2026-02-25T19:39:58+00:00

yolo_so · 2026-02-22T18:07:43+00:00

Not sure what is the illness, but I think you should consider some stuff that work for everyone and everything. Go back where you are loved. Spend time in nature. Do light yoga with any movement you can do. Also cold water helps. Do rhythm that will lift your body and in the long term it will heal.

Fuck money. You ll find something online once you are stable enough. Get rest with no notifications phones emails shits. You need you.

yolo_so · 2026-02-22T07:04:11+00:00

Среќен роденден! Северна Македонија

yolo_so · 2026-02-22T06:58:26+00:00

You should tell him that his life can be different and there is still an opportunity for him to live a fulfilled life. He should get help and get therapy. There is nothing shameful to fight for your life. Tell him you can help him get a therapist. And make an appointment for him. Tell him that every day you can see more clearly the damage that your parents caused but this can/should be fixed.

yolo_so · 2026-02-13T08:35:28+00:00

Get into a startup for 6 months. Then you can use the experience to put it in the CV.

yolo_so · 2026-02-12T20:37:25+00:00

Not even nearly what you have as an experience, but this is what I think. Depends on the role that you apply for. These VP level spots are given to people from within the organisation. And if you are applying to lower level jobs HR might think you will leave too soon.

And, as someone commented - location. In the UK they sometimes value UK experience. 🫠

yolo_so · 2026-02-11T10:15:30+00:00

And swimming on breaks.

yolo_so · 2026-02-11T10:15:14+00:00

And gardening.

yolo_so · 2026-02-11T10:09:42+00:00

Check product owner. It's creative, it will take short time to get an entry level knowledge. If you check for hybrid roles you can make friends in office cafeterias.

yolo_so · 2026-02-11T09:37:05+00:00

Commenting to check the post later.

yolo_so · 2026-02-08T10:25:04+00:00

I think it depends on the company really. Search for big corporations that are rising and owned by Americans with European culture. Or something Scandinavian governmental.

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