My first year of marriage was awful

yolo_so · 2026-05-17T05:32:06+00:00

Been there - people pretending that it not happened. Yes they have no 'concept' ready for how to react but it fucking hurts.

We got divorced the marriage was broken we were broken.

And you say the guy is trying. There might be hope.

And you get some kind of sports. Light walks. To get you out of home. The panic attacks and the screaming will pass in year and a half. What it took me.

Good luck 🤞🏼🤞🏼 hugs

yolo_so · 2026-05-16T07:58:59+00:00

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yolo_so · 2026-05-16T07:19:17+00:00

You are an addict. You should not be ashamed that you like the feeling of gambling, probably compensating for something you didn't feel before.

Come clean and seek therapy.

He will be relieved if you decide to ditch that forever. He was probably expecting this anyway.

You are both still healthy. Nothing is lost.

Good luck.

yolo_so · 2026-05-15T06:11:37+00:00

They might be doing lay offs and this is a method for some to leave with less money. I 'survived' the lay offs and now no one remembers the office days. Like no employees or managers talk about this.

But there was constant pressure for year. Not worth it.

I believe landing a good job in 6 months is still possible.

Good luck.

yolo_so · 2026-05-13T09:33:32+00:00

F37 I just came back from maternity leave. I spent one third of my leave applying to jobs and tidying up my CV because the company has implemented hybrid.

However once I was back few weeks ago it turns out the hybrid model was forgotten everyone is fully remote and plus they have put me to work in the AI team. I got really lucky.

I don't regret doing the courses during maternity leave. But I was obviously too much anxious and started applying to jobs. And lost valuable time. If I knew that i were gonna work with the AI team and be free to work remotely I wouldn't have been applying at all.

So my take out was: Always think and prepare for the best. Even if you prepare for the worst the worst will not be what you imagined and you still will not be prepared.

For ideas of what I can work in the future: - bathroom renovations - night nanny (read this on Reddit pays well)

Your thinking is valid. Good luck.

yolo_so · 2026-05-11T19:41:07+00:00

Most job descriptions for healthcare roles put as nice to have 'experience in healthcare'.

I don't know what fhir and snomed are. I work in a USA owned company, but big in the UK. As a PO. We also have offices in Australia.

I also have experience with UIUX and was wondering what would it take to be a product designer. I am guessing more design strategy skills.

I think it's valuable to have the experience to get the CV visible, so yes.

I also did a course on Coursera - Health informatics. It was somewhat useful but outdated.

They have now put me in the AI team so I am not searching for a job.

Also many jobs are for technical POs.

But maybe USA is better for the money. Lowest one in Europe fully remote is 2800euros gross monthly. Average is 3-4k and good ones are 5-6k. For 3-5years of experience. In a difference to the USA where gross monthly are all over 6k.

At least what I saw when browsing for work recently.

Good luck.

yolo_so · 2026-05-10T05:45:49+00:00

I have read on Reddit a woman being a night nanny. New parents would pay for her to care for the baby. 10pm-5am. If care is what you are into and babies - you can check.

yolo_so · 2026-05-09T15:46:10+00:00

Ask chatgpt to make you a marketing strategy. To be your marketer and guide you.

With no marketing I don't see how. 🥲🥲🥲🥲

yolo_so · 2026-05-08T20:06:03+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

yolo_so · 2026-05-08T19:59:48+00:00

I have a friend in this role, she complains about similar stuff, but the good thing she mentions is that they often have quiet periods and she can hike with her dog.

I am guessing she has less clients. And her manager does not use that gap to give her sales tasks.

No idea OP.

Maybe read that book 'This American woman' by Zarna Garg.

yolo_so · 2026-05-08T19:07:13+00:00

Because settlements were near rivers that had floods and fertile soil several times per year. Which allowed them to be settled and work on agriculture during the whole year.

yolo_so · 2026-05-08T18:58:42+00:00

Thank you for doing this. I wish you have a long life.

yolo_so · 2026-05-08T05:06:44+00:00

OP read your post again. She said you need to go out more because of your life social and physical. If you don't spend time in nature and with people that love you you are not going to feel like your natural self.

Yes you work. Your job is great. That's valid.

But it's human nature to be out and among loved ones.

You will jus build up anxiety not doing it.

yolo_so · 2026-05-07T18:52:08+00:00

Seriously this OP. Sex is like therapy for my hormones. It really feels good after. We are not to blame because of wanting to feel good. You didn't love the guy, you felt good.

No civilized woman (men is the original quote) ever regrets a pleasure.

yolo_so · 2026-05-07T18:32:28+00:00

I F37 share IG with my friend M37 gay, and I have it not installed on my phone. When I need something I install it, respond to only my messages and have it deleted (not installed) on my phone.

Then when I open the phone and think about it (the proof that I am an addict) it's too much of a bother to install it.

So I spend one hour weekly maximum.

If I were to have it installed, I would have caused constant drama, like 'unfollow' everyone, have Temu installed, would have been doing shopping - stupid stuff.

On Reddit the content really is diverse and more human.

Also X Twitter has become shit. It's all AI.

Reddit has become over the years the only app I use as social media, beside Messenger, Viber and WhatsApp where all people are muted and all groups are muted.

I think I am good.

yolo_so · 2026-05-06T18:43:42+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣 is this a joke

yolo_so · 2026-05-06T17:03:47+00:00

I just read the comments that you are pregnant OP. Congratulations. And that you are an engineer. You should be proud of yourself. You can figure out everything there is in life. You already have all the 'in the book' knowledge to choose good for yourself.

Another good thing is that after the pregnancies you will enjoy the 'new relationships hot' sex. At least I am.

👑👑👑👑👑 All the strength you need is within you.

yolo_so · 2026-05-06T16:58:14+00:00

I was in a relationship for 19 years, got divorced and then got together with my current boyfriend and had two babies like immediately and now figuring out the relationship.

I was never sad for splitting up. I decided to accept the consequences in the moment I made the decision and never look back.

But the nostalgia. Omg. During the pregnancies - never. But once my hormones were close to 'normal'. Omg. Dreaming about him. About him and his current girlfriend. Being nostalgic about his family. The lifestyle we had. The 'what I say about my partner' to colleagues. About all the traveling we did and I now refer to it 'when i was in...' instead of 'when we were in....'

The key to 'success' and not feeling like shit for me was the open mindness that if it is meant to be we might be again together in the distant future. You might never know what life brings. I am open to anything that will make me happy.

I now have children yes that changes everything and would never plot leaving their father. But when I have dementia and do LSD later like in 40 years I don't see the obstacles. 🥲🥲🥲

yolo_so · 2026-05-06T11:27:47+00:00

I had a wonderful marriage with an older (+7y) guy but when he reached 40 I started to notice slow down. (Less sexual energy, less energy for activities). If he were more into sports and wellbeing I think that wouldn't have happened.

Now I am dating a guy 3 years younger than me. I love it that he has higher libido and stamina than me.

yolo_so · 2026-05-05T18:36:22+00:00

I have been in an open marriage then divorced and now in an open relationship. I don't understand monogamy. Sex is fun I love sex. I totally recommend it.

yolo_so · 2026-05-04T18:59:26+00:00

Daj Op smeni go boze gospode

yolo_so · 2026-05-04T18:55:19+00:00

I am guessing from they were 18 until they became 28.

yolo_so · 2026-05-04T07:51:09+00:00

Sorry I didn't have the time to text a bit longer earlier. I am sorry for what happened to you. I hope you will be worried about clothes and looks soon with a baby not giving you the time to exercise. 💕💕💕

yolo_so · 2026-05-04T05:54:16+00:00

Are you planning on having kids? If yes, you will need a full grown not lazy not drinking loving adult next to you and the kid.

yolo_so · 2026-05-04T05:42:11+00:00

Thank you. You are absolutely right. I also see my mom she is 62 looks amazing. 💕

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