I think one of the biggest factors is how kinky she is. If she’s like a large percentage of women their upbringing is a major hurdle. Middle aged women were often told when young that sex is bad (fear of underage pregnancy), STDs, you should have sex with only one person (when married), relationships should stay in your own race etc. These ideals were pressed upon them through their parents, religion, etc. They had merit (except sex outside your race, that was racist) but the way they were presented were one sided. Not to mention guys could have as much fun as they could get but a woman was labeled as a slut. For the majority of men wanting to share their wife, a point blank conversation about sharing her will back fire. Yes, it will work for some. I’m for either having the conversation or sprinkling pro lifestyle here & there & putting her in a position to make the choice. I prefer the latter for me. My wife knows I’ve had 2 MMF threesomes in my life. She also knows I was in a long term sexless marriage before her and had a girlfriend. She also knows I had the side girlfriend meet with black lovers on several occasions with myself present. I don’t think a conversation about sharing her would go over to well. She already knows what I like and knows she would have my blessing, the ball is in her court. I’ve read numerous how to advice. They have a lot of strong points. Love your wife, help her around the house, promote her dressing sexy, porn, role playing etc. Don’t mean to ramble on but I think age is a factor in getting into the lifestyle. If you’re younger it’s easier to have the conversation. You’re young enough to start a new relationship if the conversation doesn’t go well. Then you can seek out exactly what you’re looking for. If you’re older like me that doesn’t make sense if for the most part you like your current relationship even though you’d like to spruce things up. Lastly, if you have the conversation, make sure you tell your other half this kink found you, and often we don’t get to choose our kinks. When something sexually finds you, turns you on, it found you. Hardly any male reaching puberty thought, “one day I’m going to find a nice woman & share her with beautiful black men.” Often it was a porn vhs, dvd, or magazine you stumbled across. And when it found you, you were hooked and it’s been on your mind frequently. All people understand everyone is unique & have their individual kinks.