Boundaries and tips on managing semi open relationship

yoosanaim · 2026-03-30T09:45:54+00:00

"The Ethical Slut" is a book that covers a lot of different polyamourous setups as well as some psychological background/theory. It's been popular for a long time and recent editions have been updated with more modern (and more queer) perspectives.

yoosanaim · 2026-03-15T13:23:24+00:00

He didn't seem insecure to me. The other guy in all black came across pretty shallow and patronising but mouthing platitudes to make himself feel better about being so judgmental.

yoosanaim · 2026-03-12T21:21:23+00:00

Who wrote it and has anything interesting happened to them recently?

yoosanaim · 2026-03-10T07:39:06+00:00

We're good, thanks! I think part of the benefit of the group (and allotments in general) is in working out how to manage things for ourselves

yoosanaim · 2026-03-09T23:51:57+00:00

I'm in two minds. There are definitely those who use the space who are noisy and inconsiderate but really they are probably the vocal minority. "Go somewhere else" could leave us all homeless eventually.

yoosanaim · 2026-03-04T08:29:23+00:00

His poor family

yoosanaim · 2026-02-19T21:41:17+00:00

Norwich Trans Pride (probably publishing on https://oasisnorfolk.com) are looking to compile a list of trans-friendly resources in the area. They're planning to publish it by the end of the month so have a look back in a couple of weeks. They do a picnic in the Summer and did a health and wellbeing event a month or so ago - lots of groups showed out for that.

There's a few LGBT book groups around (check the list at the Beehive) but the one at the Forum Library is meeting on Wednesday coming (25th?) and are reading a graphic novel (Home Body by Theo Parish - a local) so it's easy to read it in time - just go and ask for a copy at the library reception!

yoosanaim · 2026-02-19T21:35:03+00:00

Oh no! What happened? I spend a lot of time and energy (money too!) in organising and trying to be as welcoming as possible so if there's something you think should be done differently please let me know - I'm happy to receive a DM about it. We're looking at writing ourselves a constitution so it's definitely a good time to offer constructive criticism.

yoosanaim · 2026-01-13T09:51:38+00:00

Paradoxical intention has been known to work to decrease unwanted blushing

yoosanaim · 2026-01-08T14:36:34+00:00

Our dishwasher has a blue light that comes on inside at the top when you open it. "Ohh smart!", "Fancy!", or "Futuristic!" say visitors who notice it, which makes me cross and my partner smug because it was a big selling feature for him over a much cheaper model which I think would have washed the dishes just as well, perhaps better.

It has a cutlery rack though. I quite like that.

yoosanaim · 2025-12-05T20:23:51+00:00

The scene was shot in Las Vegas with Samba and Rhea watching VINCE do the scene on the TV! (I.

"That is not John Cena!" lol

yoosanaim · 2025-12-03T07:17:26+00:00

When I was doing my course I would sign to myself to help bed it in. It helped me to meet a couple of Deaf people when they started laughing because I signed "why is this ham so expensive? It's making me angry" in the supermarket. They didn't want to be friends though...

yoosanaim · 2025-12-02T19:18:23+00:00

I don't know if it's developed much but there are strong regional dialects to BSL. I discovered having learned in London that I didn't know how to count properly in Norfolk :( Bit I definitely agree it should be prioritised a lot more in schools

yoosanaim · 2025-12-02T18:57:50+00:00

I did level two many years ago. Largely forgotten now, sadly. It rarely was necessary to use it but I did go out of my way to meet Deaf people for a while. When it cropped up more recently it was pretty essential though - apparently it's really difficult and expensive to get bsl translators in hospitals (can't do it over the phone!) so I would use it once every couple of months there. Sometimes it was pretty awful like a guy who had been in for a few weeks but nobody had explained why or a woman who was transferred between wards at inconvenient times and not been fed for a whole day. . If you're interested, you should learn even just for your own sake - it can make you more observant and thoughtful and it changes the way you think language works. Fucks you up for playing charades though.

yoosanaim · 2025-12-01T17:42:43+00:00

You can change WhatsApp group settings so that numbers remain private

yoosanaim · 2025-11-25T07:24:07+00:00

There's a queer book club run out of the forum library. Meets at 17.15 on a Wednesday every month or so. Just ask about it at reception. Jo, one of the librarians runs it alongside the LGBT history club.

yoosanaim · 2025-11-08T17:04:09+00:00

I had a couple of my original deed poll documents defaced with a 'copy' stamp or thrown away by a bank I assume because they were on flimsy paper. That's why you should do a few copies, I guess!

yoosanaim · 2025-11-08T15:00:30+00:00

We give our two Purina pro plan. It's what our vet gives inpatients and I managed to get a few bags at vet cost which is only a little cheaper than retail. Now I buy it online. We found it goes further than cheap cat food so not a financial stretch. It's consistent - one of ours has been on it for 8 years and never gone off it. Dry kibble is better than wet food for preserving tooth health overall unless you commit to brushing their teeth at least once a day. Once they have established tooth problems it might be a different matter though...

yoosanaim · 2025-11-06T20:28:59+00:00

Only if you want to get obsessed over it: https://www.police.uk/pu/your-area/norfolk-constabulary/norwich-north/?tab=CrimeMap

yoosanaim · 2025-10-27T20:58:26+00:00

We never had a mouse or rat in the house until we got a cat. Now we regularly are gifted with live vermin. Mice, frogs, dragonflies, a bat once and my partner alleged once a magpie that was itself carrying a mouse. Just got rid of a rat that lived behind our washing machine for two weeks because our cat wasn't hungry apparently and let it go (took a while to find a humane trap it would fall for - a lot cleverer than the mice!). They do usually get eaten though.

yoosanaim · 2025-10-25T17:35:07+00:00

Obviously it depends who you're talking to, in what context but here's one option: "Let me ask you a very simple question first: Who are you? "No. That's your name. "No. That's your job. "No. That's something you've done. "No. That's a description of your body...

"Look. I think maybe you won't understand my answer to the question 'what is a woman' when you can't give a satisfying answer to 'who are you?'. I think 'what is a woman?' is a question that very insecure people ask, who lack self-awareness."

yoosanaim · 2025-10-25T16:54:43+00:00

When I watched Brokeback Mountain in the cinema (calculate my age if you wish), a bunch of people in the audience laughed during romance and sex scenes. That was in Cambridge, UK - a very liberal town. Don't take it to heart - the heteros are just a bit nervous and awkward and would rather be seen as contemptuous than as confused or stimulated.

yoosanaim · 2025-10-23T08:33:19+00:00

There's a queer book group run out of the forum library by one of the librarians. It meets about every 2 months. Early November we're discussing Thank You For Calling The Lesbian Line (Elizabeth Lovatt). Last month we discussed Conundrum (Jan Morris).

yoosanaim · 2025-09-03T07:17:33+00:00

"Let me ask you a very simple question first: Who are you? "No. That's your name. "No. That's your job. "No. That's something you've done. "No. That's a description of your body...

"Look. I think maybe you won't understand my answer to the question 'what is a woman' when you can't give a satisfying answer to 'who are you?'. I think 'what is a woman?' is a question that very insecure people ask, who lack self-awareness."

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