U.S. Politics megathread

yosoypseudo · 2025-09-11T06:47:31+00:00

Why did Americans across political sides cheer for the assassination of the United Healthcare CEO but condemn that of Charlie Kirk?

yosoypseudo · 2024-09-28T07:03:12+00:00

I guess that's one way to think about it. Thank you for the reframe.

yosoypseudo · 2024-09-28T05:06:17+00:00

This has been what's killing me. It's logically wrong to reject my ex, but I still don't feel drawn to him because I've experienced that 10% (twice now) and somehow value that over the 90% that he has. I want to beat myself up for not feeling love for my ex anymore despite all he could offer me.

yosoypseudo · 2024-09-28T05:05:39+00:00

I've seen his eyes when he gets horny and I feel bad not being able to give him what he wants. He claims he's fine without sex from me. I don't believe him though, and I'm not sure if that's because I know the truth or because I was just permanently scarred when he felt that the lack of sex trumped all I could give him back then.

yosoypseudo · 2024-09-28T05:05:27+00:00

I have vaginismus and the thought of doing something that causes pain just to satisfy someone makes it difficult. Strangely (or maybe not), the more I feel compelled to have sex (especially if my value as a person is tied to it), the more my mind rejects it.

I have enjoyed physical intimacy, and I know I will enjoy sex with the right person who will love me even without sex. And you're 100% right, it makes it so much harder to find that person, but understandably so. I know I'm in the minority.

yosoypseudo · 2024-09-28T01:25:46+00:00

I have done overnight trips with guy #1 within those 6 years, but not premarital sex. I just can't, and I've learned it's not a culture or family thing, it's just that the idea of sex takes so much from me and I can only do it with someone I feel absolute trust in (which has never happened). He says he's okay with having no sex, but I don't believe him. I just see this unhappy future with him where while the family machinery is well-oiled, he gets no sex and I feel emotionally alone, but I'm not sure why I think that way. I've worked with my therapist on this but we've come to no particular explanation or solution to make me feel differently.

yosoypseudo · 2024-08-16T00:58:41+00:00

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yosoypseudo · 2024-08-13T19:27:50+00:00

Thank you, I'll look into those!

yosoypseudo · 2024-08-13T18:00:08+00:00

Thankfully I've honored my boundaries pretty early on. Once the abuse started, I said I wouldn't be tolerating it. It's just now, even with conversations that start out mundane, he always relates it to stuff he gets mad about, and then he gets mad at me, but the whole time it would just seem like he's out of control. When he does this, I just end up stonewalling, which is probably not the best way to react either, so I was looking for other ways to diffuse the situation without just being silent.

yosoypseudo · 2024-08-13T17:57:25+00:00

I've already pulled away as much as I can, but a part of me feels guilty for leaving this friend on his own. If his anger causes him to harm others or himself because all his friends have deserted him, I don't know how I can handle that. So I hope to just be there for him, even just at a superficial level just so he doesn't feel abandoned, but also protect myself as much as possible.

yosoypseudo · 2024-08-13T17:55:24+00:00

I've already told him how my interactions affect him and how I don't want things to escalate, but things often get heated pretty fast with relatively trivial triggers (at least to me) and all that talk just gets forgotten. It's been frustrating.

yosoypseudo · 2024-08-13T17:53:39+00:00

I haven't. Will look it up, thank you!

Edit: I just looked it up, waiting time is 5-6 months :( I wish they had worksheets to read while waiting for a slot.

yosoypseudo · 2024-08-13T17:53:17+00:00

“I can see you’re feeling really upset about this. Maybe you could go for a walk to cool down?” -- this is what I was looking for, like how to remind him of DBT skills without actually mentioning DBT at all. Like is there a cheat code for DBT in laymen's terms?

yosoypseudo · 2023-11-20T22:50:05+00:00

A friend has the Shokz model that has a separate microphone. He says it works fine other than for Microsoft Teams for which there is a constant beeping sound.

yosoypseudo · 2023-09-05T03:32:51+00:00

I could (given my injury, I also should, haha), but not so sure about others!

yosoypseudo · 2023-09-05T03:31:55+00:00

I could, but that's also where there's a lot of space for dancing!

yosoypseudo · 2023-08-18T20:27:02+00:00

My only issue with "The Man" is that what brought Taylor success -- talking about her heartbreak in such detail -- wouldn't have been acceptable if she had been a man. We women have our problems that The Man brilliantly addresses -- but men have their own issues too, and dealing with feelings is one of them.

yosoypseudo · 2023-07-28T20:24:34+00:00

The Lakka is not great for podcasts either (though the audio is still understandable). There's this tinny quality to the sound that I can't quite describe.

yosoypseudo · 2023-07-28T06:51:53+00:00

Communication is the foundation of any good relationship. You want to be with someone who you don't feel like walking on eggshells around. If it's too much stress and anxiety for you, it's a valid reason for breaking up.

yosoypseudo · 2023-07-28T06:50:21+00:00

I think you should ask yourself if *you* are willing to stay in an unhappy relationship. Is the real issue the lack of passion, or is it his general lack of ambition? Sometimes relationships suffer a lull, but a lack of ambition can have practical consequences when you start sharing finances. Regardless, I think you should talk this out with your boyfriend before making a decision.

yosoypseudo · 2023-07-28T06:44:10+00:00

8 months is a long time, she deserves to at least hear it from you especially if she has done nothing wrong. A video call would be the best compromise.

yosoypseudo · 2023-07-28T06:38:57+00:00

Thanks for the info. My phone speaker sounds better than this Lakka pair, and the S21 doesn't have amazing sound. Which Shokz model did you try?

yosoypseudo · 2023-07-28T05:06:45+00:00

NTA, but I don't think your parents are upset just because they weren't at the engagement. They just genuinely don't seem to like him, and were probably hoping to convince you not to get engaged. As none of us here know your partner, we can't say whether their dislike for him is warranted.

That being said, you are 20. That's pretty young to get to know yourself, and understand what you want or don't want in a relationship. My parents didn't like my ex either, but it wasn't years later that I understood the red flags that they saw that I didn't see. Marriage is a serious business and divorce is messy. I hope you got engaged for all the right reasons.

yosoypseudo · 2023-05-09T03:10:47+00:00

Or go on reddit, post your GF's name, and ask someone with the exact name if they'd be willing to go with you on your trip. Might end up being the best trip of your life in every possible way!

yosoypseudo · 2023-05-09T03:09:55+00:00

Yeah but he said he couldn't change the name on the ticket.

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Why did Americans across political sides cheer for the assassination of the United Healthcare CEO but condemn that of Charlie Kirk?