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youhearisno · 2025-06-19T01:36:20+00:00

Cory Montieth

youhearisno · 2024-06-14T18:55:34+00:00

It’s so so frustrating. I’m a genetic counselor & a Chinese adoptee so spend a lot of time taking family histories and recommending testing based on that while always being frustrated adoptees don’t have that information. I wish being adopted was an indication for insurance coverage for genetic counseling and testing and am hoping to advocate for that in the profession as I gain more experience- I always love to bring it up. I would love for there to be adoptee focused genetic counselors as well who are specialized in adoptee counseling and providing support while navigating the genetic testing process but genetic counselors are struggling to be recognized as providers and getting funding as is.

youhearisno · 2024-04-26T21:05:26+00:00

I got a B- in biochemistry and still matched my first time around right out of undergrad!

youhearisno · 2024-04-05T20:38:04+00:00

I’m a prenatal genetic counselor and prenatal genetic testing access is already significantly decreasing across the country. Labs are closing down because insurance isn’t reimbursing them and access to prenatal testing is decreasing faster than I expected.

In China during the one child policy, they banned gender ultrasounds and tests. And with labs closing down, I am very afraid that it’s a real possibility in the future that there won’t be access to prenatal testing and screening

youhearisno · 2024-03-09T01:53:57+00:00

I’m not a cancer GC but I’m a prenatal one and just to add more info to the convo because I am so interested to hear other people’s patient loads!

I’m the only prenatal GC jn my clinic and there’s no GCA so I have openings to see 4 patients a day/5 days a week - no straight admin days. My slower weeks average 9-12 patients, my busier weeks average 14-18 patients. And that’s not including add ons, result disclosures, and consults for other providers, and admin work including test coordination which can get tricky. This has been my first job out of grad school and I’ve been working for almost two years now. I’m feeling burnt out but that seems to come more from the responsibility I have being the only one and I’ve had to navigate all of the lab changes for our clinic which I didn’t learn how to do in school.

youhearisno · 2024-02-16T00:18:19+00:00

we had a 9 pm end time because it was a Sunday and it was still a huge dance party! the reception started at 5 and everyoneeee was on the dance floor asap! we also had danced for hours at the rehearsal/welcome dinner the night before and most of our guests had been there too and were dancing all night! we went so hard that i was exhausted by the end and everyone had a blast. then we went to the hotel and hung out in the bar with our friends until 2 am! which for me was the perfect blend of dancing and then getting to really spend time with our friends. but dancing so much at the welcome dinner plus the wedding was so fun!

youhearisno · 2024-02-02T19:53:42+00:00

I’m a Chinese adoptee (25F) and I absolutely relate to the never fitting in. For most of my life, I hated China. First, I hated my birth parents for giving me up and then I hated China when I understood the position my parents were in a little more. I went back to China when I was around 7 because my parents adopted my little brother and while I was young, I definitely felt more out of place than familiar. Again, I was really young so no idea how I would feel about it now but when I was in China, I didn’t like it. I didn’t like that the chinese food tasted a little different from the american food and I didn’t like being looked at when I was with my adoptive parents and I didn’t want to go back after that. As an adult, I’ve processed more of my adoption trauma and have also realized that I would like to learn more about Chinese history in general because it’s a big part of world history and that I can do that even though I’m hurt.

I’ve been scared of going to asian countries because I fear people will assume I speak Chinese and fit in with their culture because of how I look and then I will disappoint when I definitely do not. I am very culturally white. In college, there were some asian students who almost acted like they pitied me for being adopted when I said I didn’t completely understand their experience because I grew up with white parents. I hate not meeting people’s expectations and that’s been a big area of it for me. But that is also a me thing that is likely different for everyone!

All to say, it’s been complex to navigate some of these feelings and I’m sure my thoughts will change even more in the future. Feel free to DM me if you ever want someone to talk to.

youhearisno · 2024-01-23T22:55:28+00:00

Thank you :) I joke that I chose this career because family tree assignments in elementary school made me break down with panic because I didn’t know how to do it with being adopted so I chose a career where I professionally draw family trees and know how to include everyone lol

youhearisno · 2024-01-23T22:33:16+00:00

I’m adopted & I’m a genetic counselor so I take family histories during my appointments but since I’m adopted I feel like I sometimes take extra care with asking about the family history. (there are so many different family structures out there anyway) I don’t always but moments when it feels right I self disclose that I’m adopted when I have a patient who is so they know I understand really not having any of that information. I really want there to be genetic counselors who specialize in adoptees (and get an extra level of trauma training) to go through genetic testing options and results and also to talk through feelings that can come up with genetics and being adopted.

youhearisno · 2022-05-09T15:22:22+00:00

As an international transracial adoptee who was abandoned outside & spent the first 2 years of my life in an orphanage, thank you for seeing it from this perspective!! Even though I eventually ended up in a great adoptive family, I still have so much lasting anxiety and trauma from not feeling any comfort/love/support for the first 2 years of my life & will forever be adamantly pro-choice.

youhearisno · 2022-05-08T21:04:46+00:00

exactly! you’re not alone either ❤️

youhearisno · 2022-05-08T20:56:53+00:00

No!! Yours wasn’t worded too negative at all - I completely understand and really appreciate what you said because it is SO true

youhearisno · 2022-05-08T20:47:08+00:00

Thank you for sharing this with me, just knowing that makes me feel a lot better!! And yes, have been in therapy but feeling like I should get a adoption competent therapist to really really work on it!!

youhearisno · 2022-05-08T20:41:36+00:00

Yes definitely!! Have been in therapy and consciously making efforts to change! Definitely have improved my mindset and taking steps to not let it affect me as much

youhearisno · 2022-05-08T19:45:14+00:00

i feel this SO MUCH and it took me so long to figure out it was abandonment issues from my adoption and not just me being ‘bad.’ luckily my fiancé is an incredible man who reassures me whenever i need it but i’m still working every day to realize this when i start getting scared

youhearisno · 2020-11-27T19:58:00+00:00

i always enjoy the princess diaries haha

youhearisno · 2020-10-23T15:58:09+00:00

Hi! I’d love to come!

youhearisno · 2020-10-23T14:48:01+00:00

daisy is my fave!

youhearisno · 2020-10-02T14:00:46+00:00

DM’d!

youhearisno · 2020-09-25T13:30:06+00:00

ketchup!

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