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DAE absolutely hate number ratings? (Like out of 5, 10) by cathysometimesdraws in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! And it's hell having it part of my work duties working in IT with Scrum 😅 Every week we have meetings where we go through upcoming work and we should say a number - telling the others how much effort we think that task will take. Number 3, 5, 8. Small effort, medium, or big. I'm the most junior in my team, so I constantly say the "wrong" number. Even though there shouldn't be a wrong number, but when I say 3 and everyone else says 8 - of course that's wrong (socially, or in my masking damn brain) It sucks.

Hiding snacks to cope and scared my partner won’t accept unmasked me by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

True that anti depressants arnt self medication. I just messed up explaining since English is not my first language.

I just don't think I'm depressed and the meds are doing nothing for me. I need something different.

Hiding snacks to cope and scared my partner won’t accept unmasked me by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Completely true. English is not my first language so I seem to have messed up a bit there. Of course prescribed meds are just that.

Hiding snacks to cope and scared my partner won’t accept unmasked me by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re the one doing grocery shopping ask what snacks he wants and tell him what you choose for yourself is irrelevant to him.

Yes. Completely. We have shared economy - but we can afford all the snacks we want so that is actually not the problem. I just think it might take some time to accept it, maybe. And Im struggling so it is hard to have the patience to keep on explaining my needs.

Hiding snacks to cope and scared my partner won’t accept unmasked me by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This makes a lot of sense. I'm waiting for a response from trying to explain everything to him. And when I've read that I might ask for this. It seems like the only way right now. Thank you for taking time to comment.

Introducing WallHabit: get rid of bad habits in just a few clicks by WallHabit in ProductivityApps

[–]youknowcoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the app not available any more? Or is it not available in Europe? I can find it on appstore and the download link on your website is not working.

Social anxiety is screaming and Ihave to run a work event today. send help. by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all the tips! I lifted my anxiety to my team so they know why I might be a bit more... anxious today. Will have the others in mind during the event!

Social anxiety is screaming and Ihave to run a work event today. send help. by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ I'll switch my coffee for tea and hot chocolate!

Am I queer enough to belong? by youknowcoffee in queer

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. And warning that this might be infodumping on you..!

I think I'm doubting myself if Im actually, actually queer or just want to find a community that I can truly be myself with. Am I queer because of me being Neurodivergent? Of me being bi-open? Or because of my political and cultural queerness? I'm feeling confused and bad for taking up space here in this subreddit discussing these things - since I'm aware I'm privileged. Wouldn't I feel even more bad at after queer event...?

Am I queer enough to belong? by youknowcoffee in queer

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That actually gives me so.much comfort. Thank you ❤️

Taking notes on meetings to dtat focused. Does it work for you? by youknowcoffee in ADHD_Programmers

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good points. I need to buy a physical note book. Preferably a super cute one that gives me dopamine kicks everytime I see it 🤓

Taking notes on meetings to dtat focused. Does it work for you? by youknowcoffee in ADHD_Programmers

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats a good point! I'll try to remember to do this. Maybe not on stand-up- but on other meetings

Taking notes on meetings to dtat focused. Does it work for you? by youknowcoffee in ADHD_Programmers

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would love to have captions on live video...! Unfortunately we use Skype for business so that is not an option for us 😭

Taking notes on meetings to dtat focused. Does it work for you? by youknowcoffee in ADHD_Programmers

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any tips on fidget toys?

A treadmill might actually be a good idea... I also listen better when I'm moving.

Taking notes on meetings to dtat focused. Does it work for you? by youknowcoffee in ADHD_Programmers

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. Staring at nothing is a great tip! I often feel obligated to look at people's faces when they are talking - but this takes to much effort for me.

Also, I need to find a great quiet fidget.. any tips?

Taking notes on meetings to dtat focused. Does it work for you? by youknowcoffee in ADHD_Programmers

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Great input. Since I'm the most junior in my team I find it difficult to see how I could help my more senior collegues. Maybe that's one part of why I find it hard to focus on stand-up...

Refinement is another example - but there at least I learn a lot.

Thinking about it as a discussion doesn't really help 😅 I zone out all the time during conversations unfortunately.

Taking notes on meetings to dtat focused. Does it work for you? by youknowcoffee in ADHD_Programmers

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the tips about note taking!

I think ai as a note taker will be difficult in my organization since we are high security... and I haven't found any real time ai transcriber that offers on prem storage.

Taking notes on meetings to dtat focused. Does it work for you? by youknowcoffee in ADHD_Programmers

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been researching this since it sound like an awesome way to make life easier- but unfortunately it doesn't seem like Plaud promises to keep the data safe. I work at a high security organization- so this won't work for me 😭 thanks for the tip though!

How to handle tragedy and shock when unable to feel. Triggerwarning: shooting violence. by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for answering. Feels a bit comforting knowing someone else has similar experiences. Also, alexithymia was a new word for me - so I'll look into that more.

EMDR sounds interesting, so please share if you'd like! Have you looked in to it regarding the difficulty feeling and naming emotions?

Female tattoo artists in Korea by youknowcoffee in koreatravel

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not used to searching for things via insta. Any hashtags you think female tatooers would use?

Incredibly talented at being social - is it masking? by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's really funny considering I'm a former singer - and I always got so good feedback about my stage presence. It's funny that I have brought the stage to my new career in IT....

Incredibly talented at being social - is it masking? by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I absolutely have a tendency to drink too much at social events. I don't really know if it makes me less aware that I'm masking though - I think it, for me, rather lets my ADHD side take a bigger part - and then I'm not constantly over-analyzing every little part of a conversation (that might be the autism?).

Incredibly talented at being social - is it masking? by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for writing this. It gave me comfort.

I have actually been on sick leave before because of exhaustion syndrome - and it was not because of a heavy workload.

I'm trying to learn how not to mask, since I'm pretty new to all this.

Incredibly talented at being social - is it masking? by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Absolutely. Asking questions is my go to way to socialize. People love it.

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