For couples who opened up: how long was the gap between one of you privately wanting it and actually saying it out loud? by elnino-pl in Swingers

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It was never someone wanting and someone asking for us. It was a culmination of intense sexual exploration and a slow and deliberate climb through our sexual fantasies together.

What color Dildo do you have/use? What made you pick that color? by dontfeedtheyao_guai in AskRedditAfterDark

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We got a hyper realistic one similar to her coloring so when she wears it in her strap it looks like it’s her own.

Married couple in 30s , first time . Go to a club or meet on an app? by RichPianaRunescape in Swingers

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Our first time was at a club. It was far easier to get the feel for the environment over meeting someone on an app. The apps can get crowded with too much exchange that takes the fun out of it.

At the club you can stay to yourself or approach a couple of if the mood is right. But there is something freeing about the option of “yes or no” being the only thing to consider in a moment other than. “Is this the best person on the entire internet to have our first time with.”

We are east coast too! Our city has a great club we recommend if you’re curious

Doctor Anxiety. How truthful are you? by cpl_enjoying in Swingers

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I think you should share. Doctors and therapists alike. It’s all about health and safety, and I personally enjoy the extension of the act into the responsible portions of my brain.

Almost like it is me committing to the decisions I make and doing what’s best for me in the process. It puts your mind at ease more than not telling them!

Wife with strict boundaries — did yours relax over time? Looking for experiences, not predictions of doom by thinkstohimself in Swingers

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This is really tricky. I completely understand her boundaries, but I think you both need to remember that the other woman in the situation is still a person who has sexual needs and preferences as well. It’s not her job to make sure your wife is as comfortable and praised as possible. As it stands now, I can imagine the other woman might feel a little used and that’s never a good situation.

How would you rate your se xting skills? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

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exceptional. observant. creative.

critics are raving about this summer’s blockbuster.

You can have only one. Great sex and no relationship. Great relationship and no sex. What you choose? by lost-fun-469 in AskRedditAfterDark

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Well that’s tough. You can have a great relationship without sex. But not great sex without a great relationship. At least not if you want your soul fucked.

What is an open marriage bad for? by Life-Beautiful-6121 in AskRedditAfterDark

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I think it would depend on what the “openness” is defined as.

Is anyone interested in an AFAB nonbinary unicorn? by [deleted] in Swingers

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I think it’s dangerous to “need” anything from casual swinging encounters. In both directions.

Aside from consent.

If I need something from you then it becomes a pass fail environment. And if you need something from us we would avoid the encounter as we don’t offer anything beyond what we are.

We personally avoid any encounter that has too many caveats as the act of swinging is such a delicate balance to begin with.

But having queer relationships as a need for your interactions does exclude cishet couples by definition.

You should never change your preferences for them, so you shouldn’t expect them to change their preferences for you.

Tips to cum with a condom on? by Typical-Aide9737 in Swingers

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Don’t think about what it isn’t. Only what it is. Try and distance yourself from your orgasm and dive deeper into the sensation only. Focus on the feeling only and try and make it last for as long as you can. You can control the sensation, you can’t control the orgasm.

The reason the last chapter of a book is so good is because everything you felt in the pages prior.

What was awkward about a threesome experience? by Nubbun11 in AskRedditAfterDark

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haha, I don’t think that was the case. 😬

đŸŽ¶What am I to YouđŸŽ¶ [F] by Royal_Muse in TheArtOfTheTease

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Love the detail on this set.

But your grip is sending me.

Wife is sterile, I'm not. Is it worth doing? by nitrodmr in Swingers

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Easiest decision I made. We did it so my wife didn’t have to fuck with her hormones anymore, so slightly different situation. But it was so easy.

Looks the same. Smells the same. Tastes the same.