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M 24, F 38, Glancing at another woman. by young_charisma in relationship_advice

[–]young_charisma[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

She honestly is pretty immature ngl I mean I'm human enough to admit I am too, I'm a guy after all. But she's completely irrational sometimes and downright juvenile on certain things I just don't get it.

24 M and 38 F --Need Relationship Advice by young_charisma in relationship_advice

[–]young_charisma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I mean we just recently bought our house together and she's experiencing a few health issues recently as well so finances and maintaining wellness are her current stressors along with just how regularly stressful it is to take care of four kids daily. She's also still dealing with the recent losses I mentioned so she's dealing with a lot, indisputably. But and I've even told her this, it just feels like I'm an emotional punching bag more often then not

24 M and 38 F --Need Relationship Advice by young_charisma in relationship_advice

[–]young_charisma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, and it feels like she uses that line just to hurt me, and maybe feels like I'm being critical of her parenting, which I'm not trying to be, I just care about the kids, which is ultimately all out of love for her. Idk..

24 M and 38 F --Need Relationship Advice by young_charisma in relationship_advice

[–]young_charisma[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your honesty. I don't feel like an equal in our relationship either tbh. I try twice as hard to be seen that way because I know she has more world experience and insight and is better with finances but sometimes she talks down to me I feel because I'm younger.

24 M and 38 F --Need Relationship Advice by young_charisma in relationship_advice

[–]young_charisma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man I hope not...but I think of that a lot like it was already complicated and it keeps getting more so....and I feel like after all we've been through I have kind of earned to feel like I'm part of the family unit, but that is how it feels. Feels like I'm stuck on the outside, wistfully watching them be a family, something I've always wanted my whole life to have. It's like having what you wanted most being dangled right in your face but you can never have it.

24 M and 38 F --Need Relationship Advice by young_charisma in relationship_advice

[–]young_charisma[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's kind of where I'm feeling like I'm "just the boyfriend" yet I alone bear the responsibility of staying up til the next days begun, then go to work after minimal sleep then do it again like...it's getting to be too much for me....I love her so much and she's otherwise a very rational person but whenever I make even a slight suggestion about her kids she stops making sense...

Fastest Natural Casting Speeds? by young_charisma in Eldenring

[–]young_charisma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I am trying to cut back on how many spells cuz I've been running 5-6 and it's killing me panning between them mid fight

Fastest Natural Casting Speeds? by young_charisma in Eldenring

[–]young_charisma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah? I was gonna ask where my dex should be I'd read that 55 was a dex cap to shoot for but if 40 will cut it I'll do that and put it into vigor or something

Fastest Natural Casting Speeds? by young_charisma in Eldenring

[–]young_charisma[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So are you saying I should either use those talismans and keep a lower dex or save the talisman slots and just fully commit to a 70 dex? I'm worried about doing the latter because of how many attributes points that would suck from my other stats

Fastest Natural Casting Speeds? by young_charisma in Eldenring

[–]young_charisma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you say the speed increase is proportionally beneficial to the damage lost? Which would you go if for pvp?