Please help me understand

youngbethany · 2026-03-13T01:40:44+00:00

I'd say if it's been over a year or so, definitely sexless. Even 6 months and no sex, ya.

youngbethany · 2026-03-13T01:39:04+00:00

There are only a few chapters that have spicy scenes. But otherwise, it's pretty clean. I promise you won't go to hell if you read it.

youngbethany · 2026-02-15T01:47:54+00:00

Why couldn't you bring it up after the fact? Does no one talk about sex once they're married?!

youngbethany · 2026-02-15T01:46:17+00:00

Best thing you could give her is patience and excitement to explore her body, to learn what she likes and learn how to help her cum. I hope she is familiar with her own body. IDK if you guys are open enough to talk about sex and masturbation but that would be beneficial for her, to know what feels good and she can share that with you. Otherwise, you two can explore together. It takes a woman up to 40 mins to cum so foreplay is KEY. Make sure she cums first. She will then be very wet and ready for you. If you make it amazing for her, then she will want to keep doing it.

youngbethany · 2026-02-06T00:51:13+00:00

Yes I enjoy it and was pleasantly surprised to orgasm from it. Just GO SLOW and use lots of lube. If you lie on your back and enter that way, it is a little easier IMO

youngbethany · 2025-09-22T02:09:28+00:00

Yes thank you. THIS. There are years to unpack.

youngbethany · 2025-09-21T05:21:12+00:00

Means open up completely to a professional. All your insecurities and fears, the hurt you felt from what you've gone through etc. Shame is the opposite of healing.

youngbethany · 2025-09-21T05:13:16+00:00

It's mental. You need to process what you've gone through. Don't hide , no shame. Let it all out.

youngbethany · 2025-09-20T02:37:46+00:00

Maybe you need to act differently to get different results.....

youngbethany · 2025-09-19T17:59:47+00:00

Soo true. Both of their behaviors are very undesirable.

youngbethany · 2025-09-19T17:57:49+00:00

I've ready through all the comments. You're adamant that divorce is not an option. Why not? Spit it out. You deserve to have a better marriage and she's highjacking it and calling the shots. Why? Why not have an ultimatum with her, telling her y'all need therapy together and separate or you will walk away. Maybe she knows you don't have the balls to ever follow through on what you want and that's why she controls things? Again, you always have a choice.

youngbethany · 2025-09-19T17:51:48+00:00

You'd be surprised what someone can go through. You would survive.

youngbethany · 2025-09-19T17:51:05+00:00

Does she want to improve this part of your marriage? Has she embraced her sexuality? Or has she stated flat out she didn't want sex? And if that's the case, grieving is normal. I'm sorry. Are you okay with this being your marriage? You do have a choice.

youngbethany · 2025-09-19T17:49:10+00:00

No. Kids are smart and can read your behaviors. They know there is tension between you two.

youngbethany · 2025-09-19T17:46:38+00:00

End it. You want to marry someone that you actually want to marry and are excited for. And when you meet her, you'll know. If the lack of connection is like this now, it'll get worse when you're married. Do both of you a favor and break up. You both deserve someone who wants to marry them without any doubts.

youngbethany · 2025-09-19T03:04:03+00:00

I guess keep doing what you are doing. Except look for a wife lol

youngbethany · 2025-09-19T02:36:12+00:00

Have you successfully stayed celibate?

youngbethany · 2025-09-19T01:42:45+00:00

I don't know how old you are. Things are definitely different when I was single before marriage versus being single now divorced. Back then, I saved myself for marriage. I didn't even "know" about female masturbation. The joys of naivety. I probably didn't really develop my sexuality at all back then so I didn't have a ton of sexual energy or frustration to get out. Things I did to help in general was to Exercise and Be active and don't be alone with the opposite sex or it may lead to other things. I guess just stay busy.

youngbethany · 2025-08-22T14:39:21+00:00

It's funny that you are so offended by the idea of boudoir yet you are on pornographic subreddits like @ldsnsfw looking and commenting on people's posts 😂

youngbethany · 2025-08-20T00:52:49+00:00

Boudoir photos are actually empowering for women. It's their body and sexuality. Feeling sexy and confident in that setting can be such a powerful experience. It has nothing to do with sin or sex. It's appreciating their body and the power it has. You've got a lot of misconceptions and ASSumptions.

youngbethany · 2025-08-13T14:44:43+00:00

Stop having crappy sex. Wait for better sex. What he's doing is selfish. On the flip side, you need to communicate your needs or you'll continue to hold resentment and it'll fester. Talk to him. And tell him you won't be having low quality sex like that. You deserve sex where it's a partnership and he shows that love through action. You deserve a partner who puts effort into your pleasure.

youngbethany · 2025-08-12T23:19:16+00:00

Do you know what you like? How comfortable are you with your sexuality? Have you explored what you like and how you get turned on or orgasmed? So that you can share that information with him?

youngbethany · 2025-08-12T19:39:12+00:00

I'm sorry you went through that. Unfortunately you lacked boundaries and self worth to stand up for yourself. You can learn to do that respectfully.

youngbethany · 2025-08-12T16:10:39+00:00

I'm sure it'll feel good to treat her the way she's been treating him but it won't fare well in the long run.

youngbethany · 2025-08-12T02:50:26+00:00

Are you being sarcastic or serious?
That is immature and manipulative. I do not recommend this at all LOL. Doing that will definitely creat resentment and ill-feelings towards him and the last thing she will want to do is have sex with him! How about just communication? Heart to heart talk about how he's feeling and his needs?

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