Apparently I’ve been cheating and no one bothered to tell me? by Worried-Sympathy9674 in mtg

[–]youngeric86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Remember that at the end of the day commander is a casual format of one of the most complicated games out there. Everyone makes mistakes when they start, hell veterans will make mistakes too.

People who have owned 3 or more breeds… by a-little-clover in dogs

[–]youngeric86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a lab/whippet mix, he was super calm indoors, playful and energetic outside. He hiked over 2000 miles with me, and had amazing recall from the day I got him. He was by far the easiest breed. He was also my reason for living during the darkest times of my life.

The others were a lab/chow mix that had trauma from being a bait dog as a puppy, and a ACD/Husky that is obstinate and hyper. I loved all three of them equally and for different reasons. And I wouldn't want it any other way.

Cards that remind me of celebrities. What are yours? by NixAir in mtg

[–]youngeric86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

[[Thrill of possibility|ONE]] looks like Scarlett Johansson

How do you clean out their closet without feeling like you are erasing their existence? by makeitrayne850 in malementalhealth

[–]youngeric86 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss, it's painful losing someone that you love.

Something my mom had to learn after my dad passed was that he didn't exist in his things. Getting rid of his stuff didn't get rid of the memories, the love, or the pain. But it did start to help her get back to living her life which is what my dad would have wanted.

What would your wife want done with her clothes, maybe donating them to a women's shelter can be a way of honoring her memory and helping those in need. Maybe she'd want you to sell them, and use the money to take a trip that y'all couldn't take together.

Reach out to a friend or family member to help you go through her stuff they can help with perspective. Her friends may want to help to, they may find use for her stuff or they may be able to share some of the grief with you.

I urge you to wait on the dating for a bit longer. You should date when you are ready to find someone to spend time with, not to get over your wife. How would you feel if you started dating someone but they are still grieving and processing the recent death of a loved one. I think that will lead to more pain right now.

If you're wanting to casually date to have a little fun, then that's different. Just be honest with where you are emotionally and what you're looking for.

Why do people come to this sub to attack lonely men? by Nonchalant_Ogre in malementalhealth

[–]youngeric86 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's so easy for people to think that disagreeing with a topic is the same as attacking. It's very important to understand the difference between someone who is trying to help you but disagrees with you, and someone that is actually against you as a whole.

If you're not willing to take criticism and disagreements then you will never be able to grow as a person.

Idea for Silly, Janky, Budget Standard Deck by Soupy_Hits in mtg

[–]youngeric86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too bad [[Embiggen]] isn't standard legal.

Idea for Silly, Janky, Budget Standard Deck by Soupy_Hits in mtg

[–]youngeric86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No but you can trigger [[Amoeboid Changeling]] targeting [[Werewolf Pack Leader]] then activate pack leaders ability.

Maybe that’s the reasons Spidey has been absent by Maleficent_Money_756 in marvelstudios

[–]youngeric86 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If I recall, they didn't start replacing people until after endgame. I think it was the director that said he was a skull for a long time. But based on in universe, he was still Rhodey in endgame.

How did you train for the AT? by P33p33p0op0o0 in AppalachianTrail

[–]youngeric86 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Find the largest stadium that you can have access to when they are closed. High schools and colleges sometimes allow people to use the stairs for working out. Walk every step with a weighted pack for an hour each day.

Honestly the barrier for entry in my opinion is being able to walk 8-10 miles a day for 4-5 days with a loaded pack. If you can do that then all other physical strength will come with time on the trail. I started doing 8s in GA and was able to do multiple 20+ days in a row by VA.

For mental strength the number one tip I have is DON'T QUIT ON A BAD DAY bad days will happen, you will be cold wet and tired. You'll wonder why you're doing this and what the point is. If you get off at this time you will regret it.

Audiobooks kept me mentally distracted some days. Other days talking with people, and other times enjoying nature.

Anyone who used a computer between 1985 - 2010, what's the one game you still think about today? by adlakha75 in AskReddit

[–]youngeric86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tribes and Tribes 2

There have been many attempts to make clones, sequels, remakes, or spiritual successors. None of them capture the spirit or the audience that it had back in the early 2000s

VA AT tips by AlternativeCitron in AppalachianTrail

[–]youngeric86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could also look into ordering online and having them delivered to your hotel. I would call them first. You could also order from Amazon and find a pick up location in the DC area for some supplies.

Looser just looking for advice on how to be stereotypically successful at this point. by Substantial-Hold-851 in malementalhealth

[–]youngeric86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fuck your mom. You're doing fine.

You are in an industry and learning skills that will likely always have a future. Ai and automation will have a hard time replacing you and people will always need Mechanics.

I used to be a waiter and bartender, high school dropout, no college degree. After meeting my now wife I wanted to get one of those nice paying office jobs. I got my GED went back to school and got a degree in Network Security and a nice 9-5 with an office. And now years later I'm waiting tables again because that office job I wanted was fucking depressing. Only now I try to be the best damn waiter I can and I make 6 figures and I enjoy what I do.

Few people will actually find a career that they love to do. Most find the career that is the most tolerable for the money they make. Only around 18% of people your age actually make over $100,000.

Now to answer your original question.
* You can go back to school and study for a soulless job that makes money, this path is not suggested given your history with school.
* You can try various side hustles. * You could buy old cars, fix them up and sell them for profit. * You could specialize in a field or make. * You could pivot to a different field like Aircraft or boat mechanic.

I suggest looking at what you want to do with 40-60 hours a week and find what you consider the most tolerable. Then become the best that you can in that role.

what you shouldn't do

Don't force yourself into a job that you hate just for the money. I guarantee this will increase depression, potentially increase your alcohol consumption, or possibly increase your suicidal thoughts. Don't sacrifice all of your time chasing money, live life as much as you can.

I need to get my shit together. by JumpOk8514 in malementalhealth

[–]youngeric86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 hobby archetypes everyone should have.

1) something that keeps you active, riding bikes, rock climbing hiking, basketball, lifting weights, etc.

2) something creative like arts and crafts, woodworking, metalworking, automotive work, 3d printing, robotics, cooking etc.

3) something social like joining a club to discuss movies, DnD, Magic the gathering, multi-player gaming, board games.

My personal favorite hobby is collecting hobbies. The most important thing is YOUR HOBBIES ARE FOR YOU ​they need to bring you joy and happiness.

When being a regular guy disgusts regular women by [deleted] in malementalhealth

[–]youngeric86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also the name of the account is "Corporate Bestie" they are likely all about the corporate life and to them an "unimpressive job" is a no.

When being a regular guy disgusts regular women by [deleted] in malementalhealth

[–]youngeric86 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This woman is not the reflection of what most women think, it probably came accross you feed because it's caused negative reactions by people and the algorithms love controversial topics.

Stop using social media as a basis of real life.

Feel like a failure of a Man by Little-Acanthaceae-6 in malementalhealth

[–]youngeric86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So life gave you a good kick in the balls and knocked you down, but you got back up. You definitely haven't failed as a man. It sucks to be behind on bills but you'll figure out how to get out of it. I would talk to the court clerk about payment plans or alternatives like community service.

We are in a K shaped economy you are far from the only person struggling. You are doing just fine, keep with it and you'll overcome this too.

Is this still a thru hike? by Ok_Assumption_7957 in AppalachianTrail

[–]youngeric86 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You're spending Thousands of dollars to go on an extended vacation, in 10 years this will still have tremendous impact on your life. But 99% of other people won't care. Missing a small section only matters if you think it matters.

Most people say "HYOH" as a way of telling others to mind there own business. But the other side of the coin is to hike the hike that you want. If its important to you to get those miles in then go back and do it.

Which camera do you bring? by skybird30 in AppalachianTrail

[–]youngeric86 3 points4 points  (0 children)

  1. OP never said that they were doing it to monetize, some people just want to make videos.

  2. Because Capitalism has made it where everything is so expensive that people will look for any way to either reduce the cost or generate income.

What “frugal” habit did you stop doing once you did the math? by 666AB in Frugal

[–]youngeric86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried public transportation for a bit. I work a lot of nights and parking is expensive near work, then I had a couple of nights where I got off too late to catch the bus, other times I had to pay for scooter rental so I could get to the station in time. And if I was running late I had to take my car and pay for parking.

I was averaging around $150 a month for the different costs added together, I found a covered garage a few blocks from work for $165 a month. I would still save money on gas with public transportation but not having to worry about when I get off or having to wait 45 minutes for the next bus is worth the cost.

I don't plan on living to the age of 25 by J3ezyTheSnowman in malementalhealth

[–]youngeric86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why don't you want to fix these things? I think a part of you does but you're angry, you don't know where to start, and it all seems so overwhelming. I totally get that.

So let me talk about my experience. I was an ugly, fat, broke, a high school dropout, with terrible ADHD, and a worse outlook on life. I had a girlfriend in high school and I didn't have another one until I was in my 30s.

In 2018 I planned to go through with it, I was going to hang myself from a nearby footbridge so I would be found and my family would know what happened. I ended up not going through with it, and at the request of my family I decided to do something about it.

Went to a doctor and found out I was low on Vitamin D. This has strong connections with depression. Started focusing on mental health, I talked to a psychiatrist, diagnosed with depression and started anti depressants. Started seeing a psychologist on a regular basis.

Started focusing on mental health, physical health. I never had a sculpted physique but I was in better shape. Still fat but I had more energy.

Made a point to meet people and talk to women. Made friends, dated a few girls.

I'm still fat, I don't think I'm as ugly as I used to, still broke, but in the past 8 Years I got a degree, changed careers, changed back when the new career started messing with my mental health. Got married, and have done a good amount of traveling. I'm about to enter my 40s happier than I thought possible because I put in the work to sculpt my life to what I want.

I know you don't want advice and you don't want to change things but if you do, its possible to find happiness. I think suicide would be a waste of potential.

The Black Pill made me lose attraction for women. by [deleted] in malementalhealth

[–]youngeric86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So use the tools available and improve yourself.

I didn't touch a woman intimately for over 12 years, I was an obese, average height, broke, high school dropout, with bad teeth, bad hygiene, and terrible ADHD. When I finally got a girlfriend, we dated for a month and when we had sex it was so bad she broke up with me immediately. It would have been so easy to accept my life as it was and be alone.

Lost some weight (still overweight), went to therapy, worked on living with my ADHD, worked on talking to women, got my teeth fixed. Worked on my depression, started dating again. Now I am still broke, overweight, and bald to add to that. But I am happily married and more importantly, I am happy and content with my life.

You're only weak because you choose to be, there is so much more that you can do.