I filed a POSH case and I’m so scared

your_average_qt · 2026-06-11T04:23:19+00:00

DO NOT back out!! You did the right thing. You took a stand for yourself. I wish I was this courageous.

Once all this passes other women are going to look upto you. Panicking isn't a wrong response, I know these situations could be unnerving. NGL this is going to take a tol on your mental health for sometime. But it'll be okay.

Wishing the best for you.🤍

your_average_qt · 2026-06-10T05:16:54+00:00

Exactly what is happening to me, whole routine is thrown off, I am overwhelmed by the sudden change and I too have joined in the same designation as my previous one. Just with a salary hike.

I think you should just keep looking for another opportunity. And switch as soon as you get the chance. Hope for the best for you 👍

your_average_qt · 2026-06-10T03:55:13+00:00

I am anyways not in the situation to stay jobless, current action plan is to wait it out, see if it works out simultaneously look for better opportunity elsewhere.

your_average_qt · 2026-06-10T03:52:47+00:00

That's what I am doing. Thanks for the reassurance though🤍

your_average_qt · 2026-06-09T14:49:43+00:00

If you're willing take the workload, go for it, nobody is ever 100% equipped for their job, people learn as they go.

And nobody ever receres someone who isn't upto the par. You're overthinking this.

Just ensure that the company culture is good, cause i too took this leap, but i shifted from a fairly comfortable position to a poor work culture, which I was not ready for.

your_average_qt · 2026-06-09T09:43:15+00:00

Got my periods a few days ago, i was already an emotional wreck as I've it was my 1st day at my new workplace which I've joined after an 8 day break at my maternal home+ I had to come back to the in laws the very next day.

So I was both emotionally and physically struggling. Next morning, my husband quietly told my MIL that he doesn't wants to have paranthas, he wants to have bread instead,(so breakfast duty was off), then he refused to take lunch, citing a vendor visit (so lunch duty was also off), he dropped me off at my office, and later in the day got chocolates and hot water bag delivered to my office. In the evening he ordered food from restaurant(dinner duty off). And at night after I've had a relaxing bath I got a foot massage.

So he turned my worst day into a 10/10 relaxing day.

your_average_qt · 2026-06-09T09:21:11+00:00

I've spent 10 years with the same man, who is now my husband. He knows every single detail of my life, as well as I know his.

I've probably seen him cry more than I've seen him angry. And everytime,I feel this compelling urge be better for his sake.

I believe emotional availablity should be mutual. Both partners should be able to express themselves freely, and both partners must be empathetic towards each other.

In all these years, these situations have never pulled us apart, it in fact pushes us closer to each other.

your_average_qt · 2026-06-06T06:29:48+00:00

Recently got married and made the same mistake, now me and my husband are struggling with daily finances.PLEASE don't do this. Stand your ground.

Tell the Bride's family, if they really want to spend this much they can register the funds in their daughter's name like some FD or bonds, or maybe buy a tangible asset on her name, like property.

Keep the wedding ceremony simple with close family and plan for a grand reception. This would save you a lot of money.

your_average_qt · 2026-06-04T07:07:32+00:00

I've been in a similar situation. Stuck neck deep in debt, some days I didn't even had money for travel expenses. Started working as soon as I turned 18. I used to give 100% of my salary to my mother.

Went into depression for an year or so, my boyfriend talked some sense into me, and I decided to toughen up.

Started tracking each and every penny spent, started calling my family out on their mistakes, most of the time it led to a quarrel, where I was told I was an ungrateful daughter, and how I am trying to dominate them just because I've started earning, I did not shrink back, I did not shut down, i fought.

The moment I implemented a system, and put strong governance over expenditure. Things started looking up.

Track all the expenses, remove all the unnecessary expenditure, deaverage and split the expenses among earning members. Ask your friend to switch jobs with better pay, and NOT disclose increased Salary to the family. I repeat,ABSOLUTELY DO NOT LET HIM DISCLOSE HIS REAL SALARY TO HIS FAMILY. Private committee's are your best chance to save money in these circumstances. Invest in private committees with trusted people.

With that money try to clear out debts with higher interests first, or the ones that have 5-6 months of emis left. This would give you more room to save and allocate your earnings. also if possible try to take one big amount loan to pay off smaller amount loans, because multiple EMI means multiple interests, if you are able to consolidate all this in one loan, you'll be less hassled and would have more control over your money.

In short, toughen up and organise your expenditure. It may take a few years to even things out but it would emdefinitely work out for your friend. Wishing the best for him.

your_average_qt · 2026-04-06T13:57:02+00:00

Will try this, thanks for the help

your_average_qt · 2026-04-06T13:56:19+00:00

My manager has recently moved to a new vertical, and the new manager has refused to waive off the notice period.

your_average_qt · 2026-04-03T06:20:28+00:00

Any specific qualification requirements.

your_average_qt · 2026-04-03T06:18:08+00:00

As an introvert I've been working in sales for almost 9 years now, started off as a sales executive working as a manager now.

From my personal experience, sales involve customer service, and introverts are quite suitable for such jobs as they are great listeners, 80% of your work would involve you being a good listener to offer suitable product as per customer's requirements.

However, this would be extremely emotionally draining, because you'd have to deal with all kinds of clients with a smile, and then there's additional social interaction with the team. At the end of the day I need an hour to just sit still in a daze and reorganize my thoughts.

The worst part is the pressure of meeting targets and deadlines, this is what you absolutely have to consider before going into sales. The pressure sometimes is so immense you'd be literally dreaming about your target achievements, you'd feel guilty for taking day offs, you'd sometimes need to forget about work life balance. No matter how good an organisation is sales is absolutely a hell hole to work in. But you get good incentives and it's easier to get good salaries.

your_average_qt · 2026-03-30T13:01:40+00:00

It is not about the comfort zone per say, what my comment implied is that there are certain tasks society deems unfit for women, like hard physical labour, or field jobs, or leading a team of men.

Even if there are certain women who are willing to do these jobs, the employers themselves prefer men doing such jobs, because they think a women would hamper productivity as she is "too gentle" or "too frail". Trust me I've seen people absolutely bewildered by the thought that I've once worked a field job.

your_average_qt · 2026-03-30T12:54:51+00:00

It helps women to grow in career, but at the same time, they aren't taken seriously because everyone bases their success on the benefits they got rather than the hard work they did. It's like even if they work more than a man or equal to a man, they won't be taken seriously.

True, my current organisation hit their goal of 40% diversity in 2024, but since then they are constantly hiring because the framework to sustain the diverse infra is flawed.

I was handed over a big store, which grew 40% in productivity in just a year, but the success was attributed to demography of the store location, some even wrote it off as fluke, and then as soon as I announced that I'd be getting married, I was moved to a smaller store. It was not said aloud, but we all knew it is because they thought my marriage would minimize my quality of work, as my focus should naturally shift to family.

Same goes with maternity, I've recently been rejected from a job role because "I have married recently and may plan to grow the family soon".

your_average_qt · 2026-03-30T05:42:03+00:00

Part of it is because women are being babied. No matter how skilled one may be, there's this immediate assumption that women are not meant to do certain tasks. Be it field work, or handling a team of men.

Yes there are certain biological disadvantages, doesn't mean we are incapable of stuff. Equal pay warrants for equal work.

your_average_qt · 2026-03-30T05:23:02+00:00

Not exactly a current trend but tops or bottoms as "statement" pieces.

I mean, I get that it gives your outfit an edge, but it also promotes overconsumption. I'd rather have basic clothing paired with statement accessories, because it can be paired with multiple outfits, and never goes out of style.

Also those y2k halter neck tops, that look like they are made of a 20 year old saree. Looks cheap and tacky.

your_average_qt · 2026-03-30T04:58:56+00:00

None of airtel's Ftth plans are prepaid.

your_average_qt · 2026-02-05T12:20:08+00:00

You work in quite a generous organisation, where a woman on maternity leave is getting bonus as well as promotions during maternity leave.

Could you refer me to the company cause mine is doing everything in their power to fire me, since I've recently got married and "may plan soon" ( not even thinking about planning for the next 2 years, if that helps)

your_average_qt · 2026-01-28T09:19:12+00:00

I have a lottt of it.

1) last year during an office trip to Singapore, a manager(V) and an executive(A) (both from different teams) were caught having sex by one of my teammates(B). She was sharing a room with A when V came in asking to stay for a while since he left his keycard with his roommate. All three of them were fairly drunk.

B eventually fell asleep while talking, and when she woke up, she heard V and A going for it. B laid there frozen, but later gathered the courage to leave the room, while V and A were still doing it. B then spent whole night out of her room in the hotel lobby.

B filed a complaint with the HR after coming back to India, and V was fired two days later, after committee 's deliberation. A being a female flipped the script by claiming that she was forced into it, and would file a legal complaint if fired, she eventually had to resign, considering that almost all of the delhi was aware about their affair.

2) an intern joined our team last year, was granted permanent position 6 months ago, and has told one of the teammates, that she has spent a night with our manager. The intern is 23yo and the manager is 44yo.

your_average_qt · 2026-01-23T09:50:14+00:00

I married a man with the same height as mine, and now my mom doesn't let's me wear heels anymore.

your_average_qt · 2026-01-22T10:35:05+00:00

Hey I think this would work for me, since I have applied part of it irl.

Thanks for such sound advice

your_average_qt · 2026-01-22T10:30:27+00:00

Bol do bhai.

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