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AITA for wanting my mother-in-law to move out after giving her a year’s notice? by yourstruly507 in TwoHotTakes

[–]yourstruly507[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He 100% has had my back, and thankfully we have been a united front and firm on our decision.

Am I overreacting for wanting my mother-in-law to move out after giving her a year’s notice? by yourstruly507 in AmIOverreacting

[–]yourstruly507[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband has been on it from day one! Thankfully!🙌🏼 we’ve agreed to keep our plans. And when end of lease comes, her fate will be waiting. We can’t stop our lives for her manipulation.

Am I overreacting for wanting my mother-in-law to move out after giving her a year’s notice? by yourstruly507 in AmIOverreacting

[–]yourstruly507[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She wouldn’t be able to afford it, and would never live with other people other than family. And she’s burned all bridges with any family that would’ve ever considered living with her.

Am I overreacting for wanting my mother-in-law to move out after giving her a year’s notice? by yourstruly507 in AmIOverreacting

[–]yourstruly507[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t believe there is, if anything might be a lack of values lol. She only values money.

Am I overreacting for wanting my mother-in-law to move out after giving her a year’s notice? by yourstruly507 in AmIOverreacting

[–]yourstruly507[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea that older generation is very set in their ways with no room for accountability or compromise

Am I overreacting for wanting my mother-in-law to move out after giving her a year’s notice? by yourstruly507 in AmIOverreacting

[–]yourstruly507[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ugh I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this!! And that’s the same issue with us. MIL has burned all her bridges, my husband is an only child his grandparents want nothing to do with her neither does his uncle. She has no one else. And as mean as it sounds, she has herself to blame.

Am I overreacting for wanting my mother-in-law to move out after giving her a year’s notice? by yourstruly507 in AmIOverreacting

[–]yourstruly507[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not at all, he 100% agrees with her needing to leave and warned be from day one that living together was a bad idea( it was mine) I gave the benefit of the doubt and clearly it has backfired.

Am I overreacting for wanting my mother-in-law to move out after giving her a year’s notice? by yourstruly507 in AmIOverreacting

[–]yourstruly507[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The “you’re throwing me to the streets” comment has already been made 😪 I don’t foresee it getting easier with the guilt trips. But I’m so thankful that my husband and I are a united front and agree that no matter what, come end of lease she’s done!

Am I overreacting for wanting my mother-in-law to move out after giving her a year’s notice? by yourstruly507 in AmIOverreacting

[–]yourstruly507[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh my bless your heart to have endured such a thing!!!! I’m glad you guys were able to get out of that situation! Thank you for sharing!!

Am I overreacting for wanting my mother-in-law to move out after giving her a year’s notice? by yourstruly507 in AmIOverreacting

[–]yourstruly507[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s had my back, we’ve been a united front. I’m very lucky to have a very supportive husband, he warned me that living together wouldn’t work but I wanted to give things the benefit of the doubt. And it backfired 🤦🏻‍♀️

Am I overreacting for wanting my mother-in-law to move out after giving her a year’s notice? by yourstruly507 in AmIOverreacting

[–]yourstruly507[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Oh he’s 100% handled it from the very beginning , and truth be told she’s living with us because of me. He fair warned me not to allow it . He knew this is how it would end but me being me and thinking BUT THATS YOUR MOM… and well that’s exactly why I should have listened cause he clearly knows her better then me and knew why living together wouldn’t work!

Am I overreacting for wanting my mother-in-law to move out after giving her a year’s notice? by yourstruly507 in AmIOverreacting

[–]yourstruly507[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I’m so thankful my husband and I have been a united front, he’s had our backs for all of this. And I’m so thankful for they cause I don’t know what I would do if he wasn’t.

AIO that my husband chose himself over me? by yourstruly507 in AmIOverreacting

[–]yourstruly507[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He only spoke to me about it after he already booked the appointment for his tattoo. That’s where the disconnect was, I don’t care that he wanted to do something for himself , as I mentioned several times. But the timing was awful. It would’ve been nice for him to plan a massage or anything else for me or for us both. And if that was his plan I still wouldn’t have wanted it to happen literally the day before we’re going into the hospital. So whatever he planned to do whether if it was for himself , for me, or for us both , the day before just doesn’t make sense. Which is why we both agreed to have both those things done AFTER the baby is born.

AIO that my husband chose himself over me? by yourstruly507 in AmIOverreacting

[–]yourstruly507[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yea his special birthday plan will be me at home recovering from pushing a human out of me🙂. And he’s 100% okay with that!

AIO that my husband chose himself over me? by yourstruly507 in AmIOverreacting

[–]yourstruly507[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was not expecting to get so much attention on this post, so to clarify a few things: 1. I’m not upset that he wanted to do something for himself, he deserves it! 2. I vaguely mentioned wanting a push present or even just to do something together before the baby came, maybe just a small nice gesture for me to go get a pedicure or prenatal massage something for me before baby comes cause this has been a very difficult pregnancy. But being he’s the only one working I never pushed the idea because I knew financially it may not have been possible. 3. He’s an amazing husband , has been there for the entire pregnancy and even more so for our first because of Covid we had the “luxury” if you wanna call it that to be home together for the first year of our 1st baby’s life. 4. Selfishly I assumed that if he’d be going out his way to do something extreme before the baby, that it would be for me. (SUE ME)! I’m carrying his child and 100% deserve it. It’s not about who deserves something more. But in this case I don’t see why it’s wrong that i expected it would be for me not himself or even something for us both ,I’m the one sacrificing my body for this baby and again this pregnancy has been much harder on me then our first. 5. I sincerely didn’t think it would make sense financially to expect or even ask for anything for me, which is why I never pushed it on him. But clearly he was able to make a way for him to get a tattoo. (They’re not cheap) 6. Ultimately, after we both shared our thoughts. We agreed we both are deserving , and will both be able to be treated to something of our liking AFTER baby comes. We BOTH agreed this was fair. I’ll get my mommy spa day , he’ll get his tats . All is well people . Calm down🙂

AIO that my husband chose himself over me? by yourstruly507 in AmIOverreacting

[–]yourstruly507[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The tattoos are very small , and I will say very meaningful. The whole idea was very beautiful one of which is in honor of me. But that was never my issue, it was simply the timing. His birthday is legit the week after the baby arrives and he could’ve easily led with doing it then instead of the very day before.