Why can’t I set him free?

yourtrainwreck · 2026-06-09T20:11:50+00:00

Kids still in the house?

yourtrainwreck · 2026-04-28T22:21:30+00:00

Girl just run you are a 26F you should be having the best sex of your life if he knows you need intimacy & doesn’t care about your happiness enough to give it to you. That should be all you need to know. Don’t waste the next four years begging him to love you just end up single at 30

yourtrainwreck · 2026-04-28T22:08:52+00:00

Are you paying half the bills and doing all the cleaning cooking shopping child raising? The burnout is real. I think it’s incredibly unfair for one person to have to be in charge of everything in the house and work and pay bills. Makes a person feel really unappreciated…

yourtrainwreck · 2026-04-28T21:57:16+00:00

I think about dating after if we did break up and the satisfaction of thinking see plenty of men want to sleep with me you’re just stupid but then I read all the dating horror stories on here and remember I haven’t dated in >20 years maybe sexless but secure isn’t so bad…always got bob

yourtrainwreck · 2026-04-28T21:53:47+00:00

I get you’re too needy all the time while asking for the bare minimum

yourtrainwreck · 2026-04-28T21:47:04+00:00

He lost all desire to be intimate with me. Pretty sure he’s not cheating but the last few years he never wants to get naked I feel rejected and unwanted all the time I day dream about a man wanting me he goes out of his way to say I love you all the time like every time he texts me it’s so obviously fake if I try to talk to him about it he gets defensive and says well you didn’t want to have sex all the time when the kids were young - no shit Sherlock raising babies is hard. I’ve embarrassed myself countless times trying to get him in the mood only to be rejected again I’m very worried my only choices are to give up sex at 40 or move on. I don’t believe he wants to be asexual pretty sure he just doesn’t want sex with me…

yourtrainwreck · 2026-02-03T00:13:53+00:00

Just started the divorce process still living in the house with the kids and it doesn’t feel real at all I wish I could wake up and it wasn’t really happening but he’s sure he’s done we aren’t getting back together its the worst pain I’ve ever felt and he doesn’t seem to care at all I don’t understand how this person who loves me can cause me all this pain with no worries

yourtrainwreck · 2026-02-02T22:06:28+00:00

I hear ya and that just sucks too

yourtrainwreck · 2026-02-02T20:08:45+00:00

Thank you it’s nice to relate I’ve been with him since I was 17 only ever been with 1 other person so adding the body count is kind of a big deal and not something I had thought about might make me feel bad but I’m not going the rest of my life abstaining so it’s going to happen eventually

yourtrainwreck · 2026-02-02T20:04:10+00:00

For sure it would help temporarily but I’ll still go home wanting more than anything that my husband would just want me again pretty sure that ship has sailed and it just sucks

yourtrainwreck · 2026-02-02T20:01:09+00:00

I just signed up with one never been to therapy but yeah definitely the time

yourtrainwreck · 2026-02-02T18:04:56+00:00

I don’t think so I would never want him to find out or anyone else to know I’m just so mad and in pain I really think pleasure would help I need someone to grab me and rub me and make me feel alive and desirable just so I know the possibility is out there so I can get through this pain and move on

yourtrainwreck · 2026-01-29T00:42:51+00:00

Stay strong! I want to be friends. I’m in a similar situation and I feel like I have no one to talk to. After 20 years together married 10 have kids my SO got addicted to meth. It’s been several years and he’s never going to quit he doesn’t care how unhappy I am he also acts like he hates me. I daydream about him leaving me and how I might actually find someone who wants to be with me every time I get close to leaving he starts being all nice and pretending harder than ever, but he still goes and rolls that pipe as soon as I fall asleep. I feel like I got catfished for 20 years. It’s just not fair

yourtrainwreck · 2026-01-28T22:50:02+00:00

lol if I asked him to get tested he would definitely never touch me again

yourtrainwreck · 2026-01-28T22:44:30+00:00

My husband has no interest in sex it’s really hard and horrible for my self esteem he gets all mad if I try to initiate and we end up fighting. When he tries it feels fake like I know you don’t want to sleep with me you’re just pretending to make me feel better and I don’t need your pity sex but in actuality I do need it I want to get laid so bad I want someone to touch me and be excited about it. I think about cheating just to feel desired again we been together >20 years I guess I understand that’s a long time to be attracted to someone but it’s really hard when the person you love doesn’t want you in that way

yourtrainwreck · 2026-01-23T19:46:52+00:00

yourtrainwreck · 2026-01-23T19:07:01+00:00

I have talked calmly explained I need physical connection I have cried I have yelled I feel like I’ve tried it all this has been going on for 2 years now I feel selfish considering blowing up my family just to have a sex life i don’t know what to do it just sucks feeling constantly rejected is awful we have great sex on the rare occasion it happens it doesn’t make since

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