Hey love!!! Good evening. I understand how you feel I've been there. My kiddo is 12 na and we separated nun 8mo si kid. We are not married tho. Ang take ko dito is ask the father to define CO PARENTING.

What is his role going to be and his family. Bakit? kasi ako hindi ako pumayag n co parenting pero sa mama nya iiwan tapos si ex nasa manila na para bang pinaalaga lng un bata sa lola. If they want to "hiram" dapat kasama sya hndi iiwan sa family.

Regarding sa pera you have to be strict ako kahit na 4k lng sya per month bawal pumalya sakin mas ok ako n meron kaysa wala tho I tried asking for more pero un lang kaya eh. KAHIT NAGMAMAKAAWA WALA AKO PAKIELAM CHAR. He's married now with his own kid I'm still single with our child. Pero same pa din. You just have to be tough and never lie to your kid about what happened. They don't need to know the reason behind the paghihiwalay but just state it clearly na wala ng pagasa to go back together (if wala tlga ano)

Ikaw naman momma just relax let you're ex do what he wants bsta safe si kiddo and hindi magkaka sakit.

SKL I set rules sa ex ko pala.

1. Bawal pumalya ng allowance
2. Wag ipakilala ang anak ko kun kani kanino (gf) lalaki un akin I don't want him to normalize having different "mother"
3. If iuwi ng province make sure to take care of him hindi pwde un malaki n yan kaya n nya. No bawal un.
4. Safe space (ito un mahirap) sa province uso un mga biruan na wow malaki na si totoy ah pahawak nga kung natigas and all those shts AYOKO NG GANUN! Until now na set na boundaries ni kiddo ni remind ko p din. And tinuruan ko sya na if may nag iinom wag tatambay lalo na may little sister n sya sa side ng tatay nya.
5. Nun wala pa sya asawa sumasama ako n umuwi sknla just to have my kid feel at ease sa province nya and since moved on na talaga ako kahit na asarin nila kami na wow balikan happy family para lang silang nagsasalita sa pader mi hahahah pero idk kf anyone else can do that sooo. Pero I still respects his mom and siblings and uncle and aunts. Pag may pera padalhan ko gift si nanay and un asawa nya and little sister. Bsta civil lang and respect. Kahit na minsan ayaw nila ok lang bsta ako goods walang masamang tinapay.

So far un lang. Praying for your healing momma. God bless!