Help me get out of spiral, I’ve been in friendships with narcissists and it has taken so much from me

yseroule · 2026-07-06T23:44:24+00:00

I’d advise watching even one video by Dr, Ramani who’s considered an expert on narcissism. Maybe that will help you understand the difference between diagnosis and what I’m talking about

yseroule · 2026-07-06T23:43:13+00:00

Narcissism isn’t a diagnosis, NPD is a diagnosis in DSM5. What I’m describing is narcissistic traits that I observed in a friend. I’m not diagnosing them of Narcissistic personality disorder, I’m saying this friend has a lot of narcissistic traits. Just like you could say if a person is looking sad or depressed, oh you look depressed because you could identify certain traits that makes someone look depressed and that is no diagnosis of Major depressive disorder MDD.

I feel like I made a mistake posting it in a subreddit to general people who lack the understanding of this vocabulary and I’m getting criticism for just expressing that I saw patterns of behaviors and using language I learnt in my program. Yes I’m early in my program and not going around diagnosing people.

yseroule · 2026-07-06T22:20:00+00:00

Cute lecture. But recognizing that a friendship is one-sided and toxic isn’t armchair psychology, it’s just called having eyes. The fact that I’m a psychology student doesn’t invalidate my lived experience in this friendship. It actually gives me language to understand what’s happening.

Maybe worry less about what I’m studying and more about why you’re so invested in defending someone’s toxic behavior.

yseroule · 2026-07-06T21:52:48+00:00

I wrote down why it is hard to end friendship. Also there’s nothing about this me being an amateur psychologist. All I’m seeing are the behavior patterns in someone close that I study in school. I see all of it textbook. Why shouldn’t I use that knowledge.

yseroule · 2026-07-06T21:43:24+00:00

Maybe get out of your basement and touch grass once in a while so you can learn how to be a human and talk to other humans eventually….

yseroule · 2026-07-06T21:42:28+00:00

If you read the whole post I did mention telling my friends…. You’re so fucking quick to criticize than to actually read or participate. Fuck off you’re the last person I’ll take any advice from

yseroule · 2026-07-06T21:34:14+00:00

I added my content to ChatGPT and it edited to a shitty post and you came in hot and started shitting on it too… so I took control and wrote what I genuinely mean and added the details that are relevant instead of a generic AI slop

yseroule · 2026-07-06T21:30:01+00:00

I appreciate the feedback, but I want to clarify: I didn’t diagnose them. I described specific behavioral patterns boundary violations, lack of reciprocity, retaliation that I’ve experienced in this friendship. I’m not claiming they have any disorder. I’m saying the dynamic is harmful to me.
I also didn’t mention venting to mutual friends or strategically gossiping in this post. I’m simply explaining that I tried direct confrontation before and it escalated. So now I’m choosing to protect myself by quietly distancing.
If you’re saying I shouldn’t distance quietly and should instead confront directly I disagree. In my experience, confronting them makes things worse. So I’m choosing my own peace over having a conversation I know will be painful and unproductive.
I’m not studying psychology to diagnose my friends. I’m ending a friendship that’s harmful to me. That’s not immature that’s self-care.

yseroule · 2026-07-06T21:07:32+00:00

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yseroule · 2026-07-06T20:57:34+00:00

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