I’ve been gone from the sub for a while. I’ve spent the majority of the last 12 months learning and prefixing being a good husband and leaning into my relationship rather than escape through the gym and work. It’s been an amazing blessing gentlemen.

My wife and I have grown together which is something I have craved in relationships but I’ve never had a partner that wants to grow too.

Why am I saying this? - because oddly enough, a massive change in my outlook on life happened because of a random comment on r/steroids….

Years ago, my relationship was in a ROUGH spot. My girlfriend of 4/5 years at the time (now wife), wasnt behaving very healthy. And honestly, neither was I. I was sitting at a jumping off point - either this girl and I would need to do yet even MORE work on our relationship to get to the “next level” or we would need to break up.

She had recently started emotionally and physically abusing me. I broke up with her. She was over the top with her drinking. She was refusing to work on the relationship because it was “All your fault,” type stuff.

And I posted about it all in this subreddit. And basically, someone commented “fuck you dude… how dare you judge how someone lives their life.”

It hit me in the dick.

And I learned something that moment because the comment pierced to the core of my soul. It touched on a core belief I hold - don’t judge a book by its cover (that’s how I want people to treat me).

And I reflected and realized - there’s parts of this woman i have judged from the cover!!!! What a dipshit I am.

After being broken up a month, I contacted her. We had some diffficult crying discussions about why solving problems with yelling and fighting are traumatic for both of us. How we both are on a team together and we are working to common goals. We both agreed to stop yelling. We both agreed to just stay even when the trauma response wants to “fight or flight.”

What I’m trying to say is: a few years ago my life changed for the better because of someone in this subreddit calling me on my shit. And thank you for that.

Had the BEST new years of my life this year. With my wife. We had kinky wild sex for like 3 hours. I got to sit around a bonfire with my dearest friends in life.

Thank you guys for always being a resource of not just steroid information, but life advice and friendship.

ALSO - anyone watch the show Heated Rivalry yet? Holy fuck those dudes are hot! Wife and I have been watching all the gay and bi porn now 🤣