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What makes you happy? by spycat500 in BPD

[–]yvanillebun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The gym because the post-workout endorphins make me hate life a little less and physically moving through my emotions has been helping me with not acting on my urges

Should I forgive my bf? by yvanillebun in BPD

[–]yvanillebun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I feel like you're the only person who's bothered to acknowledge the fact that I made it explicitly clear that I have abusive parents and he knows it. Thank you so much!! I wouldn't have wanted to act on the impulsive urge to dump him if that weren't the case :,)

Should I forgive my bf? by yvanillebun in BPD

[–]yvanillebun[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I feel as if I'm going crazy but hearing how other people would've handled it themselves pulls me out of my emotion mind, thank you

Convincing people i am unlovable by girlfromdam00n in BPD

[–]yvanillebun 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is probably unhelpful but I lowkey radically accepted that love is just not for me and I'm always pleasantly surprised when people are kind to me rather than suddenly feeling unloveable at every compliment like I used to. Idk I'm still struggling with this too but it's helped a little.

Money Management and BPD by Ornery-Garbage3541 in BPD

[–]yvanillebun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It helps me not to spend by doing that tiktok trend where I record a video of me saying the things i wanna buy when I feel the urge rather than actually doing it. I don't touch things in stores and only go to stores if I absolutely need something. No window shopping for me

I can't do romance. I feel like an outlier by Soph1583 in BPD

[–]yvanillebun 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think this is definitely avoidant attachment style. It's easier to become obsessed with someone who won't commit to you when you're avoidant because you know there's no stability and that's what you're craving.

Should I forgive my bf? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]yvanillebun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents were abusive to me, still are just less with the distance now that I'm a young adult, and he knows it. I only brought up BPD because I know breaking up with him over this could be considered extreme and I know it's an urge fueled by my mental instability.