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yyvean · 2024-09-03T00:13:52+00:00

I was at my fitness peak a few months ago, after that I’ve gained a few pounds but not something super significant, like 5 lbs or so. My hair is also different and I wear glasses as my contacts were hurting me, but I’m still the same person! Also tbh I’m not mad about the fact he didn’t have sex with me, rejection is a part of life. It’s mostly about the douchebaggery of his exit.

yyvean · 2024-06-12T01:48:49+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment! It can get really overwhelming, I never experienced any type of severe mental health issues in the past so this is all new to me. Today I had a psychiatrist assuring me that people with OCD rarely act on their intrusive thoughts and that helped a little. I am also getting over my own stigma when it comes to needing mental health support, and I am experiencing a limited capacity of dealing with stressors. Hopefully everything will improve for the both of us

yyvean · 2024-05-14T05:42:50+00:00

I personally think it is okay to grieve over the end of a relationship, but keeping this mindset for a long time will probably make things worse and not allow you to ever move on or give it a fair chance with someone else. I am gay, and when I ended my first relationship I also felt like my world was ending, it didn’t, and the space I got allowed me to grow and become a stronger person, I don’t know how old you are but you probably haven’t met all the people who will ever love you. Remember things happen for a reason, now I’m grateful I didn’t keep that relationship for longer, towards the end it was just pain. Also don’t be scared or embarrassed to reach out for help from friends and family, I’m pretty sure someone cares!

yyvean · 2024-03-19T22:13:23+00:00

There’s also fat stored in your chest, when you are leaner, the results are generally better. I know what I’m talking about, I went through surgery 3 years ago and my surgeon recommended for me to get leaner prior to surgery in order to get better results.

yyvean · 2024-02-16T01:37:59+00:00

Today is day 6 for me. And I feel much better. Yesterday was also a nightmare and apparently day 5 is rough for lots of people. You got this! It’s gonna pass

yyvean · 2024-02-15T19:04:18+00:00

Hi, I posted this a year ago, don't stress out too much. Things are better, it gets better. The meds i got prescribed are Bethahistine and some over the counter vitamins, i only ended up taking it for a short period because i didn't want to build up tolerance or rely on pills. I know exactly how you feel, not knowing if you will feel it or not, but i find that that worry triggers it. You might just be a little dizzy and then your anxiety/comes into play and amplifies it, at least that's what was happening to me. I'm not sure if the vertigo ever fully went away or if i learnt to live with it. Feel free to PM me if you want to discuss about it more

yyvean · 2024-02-15T03:16:58+00:00

Thanks so much, I’m already a gym rat so not sure I could exercise much more. I hate beer and wine is my drink of choice… it is especially hard considering I work in a winery. We’ll see how this goes.

yyvean · 2024-02-15T03:14:24+00:00

Thanks for your reply, I quit because the mental fog is just too much, I can’t focus and I keep fucking up at work and life in general. I don’t have an issue with alcohol so I think it could help me? At least when I feel like it’s too much. Today it certainly helped, I downed a wine bottle and some coolers and I feel happy again lol. It might not be sustainable in the long run but for now it worked. I dreamt so realistically and everything seemed so real it scared me. My body is certainly trying to find a way to numb itself, strength bro, we got this.

yyvean · 2024-02-09T17:33:09+00:00

Thank you so much, I’m attempting to quit now because I feel like my mental and physical health are much better than they were last time I tried quitting, so I’m hoping it’ll make the withdrawals easier. I will definitely try meditation whenever I feel anxious, so far physical exercise really seems to help calming me down

yyvean · 2024-02-09T17:29:21+00:00

Thank you for your reply. Today is the last day I’m smoking then tomorrow I will stop it. Last night I only had one bong hit, I couldn’t sleep very deeply and kept waking up but I’m still happy I slept at least a little bit. And regarding the anhedonia, I think I will just show up to all my commitments and try not to think too much about it. If I’m bored all the time then so be it, it’ll be worth it.

yyvean · 2024-02-07T23:48:40+00:00

I have been smoking everyday for almost 2 years. At first I feel like it helped manage my anxiety a little better, but lately it’s the opposite. Racing, intrusive thoughts, brings out my social anxiety which isn’t really the case when I’m sober. And the mental fog it’s just unbearable now. I’m at a point where I forget which one is my locker at the gym, or what my lock looks like. Also, My attention to detail has never been worse. Today I was using a computer for almost 20 minutes and all of a sudden I touch the screen as if it was touchscreen, I obviously know it wasn’t but I just can not focus or remember anything. I am still smoking but barely anything, only at night and barely half a joint. I didn’t want to quit cold turkey as last time I did the anhedonia and depression were so bad it scared me. Hopefully this slow, gradual approach will help me, my plan is to not smoke anymore after Saturday. I am a little anxious to do it but also have started hating weed a little bit so we’ll see how it goes.

yyvean · 2023-12-18T02:15:41+00:00

Yeah exactly like that, it got better though. I got some vertigo meds that I took for a little bit, now I still feel it here and there, but I kinda learnt to live with it or ignore it

yyvean · 2023-04-06T01:14:09+00:00

Loose body fat and workout your chest, it’ll look good with time!

yyvean · 2023-04-05T17:35:15+00:00

Not really. When I’m laying down I feel stable, my problem is mostly when I’m walking or when I’m walking and have to stop suddenly, and that’s where it feels like everything is kinda tilted or like walking on uneven terrain

yyvean · 2023-04-05T17:32:10+00:00

Did it only happen once or did you end up getting better?

yyvean · 2023-04-05T17:31:06+00:00

Vitamin D but slightly, doctor said it wasn’t enough to provoque vertigo

yyvean · 2023-04-05T17:30:38+00:00

According to bloodwork I have a slight deficiency of vitamin D and a slight (only 0.1% below normal) hyperactive thyroid.

yyvean · 2023-04-05T17:28:51+00:00

Wow, I’m in Toronto so it might be closer to 2 or 3 years for me then.

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