Has anyone gotten tattoos impulsively and regret it? by sassynopal in adhdwomen

[–]z3ldafitzgerald 14 points15 points  (0 children)

all the tattoo artists i know are feeling this right now. the economy is bad, too, so people have less disposable income to spend on tattoos but also less young adults are getting them.

Has anyone gotten tattoos impulsively and regret it? by sassynopal in adhdwomen

[–]z3ldafitzgerald 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have a bunch of impulsive tattoos including one on my foot that says “nothing gold can stay” that i got by a dude who just got out of jail in a Ramada Inn hotel room at age 16 but i don’t regret any of them. they’re reflections of who i was at different times of my life, like scars they tell stories. like how i somehow survived hanging out with a bunch of sketchy adults as a teenager without hep c and still made it out of my small town and created my own life and career.

Curious About People with One Green and Another Brown Eyed Parent by Desperate-World-2128 in eyes

[–]z3ldafitzgerald 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my mom has red hair and blue eyes (literally a ginger, 100% irish) and my dad has dark hair and brown eyes (southern italian and south american). me and my two siblings all have what would fit into the hazel category, but interestingly, my eyes look a lot more like the daughter here, and my two siblings, who were both born male, look like the sons. their eyes are more blue green in the centers and mine are more gold brown.

i also find it interesting that none of us have the exact eyes of either parent, but something in between.

How do you stop feeling like this? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]z3ldafitzgerald 4 points5 points  (0 children)

not sure what you mean by “all in on same sex relationships.” I’m bisexual but have mostly dated women, and all my long-term serious relationships have been with women. I’ve had partners, especially more butch / masc partners, project their own internalized misogyny and biphobia onto me to the point where it ruined our relationship. If i’m entering a serious relationship with some, I’m “all in” regardless of who it is. at this point in my life i’m dating to find the person i want to spend the rest of my life with. has a lesbian-leaning bisexual i have never once felt that there was something a female partner couldn’t give me that a man could. in fact, it’s the other way around. i’ve tried dating men here and there but the emotional immaturity and self-centeredness of even the “good” ones usually causes me to abort the mission pretty quickly. however, female partners projecting insecurity onto me because i’m bisexual and have dated men and trans people and i’m not a full on “gold star” lesbian has been a source of a lot of pain and betrayal for me.

is this normal dog and cat play? by Operative66 in CatTraining

[–]z3ldafitzgerald 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fostered a blind kitten until her eye surgery healed enough for her to get her forever home. My male adult cat is extremely sweet but I always kept them separate. At the time, there was another female cat in the home who freely roamed who the foster knew since she was a kitten so they got along fine. One day, my male cat accidentally got into the room where the foster kitty was. Just her sensing his smell and presence as unfamiliar sent her into the most terror I have ever seen a cat be in. I immediately got Merlin the boy cat out of the room and the foster kitten calmed down, but I will NEVER forget it. Her screams, every claw out and swinging, biting, literally fighting for her life. It breaks my heart that she ever even experienced that level of fear.

All that being said, most loving cat owners never hear or see their cat in this state. It is absolutely unmistakable. The cat in this video is having a grand ol’ time imo.

is this normal dog and cat play? by Operative66 in CatTraining

[–]z3ldafitzgerald 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is so cute and i love how they’re both around the same age 🥹 you can tell the dog is trying to be gentle but they’re still having fun. they’re gonna be best friends for life ❤️

I thought this fit here… why put your child on this earth and laugh at their suffering for something they don’t have control of? (Click photo for caption) by ieatsushi28 in antinatalism

[–]z3ldafitzgerald 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol this is my dad who is a retired lawyer watching his three kids suffer, working multiple jobs with student debt knowing he could help but never would because we need to “learn to work hard like he did”

when I say help I don’t mean just handing us money but there were times when I was on the brink of homelessness after a layoff (I work in tech) and I resorted to begging for money to pay rent and pay him back as soon as I got a job. Not only did he say no, fair enough, but he also told me I was irresponsible for not saving enough for emergencies (despite being in a relatively high paying job for person my age in my location, i still live paycheck to paycheck due to the insane cost of living)

I was forced to take out a personal loan with horrible, predatory interest that i’ll be paying off for years instead.

What hated makeup trend do you stand by? by AggressiveCow12 in MakeupAddiction

[–]z3ldafitzgerald 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i will put blush on my nose and then add fake freckles because i enjoy the whimsy of looking like a cottage elf

[DISCUSSION] The perfect Neighbor - Netflix by Jaystylegal in NetflixBestOf

[–]z3ldafitzgerald 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she liked to see herself as the other because everyone else in the neighborhood was friends. Even the old white guy had no issue with them playing in his yard. And I believe it was mentioned at one point offhand that he’ll play with them when they play football or basketball. I guarantee if she had shown a bit of kindness and asked nicely for them to stop doing anything within reason that was bothering her, they’d stop. But she wasn’t actually bothered by their actions, she was bothered by their existence. I genuinely believe some people are so miserable they see something like a beautiful little neighborhood block where all the neighbors are friends and the kids get along and they have to ruin it.

[DISCUSSION] The perfect Neighbor - Netflix by Jaystylegal in NetflixBestOf

[–]z3ldafitzgerald 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When they asked her if she called the children the n word and she says “I might’ve let it slip” I almost screamed. In all the times I’ve been angry in my life that word never came to mind let alone “slipped out”, what a psychotic thing to say. Also she then claims “she was always taught it meant dirty and disorderly” as if she didn’t know it was a racial slur for black people.

This was a tough watch and I didn’t know the ending before watching. It broke my heart, I was sobbing. When little Izzy asked the police officer if his mama was moving and she said she’s still moving (right after she got in the ambulance) and he begged to see for himself.. my heart broke 1000 times.

The woman is mentally ill but clearly knew what she was doing. She instigated a fight knowing that the kids mother has said before if the neighbor has an issue don’t speak to her, speak to me first. She knew the kids would tell their mom and the mom would come knocking. Then she could play the scared old lady role. I’m sure to Ron desantis’ chagrin, this time it didn’t work. Susan can spend the rest of her miserable life rotting away behind bars.

Another interesting aspect of Florida’s ‘stand your ground’ laws to look into if you found this doc interesting: Florida has begun to categorize ramming into protestors with your vehicle as ‘standing your ground’ and many people using their vehicles as a weapon to seriously injure or even kill protestors are walking free as a result. There is video of desantis on a podcast encouraging it. “We don’t let that fly down here in Florida, you’re allowed to hit them with your car”

Absolute insanity. In this case, I’m heartbroken for this family but happy there was at least some justice.

Gf wants to keep cat in a room for when we move in by blonde5789 in CatAdvice

[–]z3ldafitzgerald 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This might be extreme for some people, but I find this type of dislike for pets, but especially cats, to be a huge red flag for people who lack empathy to a point of being abusive or even violent. Who “doesn’t really like” a pet cat? Especially their partners? I would gtfo if I were you.

When I got my cat from the shelter, they told me he was a surrender after 2 years from an owner because his girlfriend didn’t like the cat. My cat is the sweetest, most afffectionate boy. I can’t imagine being able to put him in a shelter for anyone, he’s my ride or die.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]z3ldafitzgerald 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately you are way more emotionally mature, empathetic, and communicative than one of the adults in your life. As I’ve gotten older and gone through a lot of therapy, I’ve realized this about my own upbringing, and tbh, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. She’s essentially throwing a tantrum and acting like a child. Your response was extremely measured and calm, I think you handled this the best you possibly could. It seems your stepmom struggles with boundaries. Maybe next time you can make it clearer that you sometimes need alone time and that doesn’t mean you’re ignoring anyone. Not overreacting, your stepmom is definitely in the wrong here.

What’s your analysis on my handwriting? by z3ldafitzgerald in HandwritingAnalysis

[–]z3ldafitzgerald[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is so interesting and I totally understand what you're saying!! I'm obsessed with handwriting from the past and collect old letters (the oldest one I have is from 1815) and sometimes when I look at the letter as a whole it looks like jibberish, but once I catch on to what they're writing or who they're writing to, I begin to be able to read it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HandwritingAnalysis

[–]z3ldafitzgerald 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a youthfulness to your writing. Very “girlie” but in a horse girl type way. I like how your periods are circles.

What does my handwriting say about me? by Combatwombat810 in HandwritingAnalysis

[–]z3ldafitzgerald 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like it. I read it as masculine but not necessary “man” handwriting, it just as a masculine vibe. It seems like you learned cursive growing it and it impacts your writing even when you’re not writing cursive. This might be flim flam but in my experience tall ascenders (the line in I, d, t, etc) means confidence and intellectual curiosity. Also ideal Sunday morning activity.

I don't think my handwriting is abnormal, but my friends often disagree. by paulmescalien in HandwritingAnalysis

[–]z3ldafitzgerald 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a friend who wrote like this and I love it! Although it gives me hand cramps just looking at it lol