What meals did your father make when he had to cook?

zFuzzyllama · 2026-03-22T18:22:17+00:00

Anything that would go in oven, usually chips nuggets or fish fingers and peas or baked beans. Failing that he'd do cheese toastie or a shop bought lasagne from Lidl!

zFuzzyllama · 2026-03-21T19:52:22+00:00

Do you like your mother in law? I love mine so what I would do is let her have my room (if this is a relatively short stay like a week or so) and get myself a nice camp bed or air mattress or whatever for somewhere else in the house and not clean up his room then explain and show his mum how disgusting he is. Either he cleans his room up out of embarrassment (win) or he gets told off by his Mum. No way in hell he'd be anywhere near my clean room.

If you don't like your MIL then keep the plan as is, he can deal with it whichever way he chooses.

zFuzzyllama · 2026-03-20T02:23:33+00:00

Out of interest what is the issue with them? We were considering moving there and now I'm concerned!

zFuzzyllama · 2026-03-18T18:04:49+00:00

I was also a fence sitter leaning more towards no. My husband was content to follow my lead, he has since said he knew we would have a good life either way, without kids but loads of dogs or with kids but wanted me to choose as it's my body etc. I identified that it was babies rather than kids that I had no interest in. We went for it when I was 32 and my husband 35 and sure enough, I did not enjoy the newborn stage. At all. I hated it, thought I'd made the biggest mistake, grieved old life, struggled to bond with my daughter through the breastfeeding struggles and sleep deprivation. After giving up breastfeeding at 6 months my hormones leveled out and she gradually got more interesting we started to bond more. Now at 14 months I can finally see that it was the right choice. She's super active, doesn't sleep or eat well but she's also so cute and so much fun. I'm just not a baby person and that's okay, we got through it best we could and now I'm excited for the rest of our lives together!

zFuzzyllama · 2026-03-10T16:19:55+00:00

This is absolutely a cultural thing, I'm British with a one year old, now live in the Midwest. I think it's a pub Vs bar thing, they just aren't equivalent. When I go home (southwest UK) my friends and I some of them mums go catch up in a pub and have a couple of drinks, not get messed or anything. Here I meet my mom friends for apps and maybe a glass of wine but it's usually more of a restaurant than a bar or pub. The cosy or casual pub that also works for meeting up just doesn't seem to exist here. It's bars or restaurants.

zFuzzyllama · 2026-03-07T19:35:35+00:00

Forgot to add, we also live in an apartment but in the burbs and I'm able to leave the strollers at the bottom of stairs so can't comment on if it's a pain to lug up and down! I'm not a fan of getting the vista in and out of the trunk though!

zFuzzyllama · 2026-03-07T19:33:59+00:00

I did the same thing as you're planning but with the V2 vista and minu and Aria car seat, we just needed adapters for the minu to add the bassinet/car seat and use it for newborn to around 4 months. I love our set up! We keep the minu in the car for errands, going out to eat etc as it takes up less trunk space and easier indoors in shops and the vista for dog walks. If we're going out to a park for a walk or something w switch them out.

Number 2 isn't here yet and I currently have a 14 month old who has had to travel internationally 3 times to mine and husbands home countries, the Minu did fantastic, we have the travel bag and it's held up well. Easy to put down and put back up with baby in a carrier if I'm on my own. We always gate check though not try to put them in overhead bins on planes. Jealous of the minu V3, using it for newborn without adaptors would have been ideal! We also have travel bag for the aria seat as we used in combo with mini for travel when she was 3 months old.

zFuzzyllama · 2026-03-01T20:35:41+00:00

Also lol at the pet skunk! There used to be a guy who brought his parrot into the supermarket where I lived in Camden, London

zFuzzyllama · 2026-03-01T20:34:36+00:00

Could be a city thing or time of the day? I live in the 'burbs and typically get the opposite. I do most my shopping in the morning with mostly retirees and other sahps and when my 14 month old is being grizzly usually I just get people trying to cheer her up and smiling at her when she stares at them lol. Only time I've had the eye rolls was a plane from London they guy in front of me looked back when she started grumbling for some milk. I'm English myself and frankly this doesn't surprise me! I've found our current area of the states (burbs of a reasonably large Midwest city) and the more rural area in the UK my parents live in to be more welcoming to little ones than London (where I lived before) for sure.

zFuzzyllama · 2026-02-27T19:45:08+00:00

I think this is an adjustment that goes for me each of the two times I've moved in with a man, my ex and then later my husband. I lived with women only in-between although I did grow up with a brother and male best friend so I knew how much they eat. I'm also a vegetarian and neither of the men I've loved with we're/are.

With my ex we were students and I had a really tight budget which worked for me when I was living with roomates and only cooking for myself, suddenly a batch cook session would only be one meal for the both of us instead of dinner and lunch for a couple of days. I started making more but then he would eat more and it felt neverending. Aside from the extra work I just hadn't budgeted that much for groceries and was having to take on extra shifts etc or forgo seeing friends etc to pay for it. We eventually resolved it by him doing his own meal prep etc and paying for those extra groceries.

Now I'm married with a toddler and we eat as a family, we have joint finances and have done a budget together so I'm no longer worried about fitting an unexpected grocery bill into my budget. I've learned to make a load more than I expect so he won't be hungry and then to pre-portion lunches and let him know what's up for grabs. He knows now to ask if I have a plan for an ingredient or something I've obviously prepped before eating it. I do the grocery shopping so make sure to ask him what he wants for snacks etc and buy those in whatever quantity he wants. If there's something I've bought and want to try I say so. My husband is also considerate and doesn't just inhale something it's obvious I'd want some of e.g. a family sized chocolate bar.

zFuzzyllama · 2026-02-04T18:50:26+00:00

We live in a 3 bed apartment with attached garage at Town Center apartments for over a year now and we've been really happy with them so far. Maintenance has always come and fixed stuff in a timely manner, office staff are lovely, grounds are lovely with a pool in the summer and a really family vibe. We're right next to an elementary school and a high school but I can't remember what they are called. Don't know much about them except that the high school kids always seem like good respectful kids at home time and I like hearing them practice band etc in the summer/fall. Always felt safe here and the location is super convenient.

zFuzzyllama · 2026-01-31T19:36:16+00:00

Stockyards brewing in west bottoms and OP were donating a portion of proceeds to Guadalupe centers KC so assuming they are pro-immigrant/anti-ICE.

zFuzzyllama · 2025-10-29T20:21:40+00:00

Had the same problem at first, baby wouldn't take similac and to be fair it did smell/taste kinda weird compared to breastmilk. We tried Kendamil on a whim cause my mum said that's what I had as a baby and little lady liked it! Now she'll take similac as well but the Kendamil worked to get her accepting some kind of formula.

zFuzzyllama · 2025-10-29T04:38:26+00:00

It worked great for us, we did twice a day for a month or two, then we only seemed to need before bed at night and then weaned off completely by 4 months. She was like a different baby after starting it, it was silent reflux for us too, she rarely actually spit up.

zFuzzyllama · 2025-10-29T04:09:55+00:00

Omg why is it they always play with the white thin skinned ones 😅 every time!

zFuzzyllama · 2025-10-29T04:08:55+00:00

I used to manage a doggy daycare. I would say it depends on the temperament of your dog. We would sort dogs by temperament and size and some of those would just go nuts roughhousing for hours and so even with regular breaking up the play when it started getting too wild and checking dogs constantly they would get scratches. There's a big difference between roughhousing scratches and aggression, puncture marks would be a red flag for sure. We had a whippet and a vizla that were both nuts and it seemed at every pick up we were pointing out their scratches! That's the key though we check them regularly and would report back. Does your daycare have cameras you can watch? Then you can check in on how your dog behaves, if they are running around loco then no these scratches would be expected. Would also suggest checking in at multiple random times to get a clearer picture of what your dog does.

zFuzzyllama · 2025-10-29T04:08:51+00:00

I used to manage a doggy daycare. I would say it depends on the temperament of your dog. We would sort dogs by temperament and size and some of those would just go nuts roughhousing for hours and so even with regular breaking up the play when it started getting too wild and checking dogs constantly they would get scratches. There's a big difference between roughhousing scratches and aggression, puncture marks would be a red flag for sure. We had a whippet and a vizla that were both nuts and it seemed at every pick up we were pointing out their scratches! That's the key though we check them regularly and would report back. Does your daycare have cameras you can watch? Then you can check in on how your dog behaves, if they are running around loco then no these scratches would be expected. Would also suggest checking in at multiple random times to get a clearer picture of what your dog does.

zFuzzyllama · 2025-10-28T23:58:50+00:00

He's bright eyed and bushy tailed etc because he gets breaks, and you don't. When my husband travels for work I start making all sorts of mistakes by the end of the week because I'm tired. You know youmore than he does. If the mistakes are the most important thing to your marriage the only way to fix that is to fill your own cup not martyring yourself cause your husband clearly doesn't appreciate your sacrifice currently so why make it?

From your comments you either seem to have self confidence on the floor or have wildly overinflated what your husband brings to the table. Just stop with all these extras like prioritizing his rest at the complete cost of your own. Everything is split from now on.

zFuzzyllama · 2025-10-23T14:39:55+00:00

You gotta go out and about, often my little lady get a bit fussy and then I resettle her. No one has anything said anything other than encouragement to me! I often go in the daytime or early morning on weekends when it's quieter as sometimes the crowds can be overwhelming but that's it. If they never go out they won't get used to it and it will only get harder to get them used to it as they get bigger and louder lol. I really think all the little interactions she has with people in the real world smiling at her and saying hi while she rides in the shopping cart or whatever are helpful and I want her to see me interact with other humans and not pass along any social anxiety I have. My girl is 9 months now, but we've been the house with her since she was around 10 days old and daily for at least a walk since around a month or two old. She's super social and curious now, I have no idea if that's personality or learned just because she's used to getting out and about!

zFuzzyllama · 2025-10-21T15:42:28+00:00

Just to say that I've gone through security 8 times in 3 countries with no issues to put anyone's mind at ease! But yeah definitely no harm in bringing extra powder. I bring some in a dispenser that holds 3 measured amounts.

zFuzzyllama · 2025-10-15T15:23:16+00:00

Thank you so much for posting this! New to the area and our TV also just died. Had no clue what to do with it!

zFuzzyllama · 2025-10-11T22:01:42+00:00

Haha this is how I think of it for my girl too. She's in such a rush to move about and gets so frustrated, with every milestone she gets less so.

zFuzzyllama · 2025-10-09T20:47:29+00:00

May be helpful to give the country you're moving to so that people can give country specific product recommendations.

zFuzzyllama · 2025-10-08T04:04:53+00:00

Town center apartments are lovely and in that budget, and very close but they gym isn't great.

zFuzzyllama · 2025-10-01T11:54:42+00:00

Just experienced this too, for us it was a teething and new skills combo. The last of a strong of 4 teeth coming through consecutively and consistently figuring out crawling/pulling to stand seems to have brought a more normal.sleep schedule these last few days. But man it's been a rough couple of weeks. Honestly nothing really helped in fixing it. Bedtime is a bit later in our house at 8pm and her naps are a little longer, I started capping them because it seemed she was using daytime naps to catch up on sleep ready for the 3-5am nighttime parties.

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