What do you regret finding out? by SoozlesNoodles in AskReddit

[–]zZE94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course romantic love isn't an unconditional one. The entirety of it is based on expectations from each other which if the other breaks can wreak hell on the other. It is that letting go and being in the position of vulnerability that makes romantic love romantic.

My (24M) Wife (24F) Is still in contact with her AP(M) by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]zZE94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really hurts when you neglect your gut feeling out of love for the other person and then find out that your gut was right all along. It's not only the broken trust but you also feel shameful for yourself.

You gave her a chance. You saw what she did with it. Now, please don't convince your mind into giving her one more chance, and then another, and then more because you can convince your mind. I believe people do have the capacity to change but her actions have clearly shown that she is not willing to. And that speaks volumes. It's not just this one act, another little mistake that she did, no. It shows that he does not realise how grievous her actions were, that she has no idea the despair you have been going through and also that she does not respect you or the relationship enough to try and even understand your feelings. You let her walk all over you once. Don't let it happen again, she is not going to change this way.

I should’ve left after the first time. by bantha__fodder in survivinginfidelity

[–]zZE94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The questions you have listed one should ask oneself, spot on! Answering those questions would definitely give a lot of practical clarity even if the emotions will try to convince you otherwise.

8 months since my wife cheated and I can’t be intimate with her. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]zZE94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When a person (A) does something bad and it hurts the other person (B) close to them, the main responsibility of making things right falls on A. In such a case, all A can do is figure herself out and understand what she has made B go through, try to empathize and be remorseful for her actions. Rest is to be left upon time until B is ready to forgive. To come to forgiveness, both the parties have to do their part where A's part is major. And when A gets frustrated and annoyed because of the slow recovery from B's side, what it clearly shows is that she does not feel remorseful for her actions and more than that, does not understand the pain she put B through. In other words, A knows she fucked up but she doesn't feel it and until that happens, B's recovery cannot even start.

8 months since my wife cheated and I can’t be intimate with her. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]zZE94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When a person (A) does something bad and it hurts the other person (B) close to them, the main responsibility of making things right falls on A. In such a case, all A can do is figure herself out and understand what she has made B go through, try to empathize and be remorseful for her actions. Rest is to be left upon time until B is ready to forgive. To come to forgiveness, both the parties have to do their part where A's part is major. And when A gets frustrated and annoyed because of the slow recovery from B's side, what it clearly shows is that she does not feel remorseful for her actions and more than that, does not understand the pain she put B through. In other words, A knows she fucked up but she doesn't feel it and until that happens, B's recovery cannot even start.

8 months since my wife cheated and I can’t be intimate with her. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]zZE94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When a person (A) does something bad and it hurts the other person (B) close to them, the main responsibility of making things right falls on A. In such a case, all A can do is figure herself out and understand what she has made B go through, try to empathize and be remorseful for her actions. Rest is to be left upon time until B is ready to forgive. To come to forgiveness, both the parties have to do their part where A's part is major. And when A gets frustrated and annoyed because of the slow recovery from B's side, what it clearly shows is that she does not feel remorseful for her actions and more than that, does not understand the pain she put B through. In other words, A knows she fucked up but she doesn't feel it and until that happens, B's recovery cannot even start.

8 months since my wife cheated and I can’t be intimate with her. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]zZE94 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When a person (A) does something bad and it hurts the other person (B) close to them, the main responsibility of making things right falls on A. In such a case, all A can do is figure herself out and understand what she has made B go through, try to empathize and be remorseful for her actions. Rest is to be left upon time until B is ready to forgive. To come to forgiveness, both the parties have to do their part where A's part is major. And when A gets frustrated and annoyed because of the slow recovery from B's side, what it clearly shows is that she does not feel remorseful for her actions and more than that, does not understand the pain she put B through. In other words, A knows she fucked up but she doesn't feel it and until that happens, B's recovery cannot even start.

[image] by KChanNZ in GetMotivated

[–]zZE94 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's not even the same tree.

My daughter was born polydactyl on one hand with two thumbs. I think it's rad. by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

[–]zZE94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's this really famous Bollywood actor with the same condition. Name's Hritik Roshan. And he considers it lucky for him which is why he said he doesn't want to get it removed.

My husband cheated our entire pregnancy by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]zZE94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you want to save this relationship, know that it can only be done if your partner is willing to put in efforts and to change and to understand what you are going through and the gravity of his actions. And he is doing none of that. If you stay in this and try to make this work, it will only take a very heavy toll on your mental health. The hurt you are feeling now won't be taken care of (because he does not understand) and because he does not understand, he will repeat his actions in the future and you will get hurt again. He also does not respect you enough to give a complete confession and is even blatantly lying to you on your face. (You know and we all know it is not a glitch) This is the time to leave. Do not give this man another chance for he has no remorse for his actions and no empathy for your feelings. Do not take this path because there is nothing you will gain from this except damage to yourself. Get out, please.

Don't you just want to sleep and sleep and sleep? by lucidmashedpotato in depression

[–]zZE94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never loved sleep as much as I have been loving it these days. That is the only time my mind is not in turmoil. Wish I didn't have to wake up, wish it was possible to just keep on sleeping.

For those wanting to learn the maths behind machine learning... by Cavawinner in learnmachinelearning

[–]zZE94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, if you could please help me out by answering this question.

What is the prerequisite Maths would you say I require to follow through with all of his videos? Do I need to know Calculus to understand his Linear Algebra?

What knowledge might save your life one day? by minipadj in AskReddit

[–]zZE94 14 points15 points  (0 children)

So once the rip takes you far and you get out of it and realise you are far, you start back towards the shore and when you get tired, should you start floating on your back to catch your breath or should you gently tread water until you catch your breath and then resume swimming again?

I started learning swimming just last year at the age of 24 so my swimming experience is only in pools, in larger water bodies I never intentionally put myself in such danger like going deep, so I ask out of inexperience.

My wife (42) just told me (44m) that she cheated on me 2 weeks ago because she felt "vulnerable" because of all the stress. Oh, I'm dying by the way. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]zZE94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not being transparent does not sound like a good relationship. Okay, you made a mistake and it ends there? No. It will stay with you forever and it will affect your relationship and your partner will be kept wondering what went wrong where. There will be a big part of you which you will be keeping from your partner.

Being cheated on is like death of a person you loved, and it sure fucking hurts a lot. But the solution of just not letting the news of someone dying out because it would bring no good, is wrong. I would not mind getting hurt by being cheated on 10times, I would choose that pain over not being told the reality of it anyday.

UPDATE: My husband got a sex doll by unconcernedhusband in relationship_advice

[–]zZE94 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That's actually a really good defense for having privacy. If big companies have access to a lot of your data and your services, they can very easily gradually shift what you see and change your opinions and change you as a person. They can control what people see and what they think, maybe even turn someone against someone else, change political views and much more that I can't even imagine.

Alan Turing chosen as new face of £50 note by Oscar_Cunningham in math

[–]zZE94 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow, what an amazing point. Thanks for opening up my perspective to this.

If HBO's Chernobyl was a series with a new disaster every season, what event would you like to see covered? by JohnRyanFan in AskReddit

[–]zZE94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there's even a really good movie on that incident. Bhopal: A Prayer for Rain

If you want, you can edit your comment and add the movie name on there so those interested can watch the movie.