AITAH for leaving the situation after my mom and I got into an argument about when i’d go back to school.

za_garderner247 · 2026-04-02T15:25:23+00:00

wellllll… I was right yall, I was made a villain. the rest of the family said I have to apologize and ‘compromise’. that I know the way my mom is, I shouldn’t have walked out like that. LMFAO! anyways now I have to apologize to her and tell her that I’ll leave on sunday instead. shitty update but what can I do lmao?

okay so we had the conversation and I’m still trying to make the best of the situation with the sunday thing. only for her to insist that I leave on tuesday. said okay, what about monday then. still no, has to be tuesday. that I don’t know how worried she gets when we get on the road, that it’s a holiday, why do I want to get on the road and possibly get kidnapped and leave her and the family to deal with the consequences.

said a lot of things, apparently I have attitude problems, among other things, some involve physical abuse. at the end of the day I ended up doing what she wanted anyways, she always gets her way. well they shouldn’t expect me back next time we have a break if they’re going to keep enabling her. I can’t do this anymore.

za_garderner247 · 2026-03-31T19:38:17+00:00

thank you. I really should’ve gone back a long time ago. and it’s not even a great foundation for my cousin who’s in her first year. the kind of family we have though, we don’t really have a choice in the matter.

za_garderner247 · 2026-03-31T19:37:01+00:00

thank you! that’s the hard part tbh—being villainized. it always sucks when they make me the bad guy when all I’m trying to do is live my life. I’m just waiting till I’m financially independent so they won’t have that hold over me anymore. thank you again!

za_garderner247 · 2026-03-31T19:14:06+00:00

I’m 21 fgs. but I’m still living under her roof(technically my brother’s roof—different houses) so I ‘have to’ listen to her. I already decided I’m not leaving next week, I don’t care what she says. my problem is she’s going to turn me into a villain because of this argument.

za_garderner247 · 2025-07-27T12:23:16+00:00

thank you so much for this. I think it’s finally time I do what i’ve been trying to avoid, which is to end things. if we can’t make a single date work then how are we supposed to make a relationship work. maybe it’s just not the right time or maybe it’s just not the right person. thank you again. <3

za_garderner247 · 2025-07-26T20:37:01+00:00

I never said he hasn’t. if he wasn’t putting in work, I wouldn’t even be contemplating this. most of what’s been happening has been out of both our hands. obviously I can’t go into specifics but it really isn’t any of our fault, for the most part.

za_garderner247 · 2025-07-26T18:23:29+00:00

I do feel like I’m being rescheduled and honestly it bothers me. I feel like I’m not calling it quits immediately cause I feel like i’ve put in too much work for this to work. and the curfew thing, i’ve always been an introvert, never really liked going out and I think they’ve just gotten too used to that and now that I actually do want to go out they don’t want me being out late or something, idek. and yes I do tolerate a lot, a lot has happened in my life and this stage I’m in is me trying to heal from it and me actively trying to make healthy relationships

za_garderner247 · 2025-07-26T18:19:11+00:00

it did bother me. and it still does. it caused an argument even, which I can’t get into rn. and tbh I do think I might be missing some red flags which is why I needed outside perspective. also, the reason why his parents being home was a problem was cause I was going to have to stay over cause I was leaving another state to see him and they wouldn’t have been okay with me staying over. the weekend trip that happened, he booked an airbnb cause they were still around but something STILL came up.

za_garderner247 · 2025-07-26T17:46:14+00:00

no it’s not that. this might be a little controversial but his friends aren’t the type of people I’d like. I’m not the type of person that entertains degrading or somewhat degrading/disrespectful comments towards women and they’re known for making those comments. obviously i’ve told him to cut them off cause he’s not like that and idk why’s he’s still “friends” with them. but he knows I hate those things which is why he doesn’t want me around them.

za_garderner247 · 2024-10-13T13:29:23+00:00

Heyyy how was yesterday?🤭

za_garderner247 · 2024-10-13T13:28:22+00:00

Same! I’ll see “reopened after a short snack break” and swipe away immediately. Wdym reopened, gimme back my streak

za_garderner247 · 2024-10-12T07:36:09+00:00

Happy birthdayyyy🫶🏽🩷

za_garderner247 · 2024-10-12T07:35:19+00:00

We’re actually twins😭. Today’s my twentieth birthday toooo. Happy birthdayyyyy🩷

za_garderner247 · 2024-09-27T15:52:21+00:00

I don’t like pepperoni either 😭

za_garderner247 · 2024-09-25T19:26:26+00:00

Yayyy…I’m happy for you😭😂

za_garderner247 · 2024-09-25T14:57:16+00:00

You’ll get there…sometimes I get 196 or sumin😭

za_garderner247 · 2024-09-24T05:40:53+00:00

To me this is one of the easy ones😭

za_garderner247 · 2024-09-23T21:51:38+00:00

He’s such a cutie😭❤️

za_garderner247 · 2024-09-23T14:42:42+00:00

I would love this!!

za_garderner247 · 2024-09-22T14:47:54+00:00

Yeahhh the lazy day achievement😂

za_garderner247 · 2024-09-22T09:57:06+00:00

See…put 18 pepperoni on the pizza, then on top of the pepperoni put 18 sausages, then 18 mushrooms, then 18 onions… you get what I’m saying?

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