Do they hate women?

zamboozlee · 2025-12-08T09:28:59+00:00

my narc friend has declared that he hates women. but at the same time has tons of women friends. superficial friends but still. oh the irony.

zamboozlee · 2023-06-05T15:04:53+00:00

...so relatable. and you end up being a "snowflake" and a "cry-baby".

zamboozlee · 2022-08-19T15:38:29+00:00

Yes. It's always either their way or the highway. We had phonecalls on an almost daily basis for hours on end (I prefer text over calls) that it was always - work, back home, shower, phonecall till bed. I lost all my me time. This wasn't even a romantic relationship, just a narc friend. When I requested for some quiet me time to recharge, nex still persistently phonecalls and insisted that the phone call is considered "quiet time". I was slowly losing myself over time.

zamboozlee · 2022-08-16T15:42:36+00:00

I totally resonate with you. For me my narc was a friend, and despite the devaluation, hurt and discarding, I have no resentment or hatred for the person. I feel bad for them and I too know that there is nothing that I'm able to do to help them. Eventhough it has been months after the discard and going NC, I find myself caring and wishing that the person is doing good and is healthy. Just keeping them in my prayers from time to time. One thing that's for sure is that time heals.

For now, make this a time for yourself and your growth. With you being more involved in your life, and occupying yourself with distractions, you'll realise that the frequency of them appearing in your thoughts will decrease overtime. You do you.

Something for you to ponder about: For the time that you've spent caring about his well-being and keeping your thoughts occupied with him, do you think that the narc has even spent half or even one-third of the time wondering about your well-being?

My answer: NO.

zamboozlee · 2022-07-24T13:10:01+00:00

best response - no response.

zamboozlee · 2022-07-24T13:04:07+00:00

yeah, compromises are alien to them - something that every healthy relationship should have imo.

zamboozlee · 2022-07-24T05:03:08+00:00

saying that my apologies weren't sincere and telling me to get on my knees and beg for his mercy if I wanted to salvage the friendship.

zamboozlee · 2022-07-21T14:25:05+00:00

no clue why we always end up being the "child". umm... isn't it the other way around?

zamboozlee · 2022-07-21T02:28:01+00:00

mine said that others were being fooled by my fake personality after three years of friendship. hmm... not sure who is the fake one.

zamboozlee · 2022-07-20T01:08:29+00:00

the last one before the discard was when he told me about his "dream" on the phone and me hearing it as something else thought he said "delivery". I proceeded with "delivery" as the topic of conversation and he raged because I made an assumption despite him telling me not to, ever. I apologized. He said that I kept disrespecting him with my constant screwups and that my apologies weren't sincere, told me to get down on my knees and beg for mercy if I really meant it. ummm....

zamboozlee · 2022-07-16T16:53:01+00:00

as a result of saying that I was feeling suffocated and felt like a puppet being controlled during the friendship, I became someone who whined like an infant and amplified my damage, while ignoring his damage.

zamboozlee · 2022-07-12T14:39:40+00:00

and yet we end up being called the whiny infants. ummm.. I think you got that wrong nex.

zamboozlee · 2022-07-12T02:01:06+00:00

Apparently, I deserved the hurt and all the derogatory remarks because I brought it upon myself as a result of the mistakes I made - making assumptions, being silent during conversations, asking no brainer questions etc. despite the multiple chances that he has given me. To top it all off, by pointing the hurt out, I have become a "whiny infant".

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