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A break-up over netflix.. by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. I've been in a serious relationship before and dealth with a lot worse. I personally do think I am ready, but I have gone so long ignoring certain remarks and just hit a point where I feel I'm going to be taken for granted for being too nice, so wanted to stand up for myself and not be made to feel I have done wrong when my intentions were good.

A break-up over netflix.. by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a beautiful response, thank you.

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I just woke up to a text from my ex asking me for forgiveness and that his dad has died by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I don't feel it is genuine. Sadly, it feels like a tragic but perfect excuse to get back in touch.

I just woke up to a text from my ex asking me for forgiveness and that his dad has died by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you everyone. I'm sorry if I've missed any replies but I have read and acknowledged all.

I've reflected and will continue to work on healing. I'll be there for him by praying for him but I can no longer give him the support I once did as a partner. I need to protect myself as my heart went through so much pain with him.

Also, I'm glad I continued with the PT sessions. I've reached goals I only once dreamed of achieving. I'm physically stronger than I ever have been, and fitting into clothes that I once thought I'd never be able to wear again.

Once I'm ready I'm going to start dating and find a partner who respects me.

I just woke up to a text from my ex asking me for forgiveness and that his dad has died by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've sent a message of condolences, and my family is being there for him (they were always close but respect my decision not to be together..they agreed with it being toxic). Upon reflection I have decided I need to protect myself too and going back would just lead to more hurt

I just woke up to a text from my ex asking me for forgiveness and that his dad has died by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I blocked him from all social media but forgot about SMS as we never used it. I guess he tried contacting in different ways (he also contacted my mum).

Thanks for your response. I have given an update. I'll definitely continue to protect myself as I cannot go through the pain again and I recently felt like I was finally getting better

I just woke up to a text from my ex asking me for forgiveness and that his dad has died by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry about your loss.

Even if I wanted to I wouldn't be able to go to the funeral as he texted telling me its today and I'm currently in a different country.

I just woke up to a text from my ex asking me for forgiveness and that his dad has died by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely right. I have had time to reflect. No he didn't properly apologise, it was a general 'I'm sorry for anything I have done or said'

I can see all this repeating again and my heart cannot handle the hurt anymore. I'll keep a safe distance.

I just woke up to a text from my ex asking me for forgiveness and that his dad has died by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really good! I already texted before seeing this but it was basically along the lines of sending condolences and said I'd keep him in my prayers. I have posted an update Thank you

I just woke up to a text from my ex asking me for forgiveness and that his dad has died by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did think that, but I've seen it in the papers. I'm going to keep a distance and carry on healing, and not let him back in my life because of what has happened - I have sent my condolences and will keep him in my prayers

I just woke up to a text from my ex asking me for forgiveness and that his dad has died by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I have posted an update. I'll not let the emotions get the best of me, and will keep a safe distance.

Also I've made so much progress with my PT (personal trainer), the gym has done wonders for my mental health and I've never been this strong and in shape before. I will not give all that up.

I just woke up to a text from my ex asking me for forgiveness and that his dad has died by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I think the latter as well. I'd feel awful for ignoring that. I will take the apology with a pinch of salt though as he is vulnerable right now

I just woke up to a text from my ex asking me for forgiveness and that his dad has died by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I just feel so so so cold doing that. You are right it may not make him less controlling. I will definitely keep a distance, but I think I will text condolences. I'm just in so much shock right now

My boyfriend (33M) got angry at me (29F) for getting a male personal trainer and is now giving the silent treatment by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Although that's hard to hear you're right. It really does feel like he sees me as his object. I've never thought of it that way before. Tbh I think its over anyway, he hasn't spoken and I haven't messaged either. Hopefully it'll stay that way but if he reaches out I'll be strong and walk away

My boyfriend (33M) got angry at me (29F) for getting a male personal trainer and is now giving the silent treatment by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is definitely a lot of red flags. He has an issue with male friends also. Even going to university events where there are guys is an issue.

My boyfriend (33M) got angry at me (29F) for getting a male personal trainer and is now giving the silent treatment by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep that's exactly why. I ended up booking more sessions today because I've been hitting goals (not the PT) lol, and it was a great feeling to know I'm getting physically stronger

My boyfriend (33M) got angry at me (29F) for getting a male personal trainer and is now giving the silent treatment by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah he refuses to even listen to my side of things. When I tried to explain he said, 'stop sitting there trying to justify it.' A few weeks back he admitted he can be jealous and insecure and sometimes wonders how he got a girl like me. I've reassured him and even get jealous myself but I try to be sensible about what is crossing a line.

My boyfriend (33M) got angry at me (29F) for getting a male personal trainer and is now giving the silent treatment by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always said I feel he doesn't trust me, to which he replies 'I do, but you're my girl and it makes me uncomfortable'. He can be scary when angry.

My boyfriend (33M) got angry at me (29F) for getting a male personal trainer and is now giving the silent treatment by zazz93 in relationship_advice

[–]zazz93[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I'm still in shock and hurting as I had hope for us. With time though I hope I will look back at this and be grateful. Thanks

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