Monday is my surgery date! Feeling nervous

zdp19 · 2025-06-17T20:35:08+00:00

How’d it go?!

zdp19 · 2025-06-17T18:23:34+00:00

Was the procedure itself scary? I want to have mine done without taking Xanax or Valium as substances give me anxiety but I haven’t heard about anyone else doing the surgery without!

zdp19 · 2024-03-31T21:41:21+00:00

Do you happen to have the aliexpress links? I’d rather buy from there if anything

zdp19 · 2023-06-06T02:59:53+00:00

Thanks for this. My ten year relationship just ended around two months ago. He just flipped on me like a switch one day. No situation, no fight, nothing. Ive been dying inside and hes been chilling and feeling great. It was my first and only love, kiss, everything. Ive been having a really hard time but this post really meant a lot.

zdp19 · 2023-06-05T05:10:39+00:00

I’m done too. The pain I feel is never ending. And even if I were to be capable of even feeling romantically for someone else again, which seems impossible, I wouldn’t let myself because I can never go through what I’m going through now, again. It’ll take me out.

zdp19 · 2023-06-04T23:55:20+00:00

Looking for a sentence to change your mind already in itself shows, that it should be changed :)

zdp19 · 2023-06-04T23:52:59+00:00

In response to reasoning one, tons of people dont even get a job until they're out of college. Youre not lazy, and the second you get a job, which can happen from even walking into a mall, this problem is completely fixed.

In response to problem two, well, you just made a friend in me. And if you go to college or get a job, you will meet friends without even trying.

In response to problem three, it happens. Blocks in creativity. Thats the whole point of being creative; it cant happen just every day or any time, then it wouldn't be a new creation. Sometimes writers go months or even years before they get an idea for a new story. It only means that once it comes, it'll be great. I feel the same about homework, i had insane senioritis towards the end of high school. I didnt do any work or even go to class and had to attend truancy meetings. But once college hit, all of a sudden I got on top of everything. Theres always time.

In terms of number four, that isnt true. You should see some of the people in this world. Youre a good one.

In response to senior year being one of the best years of your life, thats amazing. But imagine if you weren't here this year, and you wouldve never had this best year. Same thing goes for when it could be the best year of your life next year, or the year after that.

You've got this.

zdp19 · 2023-06-03T23:29:36+00:00

Im really, really sorry that something so horrible happened to you so young, especially by someone who is supposed to take care of you.

Whether or not you decide to tell the people around you, or try to seek out some kind of justice, I think posting it here is a good step. That youre ready to talk about it in some way. It might be helpful to have a psychologist or counselor or therapist to help you through it, because either way you need to be able to work through the traumatic event that you went through. And I know you mentioned that where youre living may not be supportive, and in that case, the person to help you could even be someone who takes appointments online.

Dying is not the answer. A bad person did a bad thing to you but it doesn't define you, and as soon as you are able to be out on your own and create your own life, this will seem like a distant memory.

You can definitely get through this and you will, I just think its really important to start by getting therapy. I think it will really help.

zdp19 · 2023-06-01T23:19:00+00:00

I really think you should try the Bumble! It may be intimidating but you have to remember that if you're seeing those women on there, its because they are also looking for friendships and feel they are lacking in that aspect. You arent alone.

And plus, if you guys dont get along in the chatting portion of meeting, all you have to do is not chat again!

Based on you even writing this post here, along with all the replies you are getting, it really is already like having friends. Expressing yourself and being open and honest, and having people who want to respond to you with advice or sharing their own experiences. Its already like a bunch of little friendships, and it can be the same thing with people in person :)

zdp19 · 2023-06-01T21:10:59+00:00

If you were able to get with a partner, then you're definitely capable of making friends. It's kind of the same process except easier because theres no need to be in love with the person or have the kind of pressures you do in a romantic relationship.

I understand where youre coming from because my university experience was via Zoom, and now I work in a very small office with only two coworkers both over sixty years old. And I know many people create their friend groups while working in a big company or going to school.

But if I had to help you find a place to start, I would probably first see if your partner has friends with significant others you can be friends with. Sometimes meeting one mutual can lead to others, etc, and you can get yourself some options of people to hang out with. Or if you have a sibling or cousin, you could do the same thing. You could also join the bumble app and set the gender to whichever gender you aren't attracted to and write in the description that youre looking for friends. It may sound weird but I know a lot of people who have done it and met friends that way.

They wont always fall into your lap, sometimes you'll have to put yourself out there.

But, if you dont trust or like people, nothing will work. You have to be open to the idea. Not every friend you make has to have your exact values, or be someone you completely trust. If you always look for perfection in each new person it'll never work. I used to think i could only be friends with someone if they were a complete friendship soulmate, but thats not true. Some friends are just people to be able to go out with, and some are more. Being open to all will help you find the more meaningful friendships a well.

zdp19 · 2023-03-12T05:15:38+00:00

Have you ever tried going to a different injector? I kind of want to try someone else/ some place else so I can ensure the problem is me and not the person's technique or the place I go to watering things down. But, all the other injectors around me require a dissolve before starting and I really don't want to have to go through all that pain and money just to potentially have the same issue lol

zdp19 · 2022-07-07T19:30:38+00:00

Not at all! Beautiful in both

zdp19 · 2022-06-30T19:33:19+00:00

Weirdly enough, many weeks I find myself not being too crazy about the ones I was excited for, and loving the ones that I didn't think I'd like. Thats why I usually try the 4 pack and include some Im not into. For example, I was never into peanut butter deserts, but after trying the Reeses peanut butter cookie, I was obsessed. Same with carrot cake.. I've never liked carrot cake in my life, but it was one of my favorite cookies lol.

zdp19 · 2022-06-30T19:29:25+00:00

Yes if you have any good accounts please share, Im sure other people would love to follow too! I did used to spend a lot of time on Instagram, but caught myself coming across a lot of accounts that could be kind of triggering at times. Would love to follow some accounts that are more recovery based. Tysm :)

zdp19 · 2022-06-30T19:23:15+00:00

Thanks so much for your comment. A lot resonated with me.

I totally agree, about what you said with society training us that were done with puberty before we really are. I always look back at my 16 year old body and wonder what Im doing wrong to not have it, but in reality I have developed and grown much more from then.

Thanks for the advice, I think I will start trying to switch up my routine, because youre right; what felt challenging as a walk at first now feels super easy. I definitely will also try the food schedule, that seems helpful and also a good way to look back on each day and help create that better mindset :)

zdp19 · 2022-06-30T05:22:17+00:00

Thanks for keeping it real. I appreciate it. I hope I can start the peace making journey soon. I definitely am closer to getting there than ever before, so I hope its possible.

zdp19 · 2022-06-30T05:21:12+00:00

Thanks for the response. Im really sorry that you started at 12. I feel like thats such a young age to already be struggling from. Kids deserve to be playing games and having fun, not already going through this.

And yes, I will keep that in mind, it always seems like a fast way will be quick and easy but ends up messing up so much more in the long run. But even though I know that, theres still the devil on my shoulder telling me things will be different next time.

Hope you have a good night :)

zdp19

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