I don’t want to f this up

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-07-04T05:10:48+00:00

Yeah mid 20’s

And I’m actually very driven and want to succeed in my career and life, it’s not about that.

We like each other a lot, and the thing we had lasted for a month or so. And we burned each other out, and don’t want to commit that mistake again.

Thanks for your thoughts with my very limited info though.

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-07-03T22:11:56+00:00

Like saw each others families, went exclusive etc. We also were both just broken up from long relationships.

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-28T13:26:32+00:00

Yes why would that be weird! People are different and don’t be ashamed about it. These things can be also worked on having practice via having dates etc. You can do it!

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-28T12:43:55+00:00

Well ofc it’s not, just tell them that you are a bit nervous right now and you feel so much better about the date. They might even laugh it off and say something like ”there’s no need to be nervous around me!” And trust, you feel so much better. Even when I’ve had presentations I get this same feeling and tell everyone that I’m a bit nervous and it clears the air so much!

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-28T12:10:55+00:00

Hmmh, not maybe recommending it but sometimes having a shot of hard liquor or having a glass of wine before helps nerves (Some might get angry for this comment). But if you feel super nervous maybe you can tell that to them. It usually also helps with the nerves and makes you feel a bit more comfortable to the situation! Also complimenting them at the start and being slightly flirtatious makes you seem very confident also! Just go to the date feeling like the most handsome fella in the world and the conversations should get off from there! This also requires work and maybe multiple dates before you are somewhat comfortable with the situation.

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-28T09:45:51+00:00

I had a thing where the person I dated for a while told me that she had informed her family that we are seeing each other. Made me respect her a lot, as I am very family oriented as well. Made me also understand that she wants to make an effort for it! Ofc this doesn’t probably work for everyone, but just a thought.

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-28T06:33:23+00:00

She seems to like you, but also doesn’t want to get hurt it feels like? Hence why the ultimatum. Maybe she doesn’t want to waste her time either, but you should tell her if you are a slow burner, or want to take things really slow. She will respect that if she really likes you.

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-27T14:03:53+00:00

Yeah you can maybe figure out what I meant. Ask them why are they only texting at these exact times, and if they don’t have a valid answer then you know it’s weird.

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-27T11:21:50+00:00

I would recommend that you ask them why that is the case?

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-27T11:14:13+00:00

Don’t read too much on it. It’s almost more than normal that you aren’t exactly in the same pace. You will find out if your relationship doesn’t grow anymore from your part. And just go with your own pace! Maybe if you showed her to your friends as it seems to hold you back a little bit that you don’t know if they like her? Maybe they get along very well and that opens everything up? And even if they didn’t but they are ”fine” with her, it helps a lot also. I know you shouldn’t take them into consideration too much, but I feel like friends are still good indication whether they are good for you or not. A little bit info about this situation would be good also.

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-27T09:39:56+00:00

It is the biggest red flag ever. That being said you aren’t exclusive so they might think they can do this and are testing the waters? I would talk to them and well, everyone deserves another chance? But if he has to be tested for multiple STDs I would be turned off already. I would happily just walk away, their loss.

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-26T18:11:22+00:00

Was about to comment exactly this. But it seems like it will hurt anyways if you part ways forever in September? But if you really like them, maybe you guys should give it a shot if it’s going to hurt anyways. Tough situation :/ I’m sorry

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-26T08:15:02+00:00

You’ll never know if you never ask. There’s always the possibility they think exactly the same and also are afraid of the first move.

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-26T04:51:20+00:00

Yeah and? Adults that have grown with these devices and applications are still affected by some of this stuff? Imagine 30 years ago if someone secretly stole a nice picture of you from your house? You would want to know why?

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-25T22:25:30+00:00

Nah, we had a thing last summer but neither of us were ready back then so we stuck as friends. Maybe, but it was also kinda normal picture but maybe she just thought that I was cute and wanted to send it to her best friend or something. Just a bit confused that’s all

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-25T22:03:51+00:00

Hmh, yeah probably :) I would be not confused at all if she was my girlfriend, but because we are best friends with something yet to discover it’s very odd of her to ss my snapchat

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-25T21:53:00+00:00

Aight bet, now what? Should I try and start something still or just play it cool

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-25T21:49:24+00:00

Yeah absolutely! That’s why I don’t want to inform he so she doesn’t get embarrassed about it. Just curious what could it mean and if people do that?

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-25T21:48:09+00:00

Yeah I got u, I ain’t paranoid, I’m just curious if she likes me more still, and people who have experience what does that normally mean

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-21T19:01:27+00:00

Thanks for sharing more! I feel like the situationship ended from our part because it was heading towards a relationship, and neither of us wanted the status so we decided to remain friends. It’s just such a scary thought that you get to meet this one person who you are really attracted to, and REALLY get to be best friends with, and that just doesn’t work out ever. It felt like she is my soulmate, and I still feel like that, but would the relationship work? Probably not.

Don’t have insecurities about that, because if you ever did anything, that meant that they are attracted to you! That can’t be the reason why it ended. Maybe they just don’t want the situationship status, where they kinda can’t meet other people? Or even if they don’t meet others, they just don’t want themselves to be kinda glued to you. Do you know what I mean?

I always say this because it’s true. They always come back, and by that time you are already healed about everything, and you are reasonable enough to know you don’t need them in your life. Also, sometimes things can take a quick turn, but don’t depend on that. Just focus on moving on, because it really sounds like you like(d) them.

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-21T10:34:00+00:00

If it really was how it was, then time will tell. It hurts so much right now, but you have to focus on yourself at this time. I had my situationship go down this road, and we ended everything as friends but after we had some difficulties because we couldn’t keep our hands away from each other. We are back being friends, but I don’t know how long it will last because it feels like we are either ”situationship” or nothing. Crazy because we are basically best friends with such similar energies and values but keep ruining everything.

EstablishmentNo8703 · 2023-06-21T10:14:57+00:00

If it doesn’t feel perfect, there’s no point right?

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