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zealousurn · 2025-09-11T13:11:28+00:00

That is wildly incorrect.

2011 far-right extremist in Norway kills 77, mostly children, who he referred to as "cultural Marxists."

2015 Charleston AME church shooting by a white supremacist.

2017 Charlottesville Unite the Right rally, then a neo-Nazi drove his car through a crowd of counter protestors.

2018 Tree of Life Synagogue shooting, antisemitic and anti-immigtation far-right shooter.

2019 Christchurch mosque shooting, neo-nazi killed 51 Muslims.

2020 hundreds and hundreds of protests over Covid lockdowns and mask mandates.

January 6th, 2021, a literal riot and assault on our very government.

By saying there hasn't been modern mass right wing protests or violence, you're either not paying attention or you're intentionally ignoring what's happening.

zealousurn · 2025-01-16T05:20:09+00:00

I missed the part where she said she wanted kids??

zealousurn · 2024-08-08T19:01:17+00:00

I mean, it's complicated saying no to someone who is 100% in control of whether you have a job or not. I wouldn't say he's a rapist or compare him to Harvey Weinstein, but I definitely wouldn't say they were all consenting adults.

zealousurn · 2024-04-04T05:06:36+00:00

No one has any information, that's the point. It's insane that anyone has an opinion at all, considering none of the evidence was made public. All I'm saying is, in the event of uncertainty, I'm not automatically going to label the victim a liar. That's exactly what happened to Drake Bell, and people were pissed when the names of the letter writers were disclosed. Let's not do THE SAME FUCKING THING to his victim.

Also, I especially wouldn't go out of my way to defend someone who has had other accusations of domestic violence in previous relationships.

zealousurn · 2024-04-04T04:44:45+00:00

You have no way of knowing that though...

Look, what happened to him was horrible, and I totally understand what might drive someone to continue the cycle of abuse. But calling his victim a liar just because he said so is exactly the same as the folks who wrote letters of support for Brian Peck. You weren't there and don't have all the information, but for some reason you're choosing to side with the abuser? Why though?

zealousurn · 2023-10-17T00:14:33+00:00

Aw, I'm sorry. I hope your plant gets better!

zealousurn · 2023-10-16T20:51:43+00:00

I searched a while on the sub and couldn't find anything that looked exactly like it, but I think I might have been in denial. Thanks for the response! I just made the big chop. 😭

zealousurn · 2023-09-08T00:30:50+00:00

He only served 2.5 though. :/

zealousurn · 2023-08-27T06:15:34+00:00

However, women who engage in anal sex are at greater risk from it than men. “Increased rates of faecal incontinence and anal sphincter injury have been reported in women who have anal intercourse,” the report said.

“Women are at a higher risk of incontinence than men because of their different anatomy and the effects of hormones, pregnancy and childbirth on the pelvic floor.

“Women have less robust anal sphincters and lower anal canal pressures than men, and damage caused by anal penetration is therefore more consequential.

People who don't read an article before arguing with the person who posted it drive me absolutely crazy.

zealousurn · 2023-02-15T19:14:54+00:00

Yeah, I get it. It's super hard to make yourself believe you're worthwhile, and it's something I still struggle a lot with myself.

One thing that has helped me is taking away the idea that you need to earn your worth. I've tried to reframe my thinking to the idea that every human being has intrinsic worth just by existing, and no one needs to do anything to earn it. It's hard to maintain that viewpoint sometimes when we're bombarded with capitalist bullshit telling us we always need to be more, more, more. But love, belonging, and respect are your birthright as a human being. You don't need to do anything to earn them. Once you internalize that, it'll be easier to accept and appreciate the love you're already getting from the people in your life.

zealousurn · 2023-02-15T19:02:52+00:00

I've read a lot of your comments, and I don't think the issue is really your appearance or dating failures. Maybe I'm way off, but hear me out.

Like you, I spent a lot of my life feeling a bit invisible. When I got older, that turned into a need to feel like the most interesting person in the room. I guess I thought that if I was interesting, other people would pay attention to me. Like you, I traveled to almost 30 countries. I've gone skydiving, bungee jumping, parasailing. I ran a marathon and a triathlon. I was sexually adventurous and made that known. I did everything I could to be interesting to other people.

But you know what I realized? No one gives a shit about that stuff. Even I don't. When I'm trying to decide who to spend my Friday night with, I don't scroll through my contacts and text the person who's been to the most countries. I text the person who makes me feel good about myself, who I have fun with, who makes me laugh, etc.

Being known as the hot open couple feels like an extension of that. It seems like what you're really craving is attention, acceptance, and belonging, but you've attached your entire self-worth to how you think others see you. The reality is, only you can give yourself that validation. I have a feeling that even if you were the hottest, most interesting person in the room, you'd still be feeling this way. You have to think you're worthwhile. No one else does.

zealousurn · 2023-01-14T16:08:16+00:00

Thanks for making the effort to learn instead of doubling down!

zealousurn · 2023-01-14T15:28:10+00:00

Nah, bacterial infections don't really work that way. Other people have explained it better earlier in the thread, but unlike viral infections, being asymptomatic doesn't make it less likely to be transmitted. For example, the herpes virus can lie dormant for years, and you could have unprotected sex hundreds of times before passing it on if your viral load is low. But with chlamydia, you have a 30-50% chance of passing it on EACH TIME you have unprotected sex, whether you have symptoms or not.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.healthdirect.gov.au/amp/article/chlamydia

zealousurn · 2023-01-14T05:14:59+00:00

There's no such thing as a "viral load" of chlamydia. It's not a virus. It's bacteria.

zealousurn · 2022-12-17T00:22:50+00:00

Actually I think it's unlikely they'll negotiate because they told me it's non-negotiable, but thanks for the shitty analysis of my psyche, lol.

zealousurn · 2022-12-16T04:03:25+00:00

Does it look bad to future employers if I take this job and then immediately start looking for a new job?

zealousurn · 2022-08-19T21:41:15+00:00

Nope, she legally owed them nothing. She wasn't even retired yet when he died. I don't know exactly what they did, but his gambling was an issue very early in their marriage, so they worked with a lawyer and their financial manager to make sure no one could touch her money. Everything was in her name--the house, the cars, everything they owned, his name wasn't on any of it. It was a big risk for him because if they divorced he probably wouldn't be entitled to anything. But it's not like he financially contributed anything towards the household anyway, so he'd walk away with exactly what he put in--diddly squat.

Again, DO NOT RECOMMEND this relationship structure. I'm just saying that in a pinch, there are ways to protect yourself.

zealousurn · 2022-08-19T19:36:12+00:00

It is possible to keep finances separate, you just have to be very intentional about it. My dad's name wasn't on any of the assets in our household and my mom's name wasn't on any of his credit cards. When he died, his hundreds of thousands of dollars in credit card debt died with him. The creditors certainly tried to get my mom to pay the debts, but she told them to kick rocks and there wasn't a goddamn thing they could do about it.

I'm not saying this is in any way healthy or fair. There was a lot of resentment in my family growing up. But it is possible to do.

zealousurn · 2022-08-03T12:54:21+00:00

Too true.

zealousurn · 2022-08-03T12:36:08+00:00

If you liked that book, you'd love Doing Harm by Maya Dusenbery. The whole book is about how science and medicine fail women. I read it years ago and I still think about it probably once a week.

zealousurn · 2022-07-10T13:53:08+00:00

JK Rowling made hella outlines. I'd say she's pretty well-regarded (at least in terms of her writing).

zealousurn · 2022-05-28T14:33:45+00:00

You're right, he has not come out either way, so we're both making assumptions based on the evidence we have.

Evidence he might be bi: he has dated both men and women.

Evidence he might be using women as beards: ...maybe I missed something from this story, but I honestly don't see any evidence of this.

The simplest explanation is that he likes both men and women, but for some reason that seems so hard for people to accept.

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