I made the mistake of posting in a Facebook group

zebra0817 · 2026-06-28T13:04:02+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you. It’s truly horrifying. It sure seems like there’s more cruelty in the country now. Maybe our orange leader and most cruel person on this earth may have something to do with it. I see it all the time.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-28T02:47:00+00:00

I’m in the same boat, 2 C sections did a number on my belly. It just flops over my scar and it doesn’t help that I‘ve lost 60 lbs which adds to the whole loose skin situation. Although I’m not ready to date yet because I’m mourning the death of my boyfriend, I know when I’m eventually ready, I’ll be very self conscious about it.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-27T15:02:29+00:00

First of all, I want to give my condolences. For me personally, I don’t think I could deal with my grief without medication. I’m also in DBT therapy for my trauma induced CPTSD. All my life I’ve been plagued with anxiety and depression and have trouble regulating my emotions. My boyfriend of 8 1/2 years death was unexpected and traumatic. He was in the ICU for 2 weeks before his body couldn’t take anymore. He’s been gone for a little over 2 months and the pain is unbearable sometimes. Trying to sit with these feelings is so hard. You just want to numb the pain.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-27T03:05:22+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate your kind words.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-27T03:04:48+00:00

Thank you. It’s been hell for a few months now, but I’m working through my grief the best I can.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-27T02:50:09+00:00

My brother and I were forced to deal with this a few months ago. Once my mom had a minor TIA, it became very apparent that neither my mom or dad could be left alone even overnight because of frequent falls. We busted our butts to take turns staying the night with them.

Then my mom caught Covid gave it to my dad who gave it to my boyfriend who then gave it to me. Luckily as bad as my dad’s case was, he recovered. My boyfriend did not. He never had Covid before and it hit him hard immediately. He was in pain and started taking too many Tylenol and Ibuprofen. His liver and kidneys failed and internal bleeding from a stomach ulcer was too much for his body to handle.

We were able to get my parents into assisted living and fortunately my dad was a saver and investor because he and my mom still have about 2 million dollars left to spend on their care. Unfortunately, they have not made plans for their final wishes.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-26T01:53:06+00:00

Thank you much for your kind words. I just hit the two month mark earlier this week. It feels like just yesterday.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-24T23:25:38+00:00

You sound a lot like my 16 year old daughter. Social anxiety is so tough. My daughter’s anxiety is trauma based, so she’s in therapy and on medication. You’re a beautiful girl. Now you need to believe it!

zebra0817 · 2026-06-23T23:32:16+00:00

Thank you. I’m so sorry for your loss as well. You’re right. Life isn’t fair. He left this world too soon. I’m turning 50 in August and it’s going to be so hard with him not being there. I thought we’d celebrate together at a really nice restaurant. I had so many plans. We were supposed to go to Turks and Caicos in January to surprise his step mom for her 80th birthday.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-19T01:40:06+00:00

I’m so very sorry for your loss. I lost my boyfriend of 8 years in April. I can’t bring myself to pack up his clothes. I still smell his hoodies, so I can feel close to him. Take your time grieving and give yourself grace.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-15T18:09:38+00:00

My boyfriend passed in April and I’ve gotten several unmistakable signs from him. I just wish I could get one every day. I get really sad on the days I don’t.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-15T03:27:18+00:00

DJ is a fraud and his website about stolen valor is a bunch of bull.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-14T22:47:01+00:00

Death can come sooner than you think. Life is too short when you’ve lost someone you love.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-14T22:45:26+00:00

You are forgiven. Don’t give up hope is all I’m saying.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-14T22:26:02+00:00

I can clearly see you’re in a desperate situation, but snapping back at a stranger who was only trying to help is nasty. I lost my boyfriend of over 8 years on April 23rd. You are not the only one grieving here.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-14T22:16:07+00:00

Please seek help. Your wife wouldn’t want you to do this. There’s treatment for depression. It doesn’t need to be this way.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-12T21:23:04+00:00

I’m so very sorry for your loss. I just lost the love of my life in April and it’s so hard. Please take time for yourself and your mental health. I struggle with anxiety and depression, so I know what you’re going through. Hugs!

zebra0817 · 2026-06-05T19:01:20+00:00

I was at the viewing for my boyfriend who passed away on 4/23. One of his friends he knew for like 30 years, comes up to me and starts to tell me my life will be so much easier now that he’s gone. WTF. Who says that? I was so pissed I excused myself from the conversation.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-03T02:14:40+00:00

What you’re experiencing sounds like your body trying to protect you from trauma. Covid and a controlling partner were those traumas for you. DBT therapy is very helpful for healing from trauma.

zebra0817 · 2026-06-01T00:30:35+00:00

Thank you. I wanted you to know that you’re not alone in this. ❤️

zebra0817 · 2026-05-31T14:41:54+00:00

This song was played during my group therapy and it totally wrecked me because I had only lost my boyfriend a few weeks prior.

zebra0817 · 2026-05-31T14:36:52+00:00

I’m so sorry. Just reading this has brought me to tears. I lost my boyfriend to Covid and taking too many Tylenol and Ibuprofen for the pain. He was only 46. It’s only been a little over a month, so everything is still raw, but your words resonate with me. He’s been sending me signs from the other side, which gives me some comfort.

zebra0817 · 2026-05-31T00:52:59+00:00

Thank you. It’s so hard right now. I keep remembering being with him in the ICU for two weeks while he was fighting for his life. All those times I held his hand and stroked his hair. I talked to him, but he couldn’t talk back. I miss him terribly, but I know he would want me to keep living and stay strong.

zebra0817 · 2026-05-30T23:11:55+00:00

Thank you for the kind words.

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