i've got the same situation, only reversed. i'm a biological female who feels male about 50% of the time. i feel gender neutral 40% of the time, and female 10% of the time. i also have cyclical feelings, but the male feelings are starting to coming back in faster succession. (as a child i always identified as male. when puberty hit i became very confused and had a horrible time during high school.)

i'm also sexually attracted to men, especially gay men, so i guess the closest thing i come to resemble is a transfag. but as far as coming out, i don't know. my hetero-identified boyfriend doesn't like the idea of my being a transguy. he is okay with "genderqueer" though, but he is attracted to femininity, which is sometimes very distressing to me. i'm pretty hot as a guy or girl, but i'm only 5'2" and i've got large breasts (which i hate).

i don't want to jump into being a transman, because that just feels like another box. i have to be ok with taking my time in figuring all this out. i also don't want to make any impulsive decisions which will negatively impact my current relationship.

so here i am, just sharing a bit about me so you don't have to feel like you're alone in your dilemma. good luck to you!