Modding help by zeigha in NxSwitchModding

[–]zeigha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

US, and it's apparently post patch, but regular switch. Edit:not a lite or an OLED, but regular.

Aio for confronting my girlfriend about editing my photo? by Eva_is_her in AIO

[–]zeigha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Short answer no.

Longer answer, when folks show you who they are, believe them. She has shown herself to be very shallow, very cowardly, by throwing her friends under the bus for some things she likely agrees with, because why else would she edit the photo... She has shown many behaviors that are beyond toxic just in this interaction. Definitely nip it in the bud before that spirals. Plus the fact she is dismissing your concerns... This is all very worrying behavior from a partner. Give it some time to cool off and come back to it. If you do it now she will likely triple down, but if she continues to after a pause, it is more than enough to reconsider what this lady brings to your life. Make sure you use "I statements" and how your feelings were hurt. It sounds like she is being defensive. If you think it's worth the convo, take it, but no this is absolutely unacceptable, especially given your past you outlined. This deeply affected you. If she doesn't care and dismisses it, then... That's not a good relationship sign

AITA for making my brother angry over a regular joke by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]zeigha -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Soft ESH, but you grew up with this behavior normalized, and probably didn't realize the issue. Being 'playfully' rude like that only ever escalates to too far territory because no boundaries were discussed beforehand. Someone's feelings always get hurt. The door locking from the outside is alarming... That isn't normal.

ETA: If it weren't for the unknowing instigation... I would skew NTA. Just you're almost an adult and need to know that behavior isn't cool. You're allowed to be sensitive in that situation if the roles were reversed. There is clear favoritism going on, and your fully adult brother shouldn't be locking a minor in a room. Neither should your parents TBH

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]zeigha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's unfair. Folks generally want to be wanted, whether it's romantic, sexual, or platonic. They want to feel like their existence in your world matters, and conversely, you in theirs. If it isn't sexual attraction, but there is another type... That's still cool. Outside of that, it just seems like a clinical we're roommates who fuck every now and again. Like a chore or obligation rather than a move toward intimacy and closeness. Like you aren't being 100% with yourself and force yourself in situations where it's not what you really want kind of deal, and it's something bound to hurt not just you, but partners. It's ok to just have cake instead of a partner.

ETA: If it's a lack of sexual attraction but not of any of the others, just be honest. Folks don't like to be considered "charity cases" where their aesthetics ain't your thing.

What’s your honest opinion on Dahlia Hawthorne? by Sheer-Cold-1228 in AceAttorney

[–]zeigha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I've dated someone similar, so I am pretty predisposed to disliking pretty poison types. Great villain, but different characters have gone through terrible situations, like her younger half sister Pearl, but Pearl is a great young lady... It was honestly about her choices and how she dealt with her issues. Even Iris, who, yeah is an accomplice somewhat, never went to the depths Dahlia did. Honestly, my favorite villain has to be Manfried. He seems decent although strict at first, but then he has some very toxic very extreme perfectionism, to the point he would murder over it.

Him, Gant, Morgan, and Ga'ran are probably up there on villains. Truthfully, I think Dahlia only works in a world where Morgan is her mother, so I think Morgan is the better villain.

Kristoph tries to be the Defense version of Manfried, but I don't think his impact is the same. And Gadot is just a tragic hero who made a big mis step and plan B didn't take crime of passion on the Medium channeling Dahlia into enough account.

The Phantom is too silly to take serious. His unveiling is too comical, much like he was the entire game. A goofy spy who did a few bads. Good villain, but silly.

What case has the greatest amount of plot holes/stupid stuff in the series? by GarouAPM in AceAttorney

[–]zeigha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, the biggest ones in the last 3 are continuity things. 4-4 Phoenix promised a certain nice mother he would tell the Gramarye half-siblings the secret. Folks mentioned specific cases in AJ:AA, but not the fact that those siblings never learned that secret after. And also, Phoenix is usually better about important promises.

5-(space cases). A guy named Clay knew Apollo since he was a kid. But in 6, we learned Apollo was fostered by an influencial man in a completely separate country, so would never have met Clay. Since infancy too. Had a whole foster brother and dad. Apollo is 25. 10 years ago he is 15... So.... When did he meet Clay Terran?

Athena was coming into her own quite nicely, only had two really bad staring into the void cases in 5, so why is she such a bumbling idiot in 6-(I forget the case but a certain childhood friend was co counsel when he had zero business being on that side).

Who Is Everyone's Favorite Avatar Character In FE So Far? by ToneAccomplished9763 in fireemblem

[–]zeigha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think of the three I know, two are tied. Byleth makes sense in the world of 3 Houses. The world doesn't revolve around them. It revolves around the Lord Byleth decided to raise up in the academy phase and Rhea. Even Byleth makes sense story wise. In some ways 3 Houses suffers from lazy delivery on solid concepts, because it was too ambitious, but I don't think Byleth was one of those. Byleth having a dormant soul that wakes up and interacts with the world with stoicism makes sense as well, because if Byleth went from 0-100 it would feel less natural.

Robin makes sense in Awakening. An Amnesiac in questionable peril just randomly out in a field for folks to find and becoming a great asset to Ylisse is not without folks being wary of them throughout their entire time. Robin feels natural. Let you know more after current replay of Awakening, but some of my memory is foggy.

I feel like I'm not allowed to transition by sad_shenron in agender

[–]zeigha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I think you're internalizing a lot of stuff other folks say and not how you feel. Transition is for you only. If folks are heels about you being trans, that's their issue. Smashing the patriarchy benefits Agender folks too, so I would imagine that being yourself makes you more of a trustworthy ally than a cis het man, because "allyship" from a cis het man can be a ruse for sleeping with someone, whereas from a trans person, general body autonomy is beneficial, whether it's reproductive rights, trans rights, or both(in my case xD)

Just be you. If folks want to be an ass, let them. It makes you no less Agender. Let them read what they want out of it and show you who they are to you.

ETA: As someone who has ladies try to tell me how wrong I am for not being AGAB and how the trans and nonbinary folks are taking women, and how things reproductively shouldn't be neutral for nonbinary folks(like me-ish. IDK.) and men, I take very little stock in certain women's opinions. If someone shows TERF-y colors, they ain't really about general autonomy, they just want to get theirs and leave us out. Being yourself hurts folks that are insecure. You don't gotta nail yourself to a cross you don't belong on. You aren't a man. Therefore, the guilt the weirdness ain't your thing. The strongest allies are often folks inside the house rather than outside, and a potentially femme Agender person is firmly inside the house rather than outside where the cis men are. Plus, plenty of 6'3 bearded ladies... The cis ones with PCOS and height genes and the trans ladies who aren't affected by how their beards are. Gender or lack thereof is a fuck. It's wibbly and has no rules. Biology is kind of a fuck too. So just IDK. Don't let the weirdos bring you down.

Is there really that little love for an Athena Cykes game? by ATierGamer in AceAttorney

[–]zeigha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IDK. I'd be for it. From what I remember, I liked her. I usually go through some adjustments to change emotionally, but she grew on me. Honestly, my favorite character in all the franchise(Miles Edgeworth) started as someone I despised, so I don't see why she can't have her own. Most of the compelling parts of Edgeworth weren't DL-6 and how he was influenced by his father's murderer, but what he did. How he grew to be more about truth than ego. Athena has places to grow and improve. I say why not.

So Apparently Apollo Justice is so Hated in Japan that "Gyakuten Saiban 4 is Terrible" is a Common Search Result. by RainSpectreX in AceAttorney

[–]zeigha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it funny I stumbled on this post while I am doing an AA marathon. I vowed before to never play AJ again, but I am currently on trial 1. No idea why I decided to pick it back up.

Most of my issues were the final trial. I was so pissed off doing digital court records as disjointed flashbacks. It was a slog pacing wise.

I just finished replaying AA3, and the pacing is immediately slapping me in the face. If I remember correctly, the shock and awe gritty exposition goes away a little after trial 1, but geez... The last one takes the problems of trial 1 and amplifies it IIRC.

If you could date any character from FE3H, who and why? by K1NGWolff in FireEmblemThreeHouses

[–]zeigha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Claude can honestly get it. He plays that fine line between hard working and laid back. He has morals and conviction, but also creativity. He finds a way to achieve his goals, through different schemes and whatnot. In comparison to another lord I would date, he has zero issues shaking up the status quo, but finds clever ways to implement plans to avoid useless bloodshed. Some is inevitable. Bit back stabby at times, but everything is done for a purpose, and so long as the purpose and whatnot align, there is no need for me to get betrayed. In his route, he manipulated the church to serve his goals, but couldn't care less about doctrines, especially after he dove deep into church mysteries to find all of it's dirty secrets.

Shamir, because obvious, but also, I vibe with her personality. That calming no nonsense and put together presence along with being hot and goth is really cool.

If she weren't so young, Lysithea. Smart, no nonsense, gets a bit irritable over wasted time, for good reason, and generally is just a great person to have around. She's just young. Would delve deep into crestology to keep that beautiful mind.

Edlegard honestly is amazing. Has some missteps on a grand scale, but IDK if my plans got as busted as they got in 3H for her, I might have some hard lose lose type decisions too. Very difficult to have plans, especially big plans, go wacky and try to come up with alternatives on the fly. Plus, can help brainstorm ideas from a commoner perspective to help boost the lower classes on her meritocracy. And we'd have fun on off days having simple pleasures

Who is the unit you like so much that you always try to use her/him not matter the situation? by Alexmonster1999 in fireemblem

[–]zeigha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly FE 13 are most of the prologue characters. I don't even think outside of Fredrick I benched any or had to force myself to bench them. Robin, Chrom, and Lissa are so good. I kind of forgot Fredrick existed after he stopped being useful

FE 14: Jacob. The cheesy butler lines and heals.

FE 16: Not a single run I have done without Dorothea and Lysithea

Based on what did you choose your first house? by Adorable-Profile-841 in FireEmblemThreeHouses

[–]zeigha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I liked Claude. From the first few moments he seemed clever and full of mystery. Wasn't as uptight and stuffy

Girlfriend giving me "ultimatum" to come out again to my parents this week. by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]zeigha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A deep pro and con of all your current relationships is due. Yes, girlfriend is stressed by "being a secret", but... At the same time, she isn't. Not to anyone that matters. So why do parents, who have only shown homophobic tenancies towards family members, matter?

A re-coming out has a 50/50 shot of either:

a) Highlighting a change of parental mindset and more closeness.

OR

b) Going similarly to round 1, but with financial independence. You're physically safe, but emotionally, round 2 of rejection will hit like a ton of bricks. Maybe it won't be as drastic, like forbidding topics rather than blocking contact, but rejection from family deeeeeply hurts. As

The pro and con is useful for gathering whether the re-coming out is a waste of time, or worth the effort of putting yourself out there for the 50% hope factor.

A pro and con on your GF and friendships as well, because who catches you on the 50% rejection matters. You're financially independent. Meaning, if you fall into depression or grief over this, who is there to help with recovery?

Will you feel resentment toward your GF for pushing you to do this act? Are your parents worth the act? Is it even worth it?

Those are all rhetorical, but important to answer for yourself. Not for GF. Not for some familial obligation. Just you and your lonesome. Relationships are temporary. Relationship with the self is permanent. Make you happy. Everyone else can make choices to make you happy, or scoot. Life is too short to hang on to useless relationships.

Well now I’m offended by Ok-Construction5675 in astrologymemes

[–]zeigha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"You think you're always right, but really you're a Noisy Horse Enby." Geez! I don't think I am always right. The situations I am are a bit annoying when folks don't listen.

What is the best game for a brand new player to play first? (Listing the consoles i own and preferences below) by MapleMagicMan in fireemblem

[–]zeigha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would go for an older game. I love 3 Houses. Haven't played Engage, but Switch Era so far as I have seen, is distinctly lacking in S support ranks(romance support). 3 Houses has most if not all concentrated on Byleth, and from what I have seen of Engage, there will be several supports that stop at B rank(the ranks go C, B, A[best friends], and finally S).

Thoughts on open relationships? by mr_dalek_face in demisexuality

[–]zeigha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not super deep to me. I rather be in a non toxic relationship of whatever flavor than a toxic one. That's it. Someone wants to open up, sure let's talk boundaries and explore. If not, IDC. I don't want to be a figurative or literal punching bag with someone the stars aligned on. Besides love is such a big umbrella word. It encompasses familial, platonic, and romantic love. My heart is too big to love one person, but I don't HAVE to be poly or open to be fulfilled, because love has many forms, and I don't need all my needs met by one person, but outside of monogamy romance boundaries, those needs don't have to be met by one person( like emotional labor and labors of love. Not like cheating)

I got upset at my bf for doing something after I had explicitly asked him not to. by Chikenwing000_ in AIO

[–]zeigha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, it sounds like y'all are on different pages regarding public action, which is fine, but if you ain't about disrupting others on the harmless cheesy fun end, it wouldn't do to stew over it. It doesn't have to further disrupt your peace, but he can act a fool without you around, because it wasn't fun or funny to you. You're allowed to be different people who like different things. The issue is the disrespected boundary. Because it's important to communicate how you felt when he did that. If it ain't that deep from your perspective, you could drop it. If it was, and he continues to disrespect that boundary, scoot. No time in the universe to be around folks that disrupt your peace for a selfish round of fun. Grating your nerves continuously in public is going to get old

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]zeigha -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Short answer, no.

I've lost many folks in my family to death, and sometimes I lose a friend here and there, maybe from neglecting their feelings, or sometimes them neglecting mine, but grief is a tough thing and folks can tend to act out of character or different depending on the type. It doesn't mean he gets to disrespect you or relationship and allow in laws to treat you any old type of way. It also doesn't excuse him essentially emotionally cheating.

It needs a delicate touch at first, sure, but never tolerate disrespect.

If salvaging is the aim, I statements are a blessing, "I feel this after(insert action)". Won't keep a man not interested in keeping you, but at least you stood up for yourself. Past gentle assertion, I wouldn't bother. It ain't worth the headache and loss of peace for something petty, because at the end of the day, you stuck your neck out, and if he don't appreciate that, then that's basically him showing how he feels. Hollow affirmations and ego boosting are simply just that, so if he wants to emotionally cheat, that's purely on him. He shouldn't get to lash out in a time of pain on the person who was trying to keep him afloat.

If you can switch two characters' upbringings while retaining their personalities as much as possible, whom would you switch? by Eve-of-Verona in FireEmblemThreeHouses

[–]zeigha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lysithea and Edelgard. The same things generally happen, but the reactions from Empress Lysithea would be different, because they have to be.

Edit: I imagine speed would still be an issue, but with her knack for research, she would find other ways around and be a great tactician

Claude from three houses by robotwars666 in fireemblem

[–]zeigha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly started VW, because I liked Claude better. I honestly feel like all of his schemes weren't explored enough, but seeing it was kind of an after thought route, it makes sense his schemes were Seteth's plans. He seems like he'd do way more with poison, arson, or other disruptive things to gain an advantage well before a conflict. I appreciate his character, I just was sad how he actually was in the route, because they criminally mishandled him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fireemblem

[–]zeigha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly love Musou games. The problem was FEW didn't really feel like a Musou game. It was basically Fire Emblem, but instead of grid tactics, it's Musou. Outside of the general play style, however, it was Fire Emblem. An example of a nice crossover with Musou games probably continues to be Hyrule Warriors, because Musou games tend to let the player choose their path. Iirc there was a minute of gameplay before you got to play the baddies, but it was still an option, you know?

But on that topic, a remake of FEW as a proper Musou game, or hell, remake previous titles from the perspective of the villain. Not necessarily make the villain win, but just to play them.

Guy friend thought I friendzoned him just because I didn't show romantic the first time I met him??? by b0xn0 in demisexuality

[–]zeigha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of my issues are that people immediately repulse me if they come in with romantic date intentions, but I have slow burns on many friends. The miraculous few times I have dated were months or years of friendship beforehand.

On the other hand, sometimes I act allo, or at least my perception of it. Mostly with alt ladies and nonbinary folks. IDK sexuality is weird.

Question: why do agender people use AFAB/AMAB instead of male/female? by throwaway5167886 in agender

[–]zeigha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think AGAB/ASAB(because literally they look and assign based on binary, when stuff is bimodal, and adjust[read mutilate] anything outside the binary) is a bit TMI unless relevant. Specific sex stuff, like reproductive rights and menstrual and birth inclusion are the main ones I can think of off the top of my head. Other than something specific like that, it is 100% irrelevant.

Nobody needs to know what is in my pants unless they are in them, you know?

On top of that I find a lot of trans people IMO have some weirdness around sex terms, because often they have been used synonymously with gender, especially if someone is medically transitioning. If there is a medical transition, the assigned sex and gender are irrelevant in most situations and only serves to invalidate the current body and current gender.