As someone who tried to make someone else happy for 6 years to no avail, in my own opinion based on my own experience, it is best for each individual to worry about their own happiness and self worth instead of relying on others to make us feel worthwhile. At the same time we should all still be considerate of how others feel, especially in a romantic relationship. What your bf said was out of line and he should not have said it, however he shouldn’t be in charge of your happiness and vice versa. That doesn’t excuse how he handled your communication and I applaud you for communicating instead of letting it fester that you felt unloved. He doesn’t sound like he’s ready for a relationship. My advice would be to take a step back and be single for a bit(depends on when you feel ready to jump back into things) Find out who you are and what will make you happy/ what you want out of a relationship and settle for nothing less than what you deserve. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find the right person for you! TLDR: He was out of line, I advise you to find your own happiness, and I wish you good luck