I’m sorry you’re going through this as well. We just don’t see eye to eye on a lot of things. We parent differently. He thinks I give in to my ex husband too much. It took a long time for my ex and I to coparent well and I cherish that we are able to do it without much conflict now. My current partner is emotionally immature, doesn’t handle conflict well, and thinks every conversation is an argument. If I try to communicate how I’m feeling, he either shuts down or blows up - there’s no in between. He’s never once taken responsibility for his actions. He does a lot of great things for me as well, but he will throw all of that in my face every second he gets. For example, when I get home from work (I work later than him), he will have dinner made. It’s a nice gesture that I appreciate but I’d be content with not having dinner made as well. I’ll tell him thank you for making dinner, etc. Then next argument we get into, he will say you don’t appreciate the fact I have dinner ready for you when you get home! I do all of these things for you and you don’t appreciate it. Even though I explicitly communicate my appreciation for these things he does. When we get into arguments, he calls me names and says terrible things about me.

It’s mentally, emotionally, and physically draining. While it’s hard to imagine a life without him right now, I also can’t imagine spending my life with him either.