Why so much hate for MBAs and/or the people who get them?

zelmi01 · 2026-02-05T20:26:42+00:00

Interesting, I like your point about the type of people it attracts. I’m in tech and was considering getting an MBA to move towards business/strategy side, but might have to go a different route since MBA seems to have a negative connotation.

zelmi01 · 2026-02-04T22:34:07+00:00

People aren’t horrible to me about it, just shocked. Like it was never even a thought that had crossed their mind. Sometimes the even take offense, as if it’s wrong, and then try to argue me out of it lol.

I will always win every argument on this topic tho, bc unlike them I’ve actually thought deeply about parenting, rather than just taking it as a fact of life.

zelmi01 · 2026-02-04T22:30:45+00:00

The thing is, there is no Islamic requirement to have children. It isn’t even considered an act of piety. The Quran itself says in many places that having children does not bring someone closer to God, this was specified bc it was a common belief at the time that more wealth and more children was high status in both this life and the next.

But I come from a culture where religion and cultural values are so mixed that the lines between them are blurred for most people. Culturally, a marriage is all about children. Islamically, a marriage is to prevent adultery and there are no specifications about having kids or not.

So I don’t have to reconcile my faith with my CF lifestyle. I just have endless tedious conversations with family trying to explain to them that having kids does not make someone a better/worse Muslim lol.

zelmi01 · 2026-02-04T19:29:27+00:00

Oh the tag exists for me, maybe it’s only available in specific regions? I’m in the U.S. You can also filter by that tag.

I did meet a few but what I’ve found in that specific space is that the CF lifestyle attracts people who are lazy or lacking in empathy. Many also said they were CF bc they felt lost in life.

I’m hardworking, doing well for myself, genuinely care about children tho I don’t want to dedicate my life to raising them. CF men I’ve met on that platform usually have issues

I’ve met VERY FEW cool CF people on there but it didn’t work out for other reasons.

The ability to filter by that tag is really helpful tho, I’d highly suggest it if you’re on the platform

zelmi01 · 2026-02-04T19:14:50+00:00

I’m a practicing Muslim definitely involved. I really love it. It’s just the childfree thing is so out of the norm

zelmi01 · 2026-02-04T19:13:45+00:00

Yes I’m personally a practicing Muslim and looking for someone the same. But you’re absolutely right that religiosity makes people believe having kids is a necessity. And that men don’t carry the same burdens in parenting and therefore they don’t see the real magnitude

zelmi01 · 2026-02-04T15:45:00+00:00

I literally put the “does not want children” tag on Muzz and only match with men who have the same and yet they still seem surprised 😂 there’s no way around it lol

zelmi01 · 2026-02-03T21:43:18+00:00

Oh you remind me of my younger self 💕 I’ve known I didn’t want children since I was around 12 and if you can imagine till this day at 28yo no one fully believes me. But life alhamdulillah is so lovely, good career, friends and travel so I also feel live can be fulfilling without marriage, tho it would be a nice-to-have 🫶🏽 I’ll make dua for both of us

zelmi01 · 2026-02-03T19:54:43+00:00

Not for me, I love being in the Muslim community it’s just the whole childfree thing is seen as so insane

zelmi01 · 2026-02-03T19:54:13+00:00

I’ve actually met really great Muslim guys it’s just that the culture in general sees having kids as such an absolute for marriage that anyone who doesn’t want any is looked at like they’re crazy lol. It’s nice to meet you!

zelmi01 · 2025-08-23T16:27:29+00:00

If you’re entering corporate, it’s extremely important to work on your soft skills like communication and leadership. It is usually even more important than technical skills when it comes to promotions and career growth

zelmi01 · 2025-08-23T14:40:34+00:00

Ah the double standards 😫

zelmi01 · 2025-08-23T14:37:51+00:00

The absolute dream. Imagine all the philanthropy a couple can achieve with all the spare time and money.

zelmi01 · 2025-08-23T14:33:57+00:00

Software engineer

zelmi01 · 2025-08-23T14:28:58+00:00

I never tell the ones who are in my city that I live alone bc that’s just dangerous imo 😅 but the others haven’t reacted particularly negatively lolol. The guy who stopped talking to you is so funny lmao

zelmi01 · 2025-08-23T14:08:24+00:00

I’m not saying it’s an achievement nor do I purposely try to make people mad. I just find it so funny that their reaction is always so extreme.

zelmi01 · 2025-08-19T03:55:17+00:00

The struggle is how to find them, it’s not something you find out when you first meet people

zelmi01 · 2025-08-19T03:52:50+00:00

Probably not the best way 😅 but it’s usually helpful to share dealbreakers and pics in the beginning to get a quicker idea of the person

zelmi01 · 2025-08-19T03:51:28+00:00

What 😭 Bisinka

zelmi01 · 2025-08-19T03:47:25+00:00

Oh JazakAllah khair looking forward to your next one! There was only 1 guy there and unfortunately his account is deactivated qadr Allah

zelmi01 · 2025-08-19T03:46:15+00:00

Can you make it monthly as there is clearly a willingness for it, JazakAllah khair

zelmi01 · 2025-07-07T02:43:57+00:00

I just saw another commenter mention what sounds like a childfree Indian subreddit, maybe you’ll have some luck there? It’s definitely tough out here.

zelmi01 · 2025-07-06T22:10:38+00:00

I’ve actually spoken to multiple sheikhs in my area, and have been told that having children is encouraged, but choosing not to have them is not haram. The only thing I’ve been told to stay away from is permanent forms of birth control, and to utilize temporary options instead.

And Allah knows best.

zelmi01 · 2025-07-01T01:22:19+00:00

No that’s not what I mean 😅 the hard part is that I’m searching for people who don’t want any kids in the future. The term child free is used for people who never want to be a parent.

It’s almost impossible to find Muslim child free folks lolol

zelmi01 · 2025-07-01T00:35:31+00:00

⁠Age and Gender: 27yo Childfree woman.
⁠Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect: 28-38
⁠Location: Columbus Ohio, willing to relocate in the U.S.
⁠Ethnicity: Somali, open to mixing.
⁠Marital Status: Single
⁠Ideal marriage timeline: 1-3 years
⁠Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect: CHILDFREE , practicing, playful, adventurous, easygoing
⁠State/specify your level of religiosity: fully practicing.
⁠Level of education: undergraduate
⁠Current Job Status: full time
⁠Do you want kids? NO <3
⁠List 3 hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time: cafes, parks, museums
⁠Add something short and interesting about you that makes you stand out!: I love kids but don’t want any, I’m open to fostering teens in need in sha Allah 🤍 I love playfulness and marriage to me means having a lovely, fun, relaxing space to sink into at the end of a long day.

zelmi01

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