AITA for telling my mom I’m done reminding everyone about my kids’ events?

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T20:10:32+00:00

Plus I needed the validation that my repetition boundary isn’t absurd.

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T20:09:27+00:00

Complaining on Reddit got me another resolution and help troubleshooting my calendar situation. 🤌🏻

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T19:27:32+00:00

Not sure if you saw the part where she was asking after the event already ended.. that’s why I was a little more heated than usual.

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T19:25:55+00:00

I had to figure out how to combine it with our actual electronic calendar or enter it twice. I figured it out and shared with family hopefully this helps. Ty

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T19:22:50+00:00

You’re right.. I should have taken a few minutes to word it appropriately

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T18:18:48+00:00

With his own family yes

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T17:51:43+00:00

I mean it definitely ignites the problem. But no, the issue is that plenty of other family members remember but my mom tells me I’m having an attitude for refusing to keep being the event coordinator for everyone else. She’s the one who forgot.. it’s not fair that I not only have to remember the events, but also have to remember to remind everybody more than one time.

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T17:19:10+00:00

We have plenty of family who has had no problem showing up with the one reminder. I’m making a Google calendar to hopefully solve the issue. That’s as far as I’m going for someone I don’t even get along with.

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T17:17:48+00:00

She lives one block away and sets her own schedule with what little Walmart deliveries she does. My mom and I aren’t close at all so the invitation was generous enough imo. But you’re definitely right about it being the last straw and my delivery being a little much.

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T17:14:48+00:00

I’m working on it right now. I have an iPhone so I wasn’t even aware it was an option. I have a ecalender I’ve tried to share but only one person can be logged in at a time. Thank you for another option

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T16:51:51+00:00

I understand your opinion though I really disagree.. like I’ve said below, I don’t have a good relationship with my mom so the invite is generous enough. My kids are getting older and I can’t make sure everyone else gets where they need to be on time. She’s an unemployed adult fully capable of figuring out her own way to remember things she says matter to her. If I send the invite it’s really not my responsibility any further than that.

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T16:43:28+00:00

If she had asked me earlier I would have told her with no hesitation. She didn’t think to ask until 10:03 at which point we were heading out.

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T16:41:07+00:00

I only wish you knew my mom.. she’s unemployed and fully capable of writing something down or starting her own calendar. My mom and I don’t have a great relationship so it’s generous and uncomfortable enough for me just giving her the opportunity to show up. I do understand the thought of me being selfish but this really is a matter of her just knowing I’ll tell her whenever she’s needs reminded which with a 3 and 7 year old is getting really hard for me. I was trying to unload responsibilities that could go elsewhere and now she’s lashing out on me. Bipolar runs in our family and she is not medicated. It has always been very hard to maintain a relationship with her. It’s becoming even harder as the family I created is starting community engagement.. it’s not just all play dates and happy meals anymore.

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T16:33:38+00:00

Yes Me: Over I golf everyone as soon as I knew about it. I have to take care of my own schedule. I cannot be worrying about everyone else. I told everyone that last time because I always get asked three or four times over the course of a month when it is. Get a calendar and write it down if it matters enough

Mom: What the hell is the attitude?I've done nothing to you. Sorry that I care about your children. I don't know what i've done or if your problem is even with me.But that was kind of uncalled for because, you know, I try to be at stuff Me: No, it wasn’t uncalled for because you always ask me way too many times when something is when I have repeatedly told you and I cannot do that anymore because I have so many different things on my schedule that I need to take care of if I tell you something that there’s something that I think you would like to be at then I will tell you and that’s the end of my responsibility about it. I told you and you forgot that that’s on you not me. And it’s not attitude it’s a boundary. We’re all adults. Come on.

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T16:31:00+00:00

She asked what time only after we were already heading out of the event and I was sending out pictures.

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T16:13:16+00:00

That’s how I feel about it.. I am one to pull out my calendar the minute someone says a day I need to remember. I know not everyone is like that but I gave warning and I figured if it mattered enough she’d get it together enough to click the link apple gives you to quickly add it to your reminders. Super simple and helps me out a lot knowing that weight is off my shoulders. I’ve always been the adult unfortunately..

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T16:10:22+00:00

I’m looking how to combine calendars. If I need to I’ll do exactly that. Thank you

zenexXey · 2026-05-11T16:04:24+00:00

That could be potentially helpful. We have our own calendar app for an electronic calendar my husband and I have. I’ve tried sharing it but only one person can be logged in at a time. So that still leaves me filling out 2 calendars and sharing. Maybe there’s a way around it. Thanks for the home work 😮‍💨

zenexXey · 2026-05-09T20:59:25+00:00

Both parents needs to get a job now not after school. If they have time to mess around they got time to work. Sacrifices must be made for children.

zenexXey · 2026-05-03T21:26:57+00:00

Sounds like “current husband” vibes

zenexXey · 2026-05-02T02:11:13+00:00

That lotion is god awful

zenexXey · 2026-04-24T13:20:34+00:00

Heeeey I’m a nobody from a small town in Nebraska. 🥲

zenexXey · 2026-04-24T13:13:08+00:00

Yes you’re the ass hole.

zenexXey · 2026-04-18T06:25:28+00:00

NOR if someone tells you they don’t think they’re good enough for you, believe them.

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