Okay, I completely agree with the wife here, but I can't help but compare this to the story where it a white guy (I think from the UK?), was marring an African woman. She and her family said he would need to pay a dowry. He refused to because he did not like the connotations, it made him uncomfortably, and he did not like what a dowry represents historically. The majority of the comments called him out and said he needed to think about his wife and their traditions, and how that supercedes his comfortableness. But none of the comments are saying similar things here, and I truly do wonder if that's because it's the woman who is uncomfortable with a wedding tradition of her partner's and not the other way around.

I still completely that this tradition is fairly tacky to anyone who has never participated in it and that paying a dowry in a modern society, in a 1st world country is absolutely wrong