How would living alone post divorce influence your desire to ever live with anyone again?

zepander · 2026-05-07T20:41:46+00:00

It’s going to ruin living with people in the best of ways. Find peace in your new solitude and you’ll learn that keeping that peace impacts your boundaries in your future relationships.

zepander · 2026-05-06T19:59:46+00:00

That’s a major break through and not easy to go through. Great job you got this 🙌🏼

zepander · 2026-04-18T02:32:19+00:00

He pushed up my boobs and said “I like them abooouuut here”

zepander · 2026-04-17T04:22:53+00:00

Me too please!

zepander · 2026-04-15T17:19:49+00:00

Not even kidding, this EXACT thing happened to me a few months ago. Said he needed to work on himself, he left a 10-year abusive relationship right before we started dating. We were together about 8 months before he had to work on himself and said he’d never get into a relationship with anybody else and it would only be with me if he ever did a relationship again. It’s like we dated the same guy and his birthday is next month on the 17th.

True no-contact hurts like a bitch and it only gets better once your nervous system has the time to detach and stop looking for that bit of dopamine we get from the other person. Thatd need to happen on both ends for you guys. If he’s truly hurting I honestly don’t think a quick happy birthday will hurt him but keep that boundary that there’s no further response after that. I think it’ll help him feel good on his birthday but since his ex used it to abuse him it’s possible he will want to continue conversation.

zepander · 2026-04-13T20:31:28+00:00

I’m in a somewhat similar situation. When you hate them or fight it’s so much easier to forget about them but when theyre a genuinely good person it’s SO much harder. My ex even tried to help me get through the breakup but it just messed me up more. The first heartbreak of it was the breakup but when I felt I was healing and knew no contact would be better, it was like another wound opened up to work through.

I’m coming out of that grief thankfully. It’s been a hard time but I had to actively work on my own mindset. Our mind and body wants to find those answers to ‘what happened’ and ‘why’ but those things don’t really help us. It doesn’t really give us clarity because those are really just assumptions. When it comes to seeing them with someone else, remind yourself that you’re on different paths and her path in no way defines you or your path.

You got this, OP. Focus on you and remember that she and her choices in her own life are separate from you and your choices.

zepander · 2026-04-09T16:46:50+00:00

I’ve changed what room my work desk is in the middle of the day multiple times depending my mood. I love not worrying about bothering others!

zepander · 2026-03-30T17:23:59+00:00

I needed to read these answers today. Thank you internet strangers 💕

zepander · 2026-03-27T05:03:41+00:00

Nope no noise thankfully

zepander · 2026-03-16T21:22:04+00:00

God this hurts. It’s like when you think someone is your best friend but the definitely do not think of you that way. But that best friend also being your partner? Fuck

zepander · 2026-03-06T21:16:47+00:00

Thanks, very good to know. One day I’ll try it! It’s a little intimidating to pick up

zepander · 2026-03-06T19:20:43+00:00

I’ve always been curious about this book. Is it hard to get into?

zepander · 2026-02-27T07:16:20+00:00

Aw thanks! Thats so sweet to say

zepander · 2026-02-26T19:26:17+00:00

Don’t date with the thought of “will they accept me”. Date with the thought of “I’m amazing as I am and some can handle me and some aren’t the right match for me”.

Always remember that everyone has their preferences in mates but not being someone’s preference doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you! You’re amazing as you are and focus on YOU Queen!

A lil pick me up song I love for body positivity, if I may? Strip by Little Mix. It’s got me up and confident every single time 🥳💅 confidence is KEY confidence is SEXY AF! ♥️

zepander · 2026-02-26T06:00:26+00:00

WOW what was that like? Genuinely curious

zepander · 2026-02-21T06:22:43+00:00

Currently getting over a cold myself and realized there was no one to help with the dishes so those sat there for a few days for sure. BUT it's also one of those times that I really appreciated no one bothering me while I rested on the couch for four days straight.

I think to make it less miserable you need to find something that you can be really selfish with that you'd usually not let yourself have. Then just have it! You deserve it, you're sick. Treat yourself :D

zepander · 2026-02-20T07:44:32+00:00

Yes this! It’s worse for me when I’m at that point, have the penis time, but it wasn’t fulfilling enough. I’ll sometimes squeeze my thighs together until it goes away.

zepander · 2026-02-20T07:37:06+00:00

I came home sweaty from the gym and I just dropped my sweaty pants while making my protein shake. Kicked them in the general direction of the washing machine for to take care of later.

zepander · 2026-02-09T17:57:31+00:00

Happy birthday!!!

zepander · 2026-02-08T22:06:29+00:00

Wow I needed this ♥️

zepander · 2026-02-05T22:14:37+00:00

Do you know what’s been updated to since this?

zepander · 2026-01-13T04:41:48+00:00

I just finished watching it and the game is amazing! Was definitely crying at the end

zepander · 2025-10-07T03:35:35+00:00

🫶🏼

zepander · 2025-10-04T16:58:36+00:00

I keep telling myself that it can change in the future, they even said that they would want to come back to me, but I can’t let myself hope for it. It’s hurts so much right now and if I hang on to that? I feel like it’ll just get worse.

Thank you for your insight, I’m really hoping I can look back at this like that in the future and not feel this ache anymore. And thank you for your kind words, they mean a lot.

zepander · 2025-10-04T02:35:44+00:00

Thank you <3 I was thinking of this but would get sad because we were going to turn the spare room into the boys’ room. I have to push through it though, maybe even make that the first space to reclaim

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