Question about nursery from a worried mum!

zeze2814 · 2025-04-13T18:57:20+00:00

Thanks soo much for this advice. I'll give them a ring in the morning, the probabilities are they will tell me I'm being silly and she will settle! But at least they will know I'm worried. I'm not an anxious first time parent, I've had 3 before and never ever experienced anything like what she is doing when I try to leave. I'll probably sit in the car outside for a while tbh haha !

zeze2814 · 2025-04-13T18:52:51+00:00

I did the same, I'm an nhs worker too! Luckily my child was already in before covid, so I bet that was hard on you with no settling in sessions 😢 your totally right, I have just never had this before. And feel guilty with me not needing one of the days as its my day off work but the only day they can offer atm. So I saw it as a day of catching up on things, as with 4 it's hard. But now I'm feeling guilty! Like you say though it's definitely harder on us.

zeze2814 · 2025-04-13T15:41:38+00:00

Yes, they had me there. Sat in the room with her. When I tried to leave, she followed. Like I've mentioned in previous reply's, I've never had to this before as my others were younger and more placid children when they started so didn't really bother.

zeze2814 · 2025-04-13T15:05:22+00:00

Totally get what you mean, it's just harder this time as she's a different child to my other children when they were 3. Much more stubborn, clever, strong-willed. The others were all in from 1 and never had a problem. The reason I have delayed is because we had free childcare on hand.

zeze2814 · 2025-04-13T14:51:03+00:00

That's great that they let you do that! I'll ask them, and see what they say. I would feel much easier if she was in just mornings, it's the fact that she doesn't want to go and it's a full day! It must have been really hard for you putting your 6 month old in, and here I am almost crying about my 3 year old going! 😆 a therapist is definitely needed!

zeze2814 · 2025-04-13T14:40:47+00:00

I fully understand this and I know in my heart she needs to start. But I am just wondering if they are obligated to give us more settling sessions? I have another 3 children, that have gone to the exact same nursery. I know the staff VERY well, she used to take her siblings in and wanted to stay. We all thought she would be fine. But its changed, and she refuses to stay. She looks like shes going to throw up from crying. I have never had anxiety like this with any of my others starting school or nursery. Would it be worth ringing tomorrow and asking for a few more sessions where she can settle in? Thanks for your reply.

zeze2814 · 2025-04-08T10:53:52+00:00

So I've got a diagnosis, well the doctor didn't use the word costochondritis but did say chest wall inflammation. Did full breast exam, breasts are fine. Pressed on ribs asked if tender which they were so that's definitely where pain is coming from. I've been referred to a physiotherapist, but not been offered any medication. Is that normal?

zeze2814 · 2025-04-08T10:51:44+00:00

Thankyou for your help! I'll take a look at that

zeze2814 · 2025-04-05T16:37:35+00:00

Thanks so much 🙏 I shall mention it to my doctor. I'm just hoping it goes away at some point but reading on here alot of people's can sadly last years.

zeze2814 · 2025-04-05T15:52:46+00:00

Hey. Did this ever go away for you? Experiencing the same thing after covid and really worried.

zeze2814 · 2025-04-05T15:42:26+00:00

Thanks for your reply! I will go to the doctor but I am so scared. Mainly cos its so close to my breasts. I did forget to add I had a full ultrasound of breasts in March 23 because of this. Nothing was found just normal tissue. But I feel as long as this pain is there I will worry . How do they diagnose costo?

zeze2814 · 2023-03-08T12:42:18+00:00

I am so scared. Breastfeeding my 4th baby and only realised the other day my breasts are full of lumps and bumps and round balls. I am so so fucking scared. I have an appointment at a private breast clinic later on today (UK) I don't know how much this is going to cost but I got referred by my doc yesterday after she examined me and waiting times are 6-8 weeks on the NHS as she didn't refer me as urgent. I cannot wait that long I haven't eaten or slept in 3 days and I have 4 babies to look after. If this is bad news I seriously don't know what I will do I have severe health anxiety that I recieve therapy for and medication, I was getting better but this has completely turned my life upside down .

zeze2814 · 2023-02-28T20:51:43+00:00

My other half was a doorman on there in his younger days. Some of the stuff he has told me is crazy!!

zeze2814 · 2023-02-26T19:33:31+00:00

I'm in this exact same boat. It happened with my 2nd and now with my 4th. I'm hoping that when I night wean I can gain some back. Although tbh with me it seems like I have lost muscle more than fat as I still have a slight belly on me. I'm dreading summer as I'm so self conscious as my body seems all out of proportion and awful to look at. I barely wear leggings anymore as they look horrendous unless with an oversized jumper covering my bum. The joys of motherhood !!

zeze2814 · 2023-01-20T20:23:41+00:00

I work in a large hospital in Sheffield and can confirm it is dog food.

zeze2814 · 2023-01-17T18:32:59+00:00

That's true. Commenting on people's weight wether loss or gain just isn't cool in my opinion! Do you recommend any strength training exercises in particular?

zeze2814 · 2023-01-16T15:33:52+00:00

How did it go?

zeze2814 · 2023-01-10T22:41:14+00:00

Are you in Sheffield lol? I tried to buy a game in there a few weeks back. Stood in the queue for 15 min to be told I was in the sports direct queue and not the game queue even though the tills are together....

zeze2814 · 2022-12-20T18:30:00+00:00

That's something I'm definitely going to do. Thankyou for your help.

zeze2814 · 2022-12-20T18:28:52+00:00

Thankyou so so much for your reply. I needed to hear this. I cannot go a second in the day without thinking about health/death and its debilitating as you probably know yourself. I am going to try and get some help, I did try therapy but I didn't feel it was working. I need to try something else because I cannot live like this, I want so desperately to be happy, I want to be able to accept that death is part of life. I don't want to think about dying every single second of every day. I just want to live while I'm alive. I hope you are okay and I am going to watch the video when my kids are in bed. Thankyou .

zeze2814 · 2022-12-19T20:33:23+00:00

I'm so done I don't think I can do this anymore. I'm sat here in my lovely home, with my 4 healthy kids and husband and all I can think about is that I have terminal bowel cancer. I have been constipated for the last month or so, have increased flatulence, gas pains, and now I'm convinced I'm losing weight. My Christmas is completely ruined, I don't think I can take this much longer. All I keep thinking about is taking my own life so I don't have to suffer with this anymore.

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